Inviting people with guests

lindsaybelle4 · January 2010

Hi all,

My fiancee and I are trying to keep our guest list small as I don't want more than 100 people at my wedding and we're on a small budget. Is it ok to invite people without guests or do you need to invite everyone with a guest?

crfische · January 2010

Long term relationships, engaged couples, and spouses all must be invited with a guest.

SarahPLiz · January 2010

If that person is married or in a long term relationship ( I say 6 months or more) then their SO should be invited as well, by name. It is your choice whether or not to invite other single guests with a plus one.

crfische · January 2010

See, and I consider a long term relationship 1 year plus, and I don't think living together is a good line either.

Some people move in with each other after a month of knowing them and they shouldn't get an invite over someone who isn't living together and been together for a year.

lindsaybelle4 · January 2010

Right, sorrry I did not clarify, if people are married, engaged or in long term relationships I would invite them but, do I have to invite my single guests with a guest?

saisongbird · January 2010

Read the above posts. They were very clear.

crfische · January 2010

No you don't. I figured that was inferred by the posts above.

nicolesly730 · January 2010

I'm doing if they are living together/married or if they are not going to know anyone. I have a cousin who was really mean about marriage (she's jealous) to me, she has a beau but she isn't getting a plus one. Most of my friends are single and don't care about getting plus one.

banana468 · January 2010

You don't have to invite your single friends with a guest but it's a good thing to budget that they'll be in LTR by the time you get married. Since you have a year and a half until then, it's best to be on the safe side as far as a head count would be concerned.

I think the older you get, the shorter a relationship needs to be in order for it to be considered "long term". A few years ago I would have said that it had to be a year but I now know many people who are living together and engaged by that point. You really need to look at the relationship itself to see if it's "serious' or just a fling.

crfische · January 2010

I have a cousin who was really mean about marriage (she's jealous) to me, she has a beau but she isn't getting a plus one.

Are you kidding me? She isn't getting one out of spite even though she's in a committed relationship?

crfische · January 2010

Banana, that's a good point about the relationship length, too.

sucrets4 · January 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_inviting-people-guests?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:db02b26d-f4fe-40c4-b994-fcbe19146cf7Post:15ea418b-6783-4b31-9c3a-79afdd4794f1">Re: Inviting people with guests</a>:
[QUOTE]I'm doing if they are living together/married or if they are not going to know anyone. <strong>I have a cousin who was really mean about marriage (she's jealous) to me, she has a beau but she isn't getting a plus one. </strong> Most of my friends are single and don't care about getting plus one.
Posted by nicolesly730[/QUOTE]

This is crap.

Your wedding should not be used to get out your passive-aggressive tendencies.

Mrs.B6302007 · January 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_inviting-people-guests?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:db02b26d-f4fe-40c4-b994-fcbe19146cf7Post:15ea418b-6783-4b31-9c3a-79afdd4794f1">Re: Inviting people with guests</a>:
[QUOTE]I'm doing if they are living together/married or if they are not going to know anyone. I have a cousin who was really mean about marriage (she's jealous) to me, she has a beau but she isn't getting a plus one. Most of my friends are single and don't care about getting plus one.
Posted by nicolesly730[/QUOTE]
Well, that's very mature of you.

sucrets4 · January 2010

PS - fiance is a boy, fiancee is a girl. I'm pretty sure you're marrying a boy, so use the first one.

crfische · January 2010

She's also the genius with her first and soon to be last name posted for the world to see.

Mrs.B6302007 · January 2010

Yep.
The trick for remembering the difference is:

fiance - one "e", guy has one appendage
fiancee - two "e"s, girl has 2 bewbs

crfische · January 2010

Oh nevermind, it's her first AND last name as an SN. Brilliant.

FYI, I now know where you go to school, where your fiance works, where he went to school, and I've gotten to both of your facebook pages.

sucrets4 · January 2010

zomg fishy, stop being such a STALKER.

Btw, I was super impressed that you were being helpful earlier in this post! You must be bored, huh?

crfische · January 2010

Yeah, it took a turn for the worse here at the end.

brookelynpaisley · January 2010

Ah, Fish, how I love thee.

Mrs.B6302007 · January 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_inviting-people-guests?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:db02b26d-f4fe-40c4-b994-fcbe19146cf7Post:2e3f720a-13a0-4dcc-a85c-4518cfc5ec4b">Re: Inviting people with guests</a>:
[QUOTE]Oh nevermind, it's her first AND last name as an SN. Brilliant. FYI, I now know where you go to school, where your fiance works, where he went to school, and I've gotten to both of your facebook pages.
Posted by crfische[/QUOTE]
Notice the correct spelling of fiance. Good job, Guppy.<img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-tongue-out.gif" border="0" alt="Tongue out" title="Tongue out" />

crfische · January 2010

Luckily, I'm not crazy. But if I were you, I'd change my SN and ticker reaaaaaalllllll quick like.

Mrs.B6302007 · January 2010

Oh, this is the same girl who posted the other day on JE when I put up the "newbies, please read" thread.

Guess she didn't read.

crfische · January 2010

I wonder how her fiance would feel to know that I have his work email address. If you don't care about your own privacy, at least have some respect for your fiance and take his last name down.

sucrets4 · January 2010

fishy - I've started emailing newbs to warn them. I find it amusing.

saisongbird · January 2010

Sucrets - that's fantastic. Just fantastic. Care to share some of the responses?

flutgrl1 · January 2010

I would feel awkward inviting anyone without a guest if they so choose and would find things to cut otherwise to afford it. What are people w/o dates supposed to do during dancing...do shots at the bar!?

terbear_86 · January 2010

Fishy I am mildly curious to find out what you found when you googled me?

sucrets4 · January 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_inviting-people-guests?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:db02b26d-f4fe-40c4-b994-fcbe19146cf7Post:4c1c0b32-5668-425e-88c4-cbd3f58f86ef">Re: Inviting people with guests</a>:
[QUOTE]Sucrets - that's fantastic. Just fantastic. Care to share some of the responses?
Posted by saisongbird[/QUOTE]

Nothing fun, just the usual "well, this is the first time someone has sent me anything, so I'll just keep it".

I get not wanting to start a new account if you're using the features of the site, but get one for writing on the boards!

crfische · January 2010

I haven't googled you!

I'm not ALL Crazy.

I just google people when I'm trying to prove a a point to people about internet safety. Like, when people have their last names in their bios and SN's. MORONS.

terbear_86 · January 2010

LoL That's why I named us after a network tv show. LOL. try googling that! lmao.

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