Possible BM gettng the boot...

ashley82488

Hello,

So I got engaged a little less than a year ago and a few months ago I asked my bridesmaids to be a part of my wedding. I've known one of them for a couple of years and she and I were very close, we even work together. She pretty much begged me to be part of my special day. One day at work we had a bit of a disagreement on something. Yes, I was upset that she would do something behind my back. But ever since that day our friendship hasn't been the same. She stopped the texts, the calls, even being friendly. She is a MEGA Bitch to me on a day to day basis and runs to tell the boss every move I make. I honestly don't even like her anymore. I think it is a given to tell her that she is not welcome in my party anymore. I am doing her a favor because we are going dress shopping in a month and I am saving her time and money. But I think I'm too nice of a person and I don't know what to say to politely boot her. HELP Please!

KeptInStitches

You can't come up with a polite way to say it because, honestly, it's not a polite thing to do. If you no longer want to be her friend, then obviously she's no longer in the bridal party and you can just tell her so straight up.

ashley82488

She doesn't want to be my friend. Shes made her point. Now I need to make mine.

KeptInStitches

If the friendship's already fallen apart, then just don't tell her when you're going dress shopping or what the dress/parameters are. It seems like, at this point, she's taken herself out of your bridal party and there's no need for any action from you.

mlg78

I agree.  She's said she's done with the friendship (and your wedding) without actually telling you.  Just proceed with wedding planning with out her.

Dreamergirl8812

ashley82488 said:

Hello,

So I got engaged a little less than a year ago and a few months ago I asked my bridesmaids to be a part of my wedding. I've known one of them for a couple of years and she and I were very close, we even work together. She pretty much begged me to be part of my special day. One day at work we had a bit of a disagreement on something. Yes, I was upset that she would do something behind my back. But ever since that day our friendship hasn't been the same. She stopped the texts, the calls, even being friendly. She is a MEGA Bitch to me on a day to day basis and runs to tell the boss every move I make. I honestly don't even like her anymore. I think it is a given to tell her that she is not welcome in my party anymore. I am doing her a favor because we are going dress shopping in a month and I am saving her time and money. But I think I'm too nice of a person and I don't know what to say to politely boot her. HELP Please!

There is no "polite" way to "boot her." Like PPs said, just continue on without her. If she brings it up, you should ask her about your damaged relationship. But not in the context of your wedding.

And definitely don't mention that you're doing her a favor.

ashley82488

Thanks for your help guys. It has really helped!