Coloured shoes for bridesmaids?

CamiSelene

Hi there,

This is my first time asking anything on here so I hope I get some good feedback. For my wedding I am doing champagne coloured bridesmaid dresses and would like to do really brightly coloured shoes in all different colours to match bouquets. I've seen some awesome photos of people with all the same shoe but in different colours but am trying to figure out how to execute this. I don't want the girls to have to spend too much on shoes by ordering online (and I also want to make sure they are comfortable enough for them) but most stores don't offer the same shoe in multiple bright colours. Does anyone have any suggestions or experience to share with this wedding noobie? lol

MobKaz

Typically, if you are requiring your BM's to wear a specific colored shoe, the cost should be your burden, not theirs.  If you were asking them to wear a black or other neutral colored shoe they might have a chance to wear beyond your wedding, most BM's would probably not care as much.  But if you are asking them to wear odd or unusual colored shoes, you need to incur that cost.  And, if you are insisting they wear an identical shoe that is not even of their choosing, in addition to an odd color, I would just say, "no"!

doeydo

You could dye the shoes different colours.  here are some dyyeable shoes: http://www.davidsbridal.com/Browse_Accessories-Shoes-Dyeable-Shoes__pageSize-all
There are a lot of shoes available in different colours from David's Bridal: http://www.davidsbridal.com/Browse_Accessories-Shoes-Occasion-Shoes__pageSize-all
Before you get set on some though, I think you should talk to each of your BMs, separately/alone, to find out their budget.  Then, the dress and the shoes should be within the lowest budget.

artbyallie

I feel really strongly that brides should not designate a specific shoe, even if they pay for it. Shoes are extremely personal and can really make someone miserable if they're uncomfortable. And it's impossible to predict if a shoe will be comfy for different people, so I just say skip it. Asking for a particular neutral color (or red, IMO) is acceptable but unnecessary. I really wish I had not even bothered picking black shoes for my wedding. No one was looking at their feet and I can't even see them in the handful of pictures I have that the bridesmaids are in.

CamiSelene

Thanks for the input. I had spoken to my bridesmaids about the colourful shoes idea well before I started looking into it and they were all for it. I do agree about the comfort thing and my biggest concern is that I didn't want them spending too much on a shoe so I think what we're gonna do is they are just going to look for a shoe (whatever style, I don't care if they're all different) in the colour they picked and that way they can make sure its comfy and in their budget. What a great idea with the dyable shoes too! I'll also let them know that's an option.

msuprincess04

http://www.6pm.com/nine-west-flax-brown-combo-fabric (comes in a lot of different colors all in the same style)

katieg520

Girl it's your wedding, if you want them in different shoes, do it. And I don't think you should have to pay for it. BMs know that it is their responsibility to pay for their dress and attire for the day. Charlotte Russe has cheap shoes, like $25 and under, that are multiple different colors. I'm not sure how many different colors you'd need though. But anyway, do what you want! I think it's a great idea and very pretty!

KatWAG

If you want a specific shoe, you need to buy it. And honestly, I doubt anyone will pay attention to your BMs shoes.

MobKaz

katieg520 said:

Girl it's your wedding, if you want them in different shoes, do it. And I don't think you should have to pay for it. BMs know that it is their responsibility to pay for their dress and attire for the day. Charlotte Russe has cheap shoes, like $25 and under, that are multiple different colors. I'm not sure how many different colors you'd need though. But anyway, do what you want! I think it's a great idea and very pretty!

Please stop spamming the boards with bad advice.

manateehugger

katieg520 said:

Girl it's your wedding, if you want them in different shoes, do it. And I don't think you should have to pay for it. BMs know that it is their responsibility to pay for their dress and attire for the day. Charlotte Russe has cheap shoes, like $25 and under, that are multiple different colors. I'm not sure how many different colors you'd need though. But anyway, do what you want! I think it's a great idea and very pretty!


This is the advice you follow if you want your best friends and bridesmaids to be grumbling behind your back and upset that you think your wedding is worth tons of their hard earned money.

What if you just asked them what color they think would look best? Or specify a range of colors (e.g. any red, black, or silver shoe)?


At the end of the day, remember that no one really looks at the bridesmaids shoes. They'll be much more interested in looking at you and your husband.

manateehugger

manateehugger

I somehow managed to triple post.

manateehugger

Yup.

Liatris2010

Champagne is such a sophisticated color, and differently colored bright shoes is a lot more youthful. I don't know you and can't speak to what suits you and your BMs better, but I think the two looks won't go well together. Do you have a picture that will change my mind?

CamiSelene

Well, actually, the BM dresses have a champagne underlay with an ivory lace overlay so we tried seeing how bright colours worked with the dresses and they did because the Champagne colour is toned down by the ivory.

SBmini

Liatris2010 said:

Champagne is such a sophisticated color, and differently colored bright shoes is a lot more youthful. I don't know you and can't speak to what suits you and your BMs better, but I think the two looks won't go well together. Do you have a picture that will change my mind?

This is sort of my thought as well. I'm trying to picture the combo and it isn't working in my head. Maybe if they are jewel tones that would be pretty. Do you have a photo you can share? 

If your girls are all for it, perhaps you can assign colors and let them find their own shoes? That would be easier than trying to find a single shoe in all the colors you want. Also, I'm not sure about your girls, but I know mine have different shoe preferences. My 4'11 best friend and 5'10 sister are going to want to wear VERY different styles of shoes. If you are thinking flats, Dessy had flats in a wide variety of colors.

[Deleted User]

Try a store like payless or another discount store. Check online to see color options, then go to the store to check for sizes. I feel more comfortable personally ordering shoes online if I've had a chance to try the style of shoe on in the store, even if it's not the color I want. Then I go online & order the color I want. Just a thought, go for inexpensive since the girls probably won't wear the shoes ever again and then get them flip flops to change into later in the same color as the shoe they had on so they can keep the color theme going.

iloveu4ever

Red maybe but other colors might look weird

PolarBearFitz

CamiSelene said:

Thanks for the input. I had spoken to my bridesmaids about the colourful shoes idea well before I started looking into it and they were all for it. I do agree about the comfort thing and my biggest concern is that I didn't want them spending too much on a shoe so I think what we're gonna do is they are just going to look for a shoe (whatever style, I don't care if they're all different) in the colour they picked and that way they can make sure its comfy and in their budget. What a great idea with the dyable shoes too! I'll also let them know that's an option.

If your bridesmaids are on board with the idea then ignore the negative advice. Good girlfriends don't talk crap about each other over shoes/money. I have seen this done before and in fact my friend's bridesmaids really liked that they got to stand out with their shoes. They also showed up beautifully in pictures as the bride did one with all her ladies' shoes next to hers. Good luck!!!

katieg520

mobkaz said:

katieg520 said:

Girl it's your wedding, if you want them in different shoes, do it. And I don't think you should have to pay for it. BMs know that it is their responsibility to pay for their dress and attire for the day. Charlotte Russe has cheap shoes, like $25 and under, that are multiple different colors. I'm not sure how many different colors you'd need though. But anyway, do what you want! I think it's a great idea and very pretty!

Please stop spamming the boards with bad advice.

Please leave me alone.

PolarBearFitz

“No one is more insufferable than he who lacks basic courtesy.”

You know like respecting other people's opinions you disagree with without being a total B. @katieg520 I think your advice was completely honest and sweet.

Liatris2010

aefitz29 said:

“No one is more insufferable than he who lacks basic courtesy.”

You know like respecting other people's opinions you disagree with without being a total B. @katieg520 I think your advice was completely honest and sweet.

Part of basic courtesy includes not asking people to spend their money on things for your wedding. I find being told how to spend my money pretty insufferable.

NYCMercedes

mobkaz said:

katieg520 said:

Girl it's your wedding, if you want them in different shoes, do it. And I don't think you should have to pay for it. BMs know that it is their responsibility to pay for their dress and attire for the day. Charlotte Russe has cheap shoes, like $25 and under, that are multiple different colors. I'm not sure how many different colors you'd need though. But anyway, do what you want! I think it's a great idea and very pretty!

Please stop spamming the boards with bad advice.

Please.

PolarBearFitz

Liatris2010 said:

aefitz29 said:

“No one is more insufferable than he who lacks basic courtesy.”

You know like respecting other people's opinions you disagree with without being a total B. @katieg520 I think your advice was completely honest and sweet.

Part of basic courtesy includes not asking people to spend their money on things for your wedding. I find being told how to spend my money pretty insufferable.


Did I miss something about these being incredibly Expensive shoes? I thought the idea was too avoid it being too expensive. and since when are colored shoes so much more expensive than neutrals? Did I miss the part where the bride is demanding her girls buy jimmy choos? And no one is telling anyone how to spend money. She ran the idea past her bridesmaids and they liked it.

Liatris2010

aefitz29 said:

aefitz29 said:

“No one is more insufferable than he who lacks basic courtesy.”

You know like respecting other people's opinions you disagree with without being a total B. @katieg520 I think your advice was completely honest and sweet.

Part of basic courtesy includes not asking people to spend their money on things for your wedding. I find being told how to spend my money pretty insufferable.

Did I miss something about these being incredibly Expensive shoes? I thought the idea was too avoid it being too expensive. and since when are colored shoes so much more expensive than neutrals? Did I miss the part where the bride is demanding her girls buy jimmy choos? And no one is telling anyone how to spend money. She ran the idea past her bridesmaids and they liked it.

No, but it looks like you missed the part where most women already own neutral dress shoes.

You seems unclear as to why people are objecting to KatieG's advice, and it is because she is suggesting that the bride isn't responsible for paying for special shoes. If the bride wants to dictate shoes, hair, makeup, or whatever else, then she needs to pony up the cash.

MobKaz

aefitz29 said:

“No one is more insufferable than he who lacks basic courtesy.”

You know like respecting other people's opinions you disagree with without being a total B. @katieg520 I think your advice was completely honest and sweet.

@aefitz29.....supporting this "advice"...."It's your wedding and you shouldn't have to pay for it" could not be more wrong.  Are you also OK with brides that are demanding her "girls" spend $120 for hair and make up?  And, the hair styles are not of the BM's choosing; they will all wear cloned hairstyles.  When you support that "It's my day" mentality, it doesn't stop at shoes.

Could you please quote the responses that were bitchy?  I am hard pressed to find any.  I would be glad to quote the bad and "speshul" advice.

PolarBearFitz

mobkaz said:

aefitz29 said:

“No one is more insufferable than he who lacks basic courtesy.”

You know like respecting other people's opinions you disagree with without being a total B. @katieg520 I think your advice was completely honest and sweet.

@aefitz29.....supporting this "advice"...."It's your wedding and you shouldn't have to pay for it" could not be more wrong.  Are you also OK with brides that are demanding her "girls" spend $120 for hair and make up?  And, the hair styles are not of the BM's choosing; they will all wear cloned hairstyles.  When you support that "It's my day" mentality, it doesn't stop at shoes.

Could you please quote the responses that were bitchy?  I am hard pressed to find any.  I would be glad to quote the bad and "speshul" advice.

By telling someone you disagree with to 'stop spamming the boards' you're being rude and unnecessary. She is merely sharing her opinion just like you are and at least she was nice about it. Yes I agree that the do whatever you want to do it is your wedding mentality is totally wrong. I really do not think that is what she meant by it but (obviously you have your own assumptions). I for one am paying for my girls dresses in respect for their wallets. The original poster specified she is trying to do this idea on the cheap side and already okay'd it with her bridesmaids it really is not a question of if they are okay with it or not. No one is talking about $120 hairstyles and brandishing diamond bridesmaid jewelry...they are shoes. Get over it and stop exaggerating.

katieg520

Where I'm from, when you are standing in someone's wedding, it is expected that you will pair for hair, makeup, dress, and shoes if necessary. That's just how it is. Get over yourselves. Not everybody has to do it your way. I have never asked my BMs to do anything. They have all told me "let me know what you want and how much it costs." And you have honestly never seen a bridal party where all the BMs have the same hair style. Jesus, I'm glad I'm southern.

MobKaz

aefitz29 said:

aefitz29 said:

“No one is more insufferable than he who lacks basic courtesy.”

You know like respecting other people's opinions you disagree with without being a total B. @katieg520 I think your advice was completely honest and sweet.

@aefitz29.....supporting this "advice"...."It's your wedding and you shouldn't have to pay for it" could not be more wrong.  Are you also OK with brides that are demanding her "girls" spend $120 for hair and make up?  And, the hair styles are not of the BM's choosing; they will all wear cloned hairstyles.  When you support that "It's my day" mentality, it doesn't stop at shoes.

Could you please quote the responses that were bitchy?  I am hard pressed to find any.  I would be glad to quote the bad and "speshul" advice.

By telling someone you disagree with to 'stop spamming the boards' you're being rude and unnecessary. She is merely sharing her opinion just like you are and at least she was nice about it. Yes I agree that the do whatever you want to do it is your wedding mentality is totally wrong. I really do not think that is what she meant by it but (obviously you have your own assumptions). I for one am paying for my girls dresses in respect for their wallets. But Considering the original poster specified she is trying to do this idea on the cheap side and already okay'd it with her bridesmaids it really is not a question of if they are okay with it or not. No one is talking about $120 hairstyles and brandishing diamond bridesmaid jewelry...they are shoes. Get over it and stop exaggerating.

Actually, katieg is in fact demanding her girls spend that money.  That is a fact, not an exaggeration.  And I now see from your other posts that you think you are just as special as some of these other entitled brides.  

katieg520

yep, I sure am ... better tell the internet wedding police!!! Oh no! I have *gasp* standards!!!! Shocking!! And you are such a better bride than me. Oh dear Lord, I can only hope and pray that I can wake up in the morning and be like you. Oh woe is me.

Seriously... is that what you want to hear? Geez! It's the fucking knot dot com people... you don't know me in real life, nor do I know you. I'm sure you're just a peach in your real life, but you come on here to pass judgement on people you don't know just to make yourself feel better. But nobody cares!!!! I do what I want, and you do what you want. I recall in another post, I have asked you repeatedly to either ignore me, leave me alone, whatever you want. But omg!!!! If you don't like the way I do things, so be it. You don't have to. Good thing is, you don't pay a damn one of my bills, nor are you standing in the wedding. If I don't have a friend left, what's it to you? Now, be on your merry way and leave me the hell alone! @mobkaz

MobKaz

katieg520 said:

Where I'm from, when you are standing in someone's wedding, it is expected that you will pair for hair, makeup, dress, and shoes if necessary. That's just how it is. Get over yourselves. Not everybody has to do it your way. I have never asked my BMs to do anything. They have all told me "let me know what you want and how much it costs." And you have honestly never seen a bridal party where all the BMs have the same hair style. Jesus, I'm glad I'm southern.

So you are saying that all southern women are demanding, self absorbed, and entitled?  Way to insult the south. I would not be glad to be in that company.

And for the record, these suggestions are not my way.  They are what is proper and appropriate. 

I am damned proud to say that in fact, I have NEVER attended a cloned wedding.  My daughter had her BM's select a short LBD for her wedding.  Some had their hair and/or make up done, others did not.  No one wore identical jewelry; although I do think my daughter MAY have suggested silver toned jewelry.