I got an email from my future sister-in-law yesterday that she is unable to make my bridal shower and bachelorette parties (they are on the same day) because her daughter has a performance that weekend. Her daughter is also standing up in my wedding and I am really upset about this. I really want my future in-laws to be there and I am really upset about this. I talked to my mom and she said that was a decision they had to make since we set the date at Christmas last year and we shouldn't change it just for them. I think if it was one of my friends who couldn't make it, I would agree, but family is different. I feel like we should at least try and see if there is another date we could switch to. Am I wrong to put that pressure on my family for my future family?
What is the right thing to do? BTW, invitation have not gone out, so there are no guests to inform if there is a change. Thanks for the help!