Saving Ourselves

joyfulbride424 · February 2011

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Saving Ourselves : <a href="http://women.ygoy.com/top-ten-reasons-for-divorce/" rel='nofollow'>http://women.ygoy.com/top-ten-reasons-for-divorce/</a> <a href="http://www.divorceguide.com/free-divorce-advice/marriage-and-separation-advice/the-top-10-reasons-for-divorce.html" rel='nofollow'>http://www.divorceguide.com/free-divorce-advice/marriage-and-separation-advice/the-top-10-reasons-for-divorce.html</a> <a href="http://www.psychpage.com/family/mod_couples_thx/divorce.html" rel='nofollow'>http://www.psychpage.com/family/mod_couples_thx/divorce.html</a> <a href="http://www.buzzle.com/articles/common-causes-and-reasons-for-divorce.html" rel='nofollow'>http://www.buzzle.com/articles/common-causes-and-reasons-for-divorce.html</a>
Posted by SuMmErKuTiE[/QUOTE]

Thank you!

SuMmErKuTiE · February 2011

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Saving Ourselves : Thank you!
Posted by joyfulbride424[/QUOTE]

You're welcome! I just want to set the record straight that I'm not blasting anyone who waits until marriage, I was just putting it out there that not everyone who waits is happy with their decision. I have so much respect for those who wait, but I'm just also aware of the fact that it can cause a lot of issues if you end up being incompatible or you're a bit surprised by the "packaging" if it's less or more than you were expecting.

My husband and I were definitely made for each other and are very compatible in every way, and I thank God every day for bringing him into my life in His perfect timing.

joyfulbride424 · February 2011

I didn't think you were blasting anyone at all - sometimes its hard over the internet to have a conversation without making each other feel like you're battling each other

loves2shop4shoes · February 2011

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[QUOTE]I am curious how the people who wrote on this board feel about the Biblical instruction that tells us to run away from sexual sin and sex outside of marriage. Hebrews 13:4 says, "Marriage should be honored by everyone, and husband and wife should keep their marriage pure. God will judge as guilty those who take part in sexual sins." 1 Corinthians 18-20 says, " Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a person commits are outside the body, but whoever sins sexually, sins against their own body. 19 Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; 20 you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your bodies. Edit: I also wanted to include this verse but I couldn't remember the passage. 1 Corinthians 7:2: But since there is so much immorality, each man should have his own wife, and each woman her own husband.
Posted by joyfulbride424[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>I don't mean this nastily, but you're mistaken if you think you can communicate ALL of your sexual wants/needs/expectations before actually ever having sex. There are certain things you may not know to discuss, or can only discuss after experiencing it. For example, you could LOVE one position and your H could hate it. You won't know about this until you've experienced it.</div><div>
</div><div>As for reconciling the Biblical stuff, I think "keeping your marriage pure" means being faithful. As for as "sexual immorality", I think the Bible is referring to sex with animals, prostitutes, sex with someone who is already married, etc. I think if the Bible meant "Don't have premarital sex", it would say "Don't have premarital sex." </div><div>
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musicalsunlight · February 2011

I have to agree with summerkutie on this one. I would never advocate NOT waiting, because that is everyone's personal choice. But I think it is naive to assume that people who wait are less likely to divorce simply because of that fact.

joyfulbride424 · February 2011

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Saving Ourselves : I don't mean this nastily, but <strong>you're mistaken if you think you can communicate ALL of your sexual wants/needs/expectations before actually ever having sex. </strong> There are certain things you may not know to discuss, or can only discuss after experiencing it. For example, you could LOVE one position and your H could hate it. You won't know about this until you've experienced it. As for reconciling the Biblical stuff, I think "keeping your marriage pure" means being faithful. As for as "sexual immorality", I think the Bible is referring to sex with animals, prostitutes, sex with someone who is already married, etc. I think if the Bible meant "Don't have premarital sex", it would say "Don't have premarital sex."
Posted by loves2shop4shoes[/QUOTE]

I agree with this that I've highlighted- I don't think you can. I personally believe that there is some stuff that you can't communicate until you've had sex. I guess where we differ is how you can connect on this level after you're married. To each his own - honestly I wasn't looking to argue, I just wanted your opinion on the interpretation of those verses.

joyfulbride424 · February 2011

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[QUOTE]I have to agree with summerkutie on this one. I would never advocate NOT waiting, because that is everyone's personal choice. <strong>But I think it is naive to assume that people who wait are less likely to divorce simply because of that fact.</strong>
Posted by musicalsunlight[/QUOTE]

I agree with this - I think that divorce varies from couple to couple, and I feel that when divorce happens it is more than likely for several reasons - not just one lone reason.

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