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Oh FFS, not "doing" as much for your wedding as you did for theirs or not spending as much money as you did for theirs does NOT equate to not caring.Some women just don't have that much time OR money. It doesn't make them bad friends. It does, however, make YOU a bad friend for judging their money and time situations.I fully understand being disappointed that there was apparently issues with communication and follow-through with your BM's. But that's about where the understanding ends.peanut - no one is posting anything in your thread that you didn't already write/admit to... you trying to back track and then whine about the girls who are telling you how ridiculous you are being just makes you look MORE ridiculous. You're mad at your MOH for "not being there for you", yet she showed up in the correct dress and stood by your side for the ceremony and YOU DIDN'T EVEN NOTICE she was outside for part of your reception. GET OVER IT and enjoy your new life as a wife.
KellyBrian,I will say that I'm sorry that I challenged the closeness of your friends/BMs. I guess I just can't understand how your friends wouldn't hold this day (your wedding day) in their highest regard as well. When my friends get married, it is important to me as well. They are my friends and I'm happy for them and doing anything in my power to make their special day better is what I'm there for.You saying "The expectation for BM's is to show up at the wedding in the correct dress on time and sober" makes them sound more like Minions or Slaves then the girls on this thread who want their friends to be an important part of the wedding. Being a BM or MOH is not about the dress or being sober (which by the way makes me laugh when people say that...I served booze during my ceremony). What it comes down to is that we all have different expectations of our BMs. Some people like the OP and myself expect more than a little matching Minion, we expect our friends to be there for us, enjoying in the fun of the wedding day and the love of two people. While others just want you to show up on the wedding day.