I got an email from my future sister-in-law yesterday that she is unable to make my bridal shower and bachelorette parties (they are on the same day) because her daughter has a performance that weekend. Her daughter is also standing up in my wedding and I am really upset about this. I really want my future in-laws to be there and I am really upset about this. I talked to my mom and she said that was a decision they had to make since we set the date at Christmas last year and we shouldn't change it just for them. I think if it was one of my friends who couldn't make it, I would agree, but family is different. I feel like we should at least try and see if there is another date we could switch to. Am I wrong to put that pressure on my family for my future family?
What is the right thing to do? BTW, invitation have not gone out, so there are no guests to inform if there is a change. Thanks for the help!
Re: Bridesmaids missing shower/bachelorette
If you want to spend time with her, go out to dinner with her some other time.
[QUOTE]My FSILs were my bridesmaids and live about five hours away. They didn't come in for the shower. I was fine with that. It's a long drive. My shower was also on a Sunday so it would have been a long day for them. I agree with Joy. Their being at the wedding is more important then the shower.
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Same here. My FSILs live about 4 hours away and won't be able to make my bachelorette party either b/c of the drive. They are by no means obligated to attend any party except the wedding itself. FMIL has suggested that they will make the drive to one of my showers thrown in my home town, and that was unexpected and exciting for me b/c I wasn't sure they'd be able to make anything. I know its a bummer, but enjoy the people who are going to make it!
Actually I didn't even invite my FSIL's. FI has only brothers, so my FSIL's are brother's wives who I don't know well, and one lives out of state. I had a small shower of close friends only, less than 15 people, and FMIL was invited and attended.