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SineadHickey
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Friend thinks she's a bridesmaid
Hey guys,
So I've been lurking here for awhile. I love how all of you give straigh forward advice and I'm know I'm going to get some now, because I definitely messed up. I didn't mean to, but I lost my spine.
I got engaged awhile ago. I told one of my good, not great friends. (I see her about once a month if even.) Anyways, the day I told her I was engaged, instead of congratulating me she let out a big squeel and said "Oh my gosh, I'm going to be the maid of honor!" I know what I should have done right there, but instead I just let out a nervous laugh and sort of turned away.
She has now gone around telling all of our mutual friends she is the MOH.
I do not even want this girl to be a BM. We are not that close and there's a lot of things I don't like about her. What the heck am I supposed to do now? I know I messed up by not handling it right then and there. Any ideas on how to fix it?
Thanks!
So I've been lurking here for awhile. I love how all of you give straigh forward advice and I'm know I'm going to get some now, because I definitely messed up. I didn't mean to, but I lost my spine.
I got engaged awhile ago. I told one of my good, not great friends. (I see her about once a month if even.) Anyways, the day I told her I was engaged, instead of congratulating me she let out a big squeel and said "Oh my gosh, I'm going to be the maid of honor!" I know what I should have done right there, but instead I just let out a nervous laugh and sort of turned away.
She has now gone around telling all of our mutual friends she is the MOH.
I do not even want this girl to be a BM. We are not that close and there's a lot of things I don't like about her. What the heck am I supposed to do now? I know I messed up by not handling it right then and there. Any ideas on how to fix it?
Thanks!
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Re: Friend thinks she's a bridesmaid
Honestly you know what to do. I think you want to know how to do it. I don't know the girl, you do, so come up with a way to let her down gently.
Not really advice but what can you expect?
Don't have her in the wedding. You didn't formally ask her, though you definitely should have spoken up when she assumed she would be your MOH. Still, I would not have someone in my wedding soley bc they assumed that they would be.
I do have to say I find it odd that she automatically assumed that she'd be your MOH when you don't even consider her close enough to have her as a BM...
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"Hey, Lisa, I'm so sorry. I feel like a dunce. i haven't done the bridal party at all, or thought out who I want to ask to be bridesmaids or the maid of honor. I think you mentioned it once, off hand, and I mistook it for a joke. I really don't want to hurt your feelings, but I just realized that we weren't on the same page. I hope you understand."
She's going to be disappointed. Maybe even really upset. Hopefully it will fade over time.
Dresses may be easier to take in than let out, but guest lists are not. -- kate51485
She's basically a party girl and she literally calls everyone her Best Friend. I literally mean everyone. She'll say "oh i can't stand so and so." and that person will mention how she said they're best friends. And I always see her on facebook saying to about 5 different people a day "I miss you BFF". She really thinks the 40 people she calls her best friend, consider her, her one and only. It's a bit tiresome.
Anyways thanks for the advice guys, I really appreciate it.
[QUOTE]Sounds like you don't like this chick at all.
Posted by Rosie109[/QUOTE]
At times true. She has some redeeming qualities. She's just a bit yonger than me and I think has some growing up to do.
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