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New Here (long)
Hi all!
My name is Sarah and my wonderful BF is Tim. We will be together for 5 years in May. We have two wonderful children 3 1/2 and 2 years old. We have been through a tough road and are finally on track. When I was just 18 we found out we were expecting our 1st child. Tim was a sophomore in college. Unable to make enough money to support ourselves we moved in with his parents when our daughter was 3 months old. I really wanted marraige and we had talked about it before DD was in the picture. We even looked at rings. Well we couldn't afford a wedding and BF wanted to do it right. It was also important for him to prove to others that he didn't marry me because he had to. He wanted to prove to my family and others that he loved me. When our daughter was 9 months old we were expecting our second. Long story short marriage has never been the right time.
Finally last May BF graduated college, has a good job, we are out on our own, and we have a wonderful relationship. We have gone through a lot and learned so much about each other. Lately marraige has been on our mind again. Throughout the whole relationship I had questioned him as to when or if he ever wanted it. We have looked at rings a couple more times and I have gone by myself to make wishlists for rings and told him...Never resulted in anything. I've always pushed it and finally realized I don't want to push this. I want him to do it only if he wants to. He always said he wanted it and always said soon...Well that's hard to take when he has told me soon since our 2 year anniversary.
Recently he brought it up. He said he finally feels ready and like he is in a good spot. He feels proud of himself like he is able to support his family. He is really big on making it a surprise and doesn't want to talk about any details. He tells me it's all planned and to wait until it warms up. Other than that he won't give any other hints of when or how the proposal will go.(which I admire<3)
Of course I decide to try one last time with the ring thing so he has an idea of what I like. He agreed to go today after his Dad's birthday lunch. I told him I only wanted to go if he wanted to. He said he did....so today comes and lo and behold time runs short. Of course. I didn't say anything and when we got in the car he asked if it was ok to make a rain check for our ring date. He said he was sorry we ran out of time. I told him it was fine and that if he didn't want to look that was ok. I felt really stupid and I felt like it made me look desperate. He said he really did want to look and that he would make a special day of it for next Sunday. He wants to arrange for a babysitter and hit up every ring place.
I just feel soooo crushed. He sounds sincere and he doesn't say things that he doesn't intend to do. I just felt so stupid for getting excited I guess. I don't know what to think. I feel like things will never happen. I'm done talking to him about it.
Any thoughts...This is my intro/ vent. Thanks for anyone who made it this far in my post
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~Sarah~
My name is Sarah and my wonderful BF is Tim. We will be together for 5 years in May. We have two wonderful children 3 1/2 and 2 years old. We have been through a tough road and are finally on track. When I was just 18 we found out we were expecting our 1st child. Tim was a sophomore in college. Unable to make enough money to support ourselves we moved in with his parents when our daughter was 3 months old. I really wanted marraige and we had talked about it before DD was in the picture. We even looked at rings. Well we couldn't afford a wedding and BF wanted to do it right. It was also important for him to prove to others that he didn't marry me because he had to. He wanted to prove to my family and others that he loved me. When our daughter was 9 months old we were expecting our second. Long story short marriage has never been the right time.
Finally last May BF graduated college, has a good job, we are out on our own, and we have a wonderful relationship. We have gone through a lot and learned so much about each other. Lately marraige has been on our mind again. Throughout the whole relationship I had questioned him as to when or if he ever wanted it. We have looked at rings a couple more times and I have gone by myself to make wishlists for rings and told him...Never resulted in anything. I've always pushed it and finally realized I don't want to push this. I want him to do it only if he wants to. He always said he wanted it and always said soon...Well that's hard to take when he has told me soon since our 2 year anniversary.
Recently he brought it up. He said he finally feels ready and like he is in a good spot. He feels proud of himself like he is able to support his family. He is really big on making it a surprise and doesn't want to talk about any details. He tells me it's all planned and to wait until it warms up. Other than that he won't give any other hints of when or how the proposal will go.(which I admire<3)
Of course I decide to try one last time with the ring thing so he has an idea of what I like. He agreed to go today after his Dad's birthday lunch. I told him I only wanted to go if he wanted to. He said he did....so today comes and lo and behold time runs short. Of course. I didn't say anything and when we got in the car he asked if it was ok to make a rain check for our ring date. He said he was sorry we ran out of time. I told him it was fine and that if he didn't want to look that was ok. I felt really stupid and I felt like it made me look desperate. He said he really did want to look and that he would make a special day of it for next Sunday. He wants to arrange for a babysitter and hit up every ring place.
I just feel soooo crushed. He sounds sincere and he doesn't say things that he doesn't intend to do. I just felt so stupid for getting excited I guess. I don't know what to think. I feel like things will never happen. I'm done talking to him about it.
Any thoughts...This is my intro/ vent. Thanks for anyone who made it this far in my post
.~Sarah~
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Re: New Here (long)
Sitting down and having a talk with him is extremely important. Sit down with him and just talk to him. Tell him your fears. Tell him like you told us. Really, just be patient. It will happen someday. Some women on here waited 6 months or more for their bfs to propose.
[QUOTE]<strong>But I like it on top.</strong>
Posted by AudgiePodge[/QUOTE]
Me too.
[QUOTE]But I like it on top.
Posted by AudgiePodge[/QUOTE]
Man, where's Hetshup when we need her? I blame her for all the innuendos I pick up on in posts now...
[QUOTE]paintgirl- That's a bit rude and judgemental.
Posted by SaraBeth10[/QUOTE]
Nope, it's math.
Hi, nice to meet you.
Take a deep breath, calm youself. Don't let ruined plans upset you.
Why don't you two make the plans for Sunday and see how that goes.now
In the mean time, tell me all he wonderful things about your relationship.
Get down here. I thought the OP DDd.
~Sarah~
[QUOTE]Well I guess I read you ladies wrong. Apparently if you are new on the board you have to prove that you are good enough? Hmm I think I will save you the trouble. I've actually never met such an unsupporitve group of ladies on a message board. Oh well. Guess I'll go relax with my man and my children born out of wedlock. Have good weddings all. ~Sarah~
Posted by SaraBeth10[/QUOTE]
you too?
If you don't like our support, go elsewhere. Many of us gave you advice above.
[QUOTE]From into to GBCK in under an hour. Is that a new record?
Posted by AudgiePodge[/QUOTE]
I think so!! Congrats, OP!
Let's see the highlights of our relationship.... I think I could write a book on it.
I know that had we gotten married long ago I would always wonder if it was for the right reasons. I'm just growing impatient. People around us are getting married left and right. People we know push the subject and ask about it. Though my BF knows how I feel I joke with people and say that I'll only marry him if he's good. I don't want them to know how bad I want it.
I talked to him more tonight. He wanted to know if I was ok with what happened today. He insists that he would love to look at rings. He just doesn't want me to point at one and say that's it. He wants a wide selection of what I like so I will be surprised about what one he picks. I think that's cute. For the past week he has been signing country love songs..hehe...so funny to hear him walking around doing that. Did I mention he was raised a polite good ol country boy? Ugh. I feel so lucky to have. I'm just so impatient:/
[QUOTE]I LIKE IT IN THE MIDDLE! That's how babies are made. Through the belly button.
Posted by hetshup[/QUOTE]
<div>You are enlightening me with all these new ways to have sex. TEACH ME!</div>
New record? Congratulations! I think two of you gave advise. The others just f*cked around because they are too bored at home;)
Gonna go now and make another baby:)
[QUOTE]Oh thank you so much ladies. I plan to have atleast 8 more children, drop out of college, and stay at home while my boyfriend works and caters to me. Along with that <strong>I want to be a moderator of a message board and become as snooty as possible to pretend I'm better than others.</strong> New record? Congratulations! I think two of you gave advise. The others just f*cked around because they are too bored at home;) Gonna go now and make another baby:)
Posted by SaraBeth10[/QUOTE]
<div>You noticed? Thank you! Some recognition!</div><div>
</div><div>But seriously. Take things with a grain of salt. You'll get some great advice, some not so great advice and you'll even get advice when you don't ask for it. It's the internet. Drudge through and stick it out here. Some of the posters here had some horrible flamings in the beginning of their "knot career." But, ultimately, it's up to you to stay or not.</div>
[QUOTE] Along with that I want to be a moderator of a message board and become as snooty as possible to pretend I'm better than others. Posted by SaraBeth10[/QUOTE]
Ooo Audgie that one was directed at you! Are you snooty? I never noticed.
[QUOTE]sure, just a little olive oil around the opening of the vagina and BF reaches right in to grab them out.
Posted by SaraBeth10[/QUOTE]
<div>Lol. Mine does that too, but there are no babies involved.</div>
[QUOTE]Oh thank you so much ladies. I plan to have atleast 8 more children, drop out of college, and stay at home while my boyfriend works and caters to me. Along with that I want to be a moderator of a message board and become as snooty as possible to pretend I'm better than others. New record? Congratulations! I think two of you gave advise. The others just f*cked around because they are <strong>too bored at home</strong>;) Gonna go now and make another baby:)
Posted by SaraBeth10[/QUOTE]
I'm not bored! This is fun!
[QUOTE]sure, just a little olive oil around the opening of the vagina and BF reaches right in to grab them out.
Posted by SaraBeth10[/QUOTE]
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</div><div>I recommend astroglide</div><div>
</div><div>1) it's cheaper</div><div>2) Don't want no infection. </div><div>
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</div><div>OH! Unless you eat the placenta afterwards, in which case olive oil would be better. </div>