Unpopular Opinions/ Pet Peeves - October

a13049

HisGirlFriday13 said:

Unpopular opinion(s): 

* I hate the movie 'The Princess Bride.' I think it's overdone, trite, and stupid.

* I do not understand Disney themed weddings or honeymoons. To me, Disney is for kids, not for grown-ups. If you want an Ariel and Cinderella-theme wedding, IMHO, you're not old enough to get married.

Pet peeve(s)

* I don't get the sudden need for matching stationary. Your STDates don't have to match your invites don't have to match your thank-you cards. They should be on the same level of formality, yes, but they don't all have to be custom-made to match. No one notices, or cares.

* I would rather have a prompt thank-you note than a late thank-you that includes a photo of the happy couple. In the day and age of FB, I can see what you all looked like on your wedding day. Just thank me for the gift and we can all move on.

Yes, all of this!!!!


UO-
I don't mind ppd at all. If you are lieing about it, and expecting tons of gifts, sure I get that is rude. Why do some people get so bothered by people dressing up and repeating or redoing their wedding day? If you don't like them, don't go, otherwise why does it really matter. (No I am not having a ppd). JMO.

Pet peeves- strangers who touch my baby, I don't know where you damn hands have been!

Jells2dot0

a13049 said:

Unpopular opinion(s): 

* I hate the movie 'The Princess Bride.' I think it's overdone, trite, and stupid.

* I do not understand Disney themed weddings or honeymoons. To me, Disney is for kids, not for grown-ups. If you want an Ariel and Cinderella-theme wedding, IMHO, you're not old enough to get married.

Pet peeve(s)

* I don't get the sudden need for matching stationary. Your STDates don't have to match your invites don't have to match your thank-you cards. They should be on the same level of formality, yes, but they don't all have to be custom-made to match. No one notices, or cares.

* I would rather have a prompt thank-you note than a late thank-you that includes a photo of the happy couple. In the day and age of FB, I can see what you all looked like on your wedding day. Just thank me for the gift and we can all move on.

Yes, all of this!!!! UO- I don't mind ppd at all. If you are lieing about it, and expecting tons of gifts, sure I get that is rude. Why do some people get so bothered by people dressing up and repeating or redoing their wedding day? If you don't like them, don't go, otherwise why does it really matter. (No I am not having a ppd). JMO. Pet peeves- strangers who touch my baby, I don't know where you damn hands have been!

I'm not personally offended by PPDs, but having one is essentially saying that my (or any) low key, private, small wedding was "not good enough." Again, I don't care what anyone thinks of my wedding or if they think it wasn't "princess-y" enough, but I always see comments on here that someone didn't get to have a "real" wedding so now they want a re-do.

Another pet peeve- people who still write checks to pay for groceries. when it's busy in there, it just slows up the line. Use cash, debit, or credit please!!!

Maggie0829

alisonmarie658 said:

Musikalizzie said:

Unpopular opinion: I think this was mentioned before; but don't understand the point of an engagement shoot. I feel like all those pictures are wedding clutter... I understand 1, 2 or 3 poses to choose from as a cute reference of your engagement; but 200 of them? How about no? Scott!

I agree that frivolous engagement shoots are ridiculous. I also don't get when couples wait MONTHS AND MONTHS to do engagement pictures (ie a few months before the wedding when they've been engaged for a year or more).

One of our neighbors just got married this month. They didn't get their engagement pictures done until the end of August. By then what the heck is the point?

katieg520

Why is it that when you are planning every other party, such as a birthday, retirement party, etc, you plan the party doing what the person being celebrated (such as the birthday girl/guy, retiree, etc) wants, yet when you are planning a wedding you have to do what the people who are coming to the wedding want???

And FYI, I haven't registered for gifts and haven't asked for anything from anyone. My FH and I are inviting family and friends that we know and are close with. They will be served food that I could afford at a venue that I could afford. If they want to be hosted at the Hilton then they can pay for it. If they don't like the cake, then they could have offered to get a better one, etc. I recall seeing a post where people were jumping this other chick because she chose not to have a reception because she said she couldn't afford it. They told her she could have boxed cake and punch and call it a reception. Certainly that's not keeping your guests happy right if they're expecting to be "hosted?"

I hate to sound like a bitch, but I am willing to bet that all of you other brides made choices that YOU wanted to (or the person paying requested) see come to life on your wedding day.

Maggie0829

katieg520 said:

Why is it that when you are planning every other party, such as a birthday, retirement party, etc, you plan the party doing what the person being celebrated (such as the birthday girl/guy, retiree, etc) wants, yet when you are planning a wedding you have to do what the people who are coming to the wedding want???

And FYI, I haven't registered for gifts and haven't asked for anything from anyone. My FH and I are inviting family and friends that we know and are close with. They will be served food that I could afford at a venue that I could afford. If they want to be hosted at the Hilton then they can pay for it. If they don't like the cake, then they could have offered to get a better one, etc. I recall seeing a post where people were jumping this other chick because she chose not to have a reception because she said she couldn't afford it. They told her she could have boxed cake and punch and call it a reception. Certainly that's not keeping your guests happy right if they're expecting to be "hosted?"

I hate to sound like a bitch, but I am willing to bet that all of you other brides made choices that YOU wanted to (or the person paying requested) see come to life on your wedding day.

Because a birthday party or a retirement party is to honor the birthday person or retiree and should be planned with their likes in mind.

A wedding reception on the other hand is a thank you to your guests for attending your ceremony. It is not a party to honor the couple.  So you need to host your guests properly which means providing them food that is generally liked by the masses, providing them beverages (whether alcoholic or not) and generally making sure that they are comfortable and being treated well, and to make sure that they in no uncertain terms open their wallets to pay for one thing.

And yes, H and I did make choices we liked but we also kept our guests feelings in mind.  As far as flowers and colors and my dress and the WP attire and other decor, that was all our choice. But when it came to guests comfort we decided on the more popular food dishes rather then picking something out of the box or that very few people liked.  We also made sure that we had an open bar so that our guests weren't footing the bill for us.  We made sure that our guests did not have to wait through any long gaps because H and I wanted 5,000 pictures taken all over the city. Instead we had an hour long hosted cocktail hour and only had pictures taken at our venue. These people that you are inviting to your wedding are your closets family and friends and their feelings should matter and be taken into account.

katieg520

Ah I see... well then I'm good because I went very "generic" with the menu and chose something that most people like in our area and family, etc. My FI is in charge of the music and I have told him to keep it light and generally pleasing to our age group while keeping in mind that our parents and grandparents will be there.

I just don't like when I see people on here jump on someone for choosing something that they can afford and telling them the reason for it is because they have to take their guests wishes into account.

katieg520

Also, can someone tell me what PPD means? Most of the acronyms I can figure out....

katieg520

Also, can someone tell me what PPD means? Most of the acronyms I can figure out....

Maggie0829

Also, can someone tell me what PPD means? Most of the acronyms I can figure out....

PPD = Pretty Princess Day 

Generally it is used to describe a couple who is already married but now want a "real" wedding. 

Also, you will see posters getting up in arms when brides try to plan a wedding and then want guests to help pay for it, mainly in the instance of cash bars. Like the bride really wants alcohol but can't afford it so she just pushes the cost off to her guests and tries to play it off that they just want to give the guests the option if they want to drink.  That is a big no-no.  If you want alcohol at your wedding then you need to budget accordingly and pay for it yourself.

Edit: because grammar is hard.

thisismynickname2

I have to ditto so many of these pet peeves and opinions; thanks for brightening my boring Tuesday afternoon.

I have to post this pet peeve because it just happened this morning. 

A new mom (and I know they tried for years to have this baby) posted one of those "inspirational mommy" quote images on their Facebook. 

It said, basically, "To all the unselfish moms who traded a designer bag for a diaper bag, the salon haircuts for a ponytail, the late nights for the early mornings" etc etc.

...... So, I know plenty of moms that didn't "sacrifice" all that and they're not selfish. I also know plenty of non-married, no-kids women who aren't selfish just because they have designer bags and nice haircuts. Every time I see one of these gosh-darn "sanctimommy" posts I was to de-friend because I actually feel like they're judging me for my choices. Don't assume I'm a club-hopping alcoholic just because I don't have kids, thank you very much. The worst was when a woman from my high school reunion (long story) accused those of us non-parents of "not having any real responsibility".  FACEPALM. 

Maggie0829

thisismynickname said:

I have to ditto so many of these pet peeves and opinions; thanks for brightening my boring Tuesday afternoon.

I have to post this pet peeve because it just happened this morning. 

A new mom (and I know they tried for years to have this baby) posted one of those "inspirational mommy" quote images on their Facebook. 

It said, basically, "To all the unselfish moms who traded a designer bag for a diaper bag, the salon haircuts for a ponytail, the late nights for the early mornings" etc etc.

...... So, I know plenty of moms that didn't "sacrifice" all that and they're not selfish. I also know plenty of non-married, no-kids women who aren't selfish just because they have designer bags and nice haircuts. Every time I see one of these gosh-darn "sanctimommy" posts I was to de-friend because I actually feel like they're judging me for my choices. Don't assume I'm a club-hopping alcoholic just because I don't have kids, thank you very much. The worst was when a woman from my high school reunion (long story) accused those of us non-parents of "not having any real responsibility".  FACEPALM. 

I really hate parents like that as well.  You decided to have a child (well sometimes, not all the time), that was your choice so don't make those who didn't feel bad or judge them or think that we have an easy, no responsibility filled life.  Sometimes when you have parents who preach like that so much it almost makes me feel that they regret their decision to have kids.  I know many Moms who are great mothers but also make time for themselves which is in no way a horrible thing.

MrsMack10612

 

Maggie0829 said:

thisismynickname said:

I have to ditto so many of these pet peeves and opinions; thanks for brightening my boring Tuesday afternoon.

I have to post this pet peeve because it just happened this morning. 

A new mom (and I know they tried for years to have this baby) posted one of those "inspirational mommy" quote images on their Facebook. 

It said, basically, "To all the unselfish moms who traded a designer bag for a diaper bag, the salon haircuts for a ponytail, the late nights for the early mornings" etc etc.

...... So, I know plenty of moms that didn't "sacrifice" all that and they're not selfish. I also know plenty of non-married, no-kids women who aren't selfish just because they have designer bags and nice haircuts. Every time I see one of these gosh-darn "sanctimommy" posts I was to de-friend because I actually feel like they're judging me for my choices. Don't assume I'm a club-hopping alcoholic just because I don't have kids, thank you very much. The worst was when a woman from my high school reunion (long story) accused those of us non-parents of "not having any real responsibility".  FACEPALM. 

I really hate parents like that as well.  You decided to have a child (well sometimes, not all the time), that was your choice so don't make those who didn't feel bad or judge them or think that we have an easy, no responsibility filled life.  Sometimes when you have parents who preach like that so much it almost makes me feel that they regret their decision to have kids.  I know many Moms who are great mothers but also make time for themselves which is in no way a horrible thing.

Unless it was a clear case of BC failure, they knew the possible consequences when deciding to have unprotected sex.

Maggie0829

MrsMack10612 said:

 

Maggie0829 said:

thisismynickname said:

I have to ditto so many of these pet peeves and opinions; thanks for brightening my boring Tuesday afternoon.

I have to post this pet peeve because it just happened this morning. 

A new mom (and I know they tried for years to have this baby) posted one of those "inspirational mommy" quote images on their Facebook. 

It said, basically, "To all the unselfish moms who traded a designer bag for a diaper bag, the salon haircuts for a ponytail, the late nights for the early mornings" etc etc.

...... So, I know plenty of moms that didn't "sacrifice" all that and they're not selfish. I also know plenty of non-married, no-kids women who aren't selfish just because they have designer bags and nice haircuts. Every time I see one of these gosh-darn "sanctimommy" posts I was to de-friend because I actually feel like they're judging me for my choices. Don't assume I'm a club-hopping alcoholic just because I don't have kids, thank you very much. The worst was when a woman from my high school reunion (long story) accused those of us non-parents of "not having any real responsibility".  FACEPALM. 

I really hate parents like that as well.  You decided to have a child (well sometimes, not all the time), that was your choice so don't make those who didn't feel bad or judge them or think that we have an easy, no responsibility filled life.  Sometimes when you have parents who preach like that so much it almost makes me feel that they regret their decision to have kids.  I know many Moms who are great mothers but also make time for themselves which is in no way a horrible thing.

Unless it was a clear case of BC failure, they knew the possible consequences when deciding to have unprotected sex.

Yeah that is what I meant when I said, "well sometimes, not all the time."  Sometimes people take all the necessary precautions and they just don't work like they should.

Maggie0829

Musikalizzie said:

My sister recently had a baby and our aunts started judging her parenting skills at a family function because she still manages to get her hair done and makeup. WTF!!! They were like, "I looked like shit when I had my kids but my kids were spotless..." I don't know if parenting is for me; but my sister was born to be a mom and it pissed me off that these self-righteous hags belittled her because she didn't look crappier... 

Those bitches!  So being a good Mom equates to looking like shit all the time?  So ridiculous.  It is possible to still look put together and well kept while being a fantastic parent to your child.

MrsMack10612

@maggie0829 - I didn't know if that's what you meant or just blatant recklessness.

I actually have a lot more respect for moms (I respect all moms) who can keep themselves together while keeping the kids together as well.  I have a friend that has year old twins.  I don't know who she looks day to day, but I know every time I've seen her out and about with the kids, she and the kids are well groomed and neat.  Maybe this my UO, but I think moms that let themselves go are the ones that turn into helicopter parents.

Maggie0829

MrsMack10612 said:

@maggie0829 - I didn't know if that's what you meant or just blatant recklessness.

I actually have a lot more respect for moms (I respect all moms) who can keep themselves together while keeping the kids together as well.  I have a friend that has year old twins.  I don't know who she looks day to day, but I know every time I've seen her out and about with the kids, she and the kids are well groomed and neat.  Maybe this my UO, but I think moms that let themselves go are the ones that turn into helicopter parents.

100% agree.

PrettyGirlLost

Pet Peeves: Asking FI to cook Meth for you a la Breaking Bad bc you found out he has a Ph.D in chemistry. 1st of all, he's a polymer chemist not an organic chemist, and 2nd of all isn't the point of that stupid show that cooking meth doesn't quite work out so well for the main character?

Equestrian boots on non equestrians- sure they are cute, but for some reason it annoys me when people who have never been inside a barn wear them, lol. Yes, I wear them. . . I own a horse so I get to :-p

Dr. Who Fanboys and Girls- Nerds, please! If you don't know who the original Drs are and don't recognize that the 4th Dr. is the best Dr, then step out of my way :-p

Men who take up too much space on the bus/train/subway/plane etc- close your goddamn legs and don't use your testicles as an excuse. There's actually a tumblr for shaming these guys.

Christmas displays and decorations out in stores before Thanksgiving- Jesus, by the time Dec. 24th hits I am so effing sick of Christmas! We will still buy shit if you wait to put it out until Black Friday, you know.

monkeysip

RE:  Engagement shoots and timing.

H and I waited until two months before our wedding to take our E-pics because he wanted to wait until he had his braces off (he was very self conscious wearing braces as a grown adult)

We still did them because we wanted nice photos of us without wedding clothes on.  We don't really have nice photos of us.  People don't take our photo often.  It was nice to have some nice photos of us together.

I will agree though that people can get a little carried away with having the E-pics, the Bridal pics, the Boudoir pics, the Wedding pics, and the trash-the-dress pics.  There's only so many pictures I need of myself around the house.

Dreamergirl8812

katieg520 said:

Ah I see... well then I'm good because I went very "generic" with the menu and chose something that most people like in our area and family, etc. My FI is in charge of the music and I have told him to keep it light and generally pleasing to our age group while keeping in mind that our parents and grandparents will be there.

I just don't like when I see people on here jump on someone for choosing something that they can afford and telling them the reason for it is because they have to take their guests wishes into account.

I don't know if you're referencing another thread or something, but there is nothing wrong with a "generic" meal.

And there is nothing wrong with throwing a wedding you can afford (spoiler alert: every one of us did this), just don't have a cash register at your reception.

wajohnson09

Maggie0829 said:

Musikalizzie said:

My sister recently had a baby and our aunts started judging her parenting skills at a family function because she still manages to get her hair done and makeup. WTF!!! They were like, "I looked like shit when I had my kids but my kids were spotless..." I don't know if parenting is for me; but my sister was born to be a mom and it pissed me off that these self-righteous hags belittled her because she didn't look crappier... 

Those bitches!  So being a good Mom equates to looking like shit all the time?  So ridiculous.  It is possible to still look put together and well kept while being a fantastic parent to your child.

Agree with this and all previous posts related to this topic. If I see one more "I'm a mom, I'm superior to you. I Love my kids more than you love yours blah blah blah" posts on Facebook I'm going to do a freakin friend list purge!

If you want a laugh go to STFU parents

missangelinamiley

UO: Women who order their dresses, then lose half their body weight and freak out because it doesn't fit anymore. PP: Women who rely too much on other people's opinions when picking their wedding dress. Am I watching SYTTD? Yes, yes I am.

KirahSean

I seriously dislike wedding gowns with pick ups. I'm not sure why, but they literally make me mad. 

Maggie0829

missangelinamiley said:

UO: Women who order their dresses, then lose half their body weight and freak out because it doesn't fit anymore. PP: Women who rely too much on other people's opinions when picking their wedding dress. Am I watching SYTTD? Yes, yes I am.

To bounce off this.  Women who order their dress a size or two too small because they just know they are going to lose weight and cannot imagine ordering such a large size.  Then get upset when the dress comes in and it is too small and then freak out.  Well if you had just ordered it in the size suggested then it would have fit!

katieg520

alisonmarie658 said:

KirahSean said:

I seriously dislike wedding gowns with pick ups. I'm not sure why, but they literally make me mad. 

Some are worse than others, but I dislike them as well. And some of them look really cheap/tacky.

Agreed... totally not my style and they seem almost "cliche" to me.

ElcaB

alisonmarie658 said:

Unpopular opinion: I hate female sports reporters. I am not a feminist, clearly.

Pet Peeve: The way that my FI thinks that 50 degrees in the bedroom is "good sleeping temperature." No. Turn the air conditioner off, I am getting frostbite over here

FI turns on the fan AND opens the sliding balcony door of our bedroom. Even in long sleeves and pants, I wake up freezing every night.

 

I am also onboard with hating slutty Disney princesses, career costumes, etc. Seriously, dude. Find something a little more creative.

And personally, I'm tired of sheer laziness. There is a woman I work with who arrives to work at 7 a.m., parks in a non-parking spot, and reads a book in her car until 7:45 when another employee leaves so she can take his vacant prime parking spot. She doesn't have mobility issues. I get angry every day when I drive past her, sitting there and waiting. Get off your ass and walk the distance like the rest of us.

KatWAG

PrettyGirlLost said:

Pet Peeves: Asking FI to cook Meth for you a la Breaking Bad bc you found out he has a Ph.D in chemistry. 1st of all, he's a polymer chemist not an organic chemist, and 2nd of all isn't the point of that stupid show that cooking meth doesn't quite work out so well for the main character? Equestrian boots on non equestrians- sure they are cute, but for some reason it annoys me when people who have never been inside a barn wear them, lol. Yes, I wear them. . . I own a horse so I get to :-p Dr. Who Fanboys and Girls- Nerds, please! If you don't know who the original Drs are and don't recognize that the 4th Dr. is the best Dr, then step out of my way :-p Men who take up too much space on the bus/train/subway/plane etc- close your goddamn legs and don't use your testicles as an excuse. There's actually a tumblr for shaming these guys. Christmas displays and decorations out in stores before Thanksgiving- Jesus, by the time Dec. 24th hits I am so effing sick of Christmas! We will still buy shit if you wait to put it out until Black Friday, you know.

I was at West Elm last night and they had a full Xmas display up, including 3 xmas trees, wreaths and holly. It is way too soon for that

PP: when women wear shoes they can't walk in. Walking in 5 inch platform heels takes skill. If you need practice, morning rush hour probably isnt the best time.

thelastdreamer

This may have been said, but I HATE when couples create a hashtag for their wedding. Especially when its some cheesy ridiculous thing like "#boblovessally2013" or "#becomingthejones" like .... just .... gross. 

KatWAG

PP: I just finished a fancy lunch with professional people. I am shocked by how few people know and use basic table manners. No need to stab your meat or have a death grip on your fork.

manateehugger

KatWAG said:

PP: I just finished a fancy lunch with professional people. I am shocked by how few people know and use basic table manners. No need to stab your meat or have a death grip on your fork.

Yes this! It also irks me so badly when people don't place a napkin in their lap at nice dinners! Come on people! It doesn't belong on the table until you're finished!

climbingsingle

ElcaB said:

alisonmarie658 said:

Unpopular opinion: I hate female sports reporters. I am not a feminist, clearly.

Pet Peeve: The way that my FI thinks that 50 degrees in the bedroom is "good sleeping temperature." No. Turn the air conditioner off, I am getting frostbite over here

FI turns on the fan AND opens the sliding balcony door of our bedroom. Even in long sleeves and pants, I wake up freezing every night.

 

I am also onboard with hating slutty Disney princesses, career costumes, etc. Seriously, dude. Find something a little more creative.

And personally, I'm tired of sheer laziness. There is a woman I work with who arrives to work at 7 a.m., parks in a non-parking spot, and reads a book in her car until 7:45 when another employee leaves so she can take his vacant prime parking spot. She doesn't have mobility issues. I get angry every day when I drive past her, sitting there and waiting. Get off your ass and walk the distance like the rest of us.

Ahhh! I worked with a guy exactly like that! We all park in the lot behind the building. It's a 5 minute walk up a slight incline. Instead of doing that, he parked on the street every day and never fed the meters. He got a parking ticket every single day. Really? You'd rather rack up $35 a day in parking tickets then walk 5 minutes?! When he bragged about joining a gym and working out super hard, I nearly fell over.