Ugh. Okay, so let me start out by saying my parents are good people, but very religious and rigid about not only their lives, but mine. It annoys me greatly.
On to the problem: I'm having an open bar at my reception and living in sin (because I moved in with him 3 months before the wedding because I got a new job in the city he lives in). My mom is being an absolute nightmare. She told me that if my grandparents were alive (died before I was born) that they wouldn't have attended this wedding, and that she wouldn't have come to the wedding if they didn't. I told her that they're not alive, so she can't speak for them and that it would be pretty crappy of her not to attend my wedding. She said it was crappy of me to have an open bar because my family is religious. This was almost two weeks ago, and I am just really upset about her even alluding to the idea of skipping my wedding based on a mild reception with a little wine and beer. I love my mom. I really do, but at what point do you just say....this is my life. I am 25. I am not religious. So if you're so disgusted, then don't come. It's not like I am hitting the crack pipe, drop kicking babies, and diminishing humanity. I am living with my fiancé and supplying drinks at the wedding. Really, what is it about religion? How can what I do with MY LIFE be so important to her that she is totally okay with hurting and alienating me? So in summary...what is the etiquette advice? Not only on handling my mother, but handling an open bar with a (probably not present) religious family? Am I in the wrong here to have an open bar if it offends?