S/O Baby Poll

TiDa2009 · November 2009

Although I really, really want kids, I have my moments where I board the "never" train, too. Those moments usually include seeing a sick kid, or an amber alert, or hearing about someone who has lost a small child. When those type of things happen, I think to myself "there is no way in hell I could handle that, so I shouldn't put myself in the situation for it to be a possibility in the first place."

All in all, I do really want them, though. I would never judge or think poorly of someone who doesn't want them, though. A full life is a full ife, whether it's becuase you have children or travel or have a great career, whatever.

NuggetBrain · November 2009

I love the idea of kids. I love holding our friends' babies and our nieces and nephews and playing with them and all that. But actually having to take care of them still sets my teeth on edge a bit.

squirrly · November 2009

The world needs people who don't want to have kids of their own. Those people get to be the cool Aunt or Uncle, take the kids for a day or two, go to the zoo, feed them ice cream & candy, have fun, and send them home when they're tired of them. Parents NEED that break, even if the kids come home with the sugar high.

dorothyinAus · November 2009

I have never wanted children. I didn't even play with dolls as a child. My FI doesn't want kids either.

I come from a long line (on both sides of my family) of childless couples. Of my paternal grandmother's 7 sisters, only 3 had children, and then only 2 each. My maternal grandmother was adopted by an otherwise childless couple, but of her adoptive parents siblings, 7 out of 10 were childless.

My favorite great-aunt is childless. Not long after she became a widow for the second time, we were talking and she said that mourning her husbands were the only times in her life she missed having children and that she felt it unfair to cling to her nieces and nephews when she needed them because she didn't ever want the responsibility of a family of her own. There is no way she would have done the things she did, or have the things she does had she had children. In the end, I think it is much better to be the really cool aunt. (Aside she's now 88, has a live-in boyfriend, much o the scandal of her rural hometown, and is having the time of her life. I want to be just like her when I grow up!)

lannerjarv · November 2009

i didn't want kids until i met my husband.
i was adamant that they weren't for me, that i wasn't "built for children" so to speak.

now i know i want them. i want them bad actually. lol

but as the little planner that i am i want to be at a certain place financially before we start trying, and that ain't happening for about 18 or so months.

laboheme68 · November 2009

Never say never, I suppose.

I am not a fan of babies. Or young kids. And they aren't a fan of me. If I did have kid I would want to fast foward so they were 20 or so, so we could hang out.

I'm not willing to give up my career (a career that I've worked very hard in to be successful) for a kid. And honestly? I don't want to completely blow out my body if I have one. Call me vain, but when my mom had me she ruptured a ton of blood vessels in her legs, had to have emergency surgery, was bedrest for most of her pregnancy and the doc said if she tried to have another kid they might have to amputate her leg (because of the bursting blood vessels). I have circulation issues, like my mom, and I fear this happening. I have enough health problems without adding pregnancy to that mix (heart condition).

A dog (which we don't have) is a lot of responsibility. A kid is even more - it's such a life altering decision that I can't fathom signing on for at this point in time.

betrothed123 · November 2009

I don't want kids either.

betrothed123 · November 2009

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_baby-poll-2?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:2b62ff28-8a99-4d0c-bf73-1cdcc6c2bd66Post:095619bf-b0d2-4122-aa67-72fbcc301f34">Re: S/O Baby Poll</a>:
[QUOTE]The world needs people who don't want to have kids of their own. Those people get to be the cool Aunt or Uncle, take the kids for a day or two, go to the zoo, feed them ice cream & candy, have fun, and send them home when they're tired of them. Parents NEED that break, even if the kids come home with the sugar high.
Posted by squirrly[/QUOTE]
Holy crap, were you watching me babysit my niece last time? SIL drops her off and says "If she wants candy she can have it," and because my niece heard her say it she begged for candy the entire time. So she got it. I gave her her own bag of M&Ms about 20 minutes before SIL came to get her. Oddly enough I haven't babysat since.

lilgina64 · November 2009

I respect people who decide not to have kids. I don't know if I could be selfless enough to have a child... I'm also still a baby myself so I can't imagine taking care of an infant. If you choose not to have children I say good for you. With all the bad parents in the world and all the children being abandoned by irresponsible dead beats, I think it's smart that someone can admit they should not be a parent not because they'll be a bad one, but because they want to put themselves first.

I don't know if we'll have kids. I don't know if I'll personally be able to because of health problems, but in the end I'd like to think I'd only have them after I'm done being selfish and can be a good parent.

ok I'm off my soapbox now.

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