Are Diamonds THAT important?

Soon2BSand · April 2011

So I'm sitting here looking at this ring that FI got me and while I love it... I'm almost sure (not that I had it appraised or anything) that it would pay for the wedding, a down payment on a nice car, and a little in savings too.

I'm starting to think I'd much rather have a nice CZ set in a sterling or gold setting and be done with it... all while saving thousands.

How would you feel if your FI got you a "ring" and not a RING?

Would it matter?

Ambie106 · April 2011

Don't get me wrong every girl loves diamonds and I LOVE my e-ring... but I can honestly say that it doesn't matter if its a CZ or a real diamond to me.. I look at it as materialistic object. If he proposed without the ring I still would have said yes. Believe it or not some CZ actually look real.... I guess it depends on the person.... but either way it doesn't matter for me....

mandi921vh · April 2011

I don't think diamonds are that important at all! I would have been fine with CZ or another diamond looking gemstone, it doesn't really matter. I just wanted a ring on my ring finger that symbolized our engagement.

S0095042 · April 2011

umm, this is hard. My ring was an heirloom piece and then the FI bought a small ring to complement it for our 6 year anavarsary (about 1k...very resonable---but my heirloom ring is a decent size--plat. setting and about 2 car.) In the end, I think I want a real diamond...but nothing that is too expensive. Anything over a few "k" I think is a waste...as you've described.

leahstinson · April 2011

I have been married before (really young for me, then husband was 8 yrs older) but my ring then cost him just a little under 6k. I now have a ring that while it is diamonds and I absolutely LOVE it, it cost him MAYBE $900. (it's even 1 I picked out)

So, no, it doesn't matter to me what I have. It's something that is materialistic, doesn't determine how happy I am, how our marriage wil last, etc.

Soon2BSand · April 2011

I haven't posted a pic of my ring for that VERY reason... I think it's gaudy and a bit over the top. Not to mention expensive as sh*t.

I don't know how to say... "honey this wasn't nesc." without making him feel "less than a man" or something.

I mean when I was 21 maybe it would have matter but now? Not so much...

Let me find a pic for you. (My stupid phone is dead)

gpapale1 · April 2011

My ring is a real diamond, but I really would have been fine with one of those plastic rings that come out of a 25 cent machine, LOL To me, it's what the ring means, not the material that makes it up. I love my engagment ring (I picked it out), and it was about $1k when Jason bought it...I think it's a little crazy to spend much more than that, and we didn't want to be in debt forever to pay it off. I'm also not fond of buying diamonds that aren't certified to be "blood-free". I would rather wear nothing than know the diamond on my finger may have cost someone his life.

pantherRN · April 2011

I really wanted a diamond. And that's what he got me. He also shopped around for a long time to get the price he was willing to pay.

If Chuck had said he just couldn't afford a diamond, I wouldn't have cared. However, I don't think I would have wanted a CZ either. A different gemstone (sapphire maybe?) would have been perfectly OK.

mandi921vh · April 2011

I think sometimes guys don't want to look like "less than a man" for buying a small diamond ring, as it makes them look cheap (they think).

rainlex83 · April 2011

To be honest. I love diamonds. I don't think I would settle for CZ. Yes, they do look real when they are brand new. Over time they look plastic. I wouldn't like that. FI bought me moissanite earrings for our anniversary and I love them. They have the same sparkle as real diamonds, but a step up from CZ. And it cost way less than real diamond earrings.
I think it was more important to the both of us to get something that I love and that we could afford. (I got to pick out my ring)

Tlongo · April 2011

I really wanted a diamond too. I don't think I would have wanted it to be too big though. I definitely notice others girls rings more now. Sometimes it just seems like too much, thete are lots of other things more important than the ring.

kedorsett · April 2011

Honestly, I love my ring. I have never owned a diamond before my ering, so its very special to me. (Besides the fact that my FI bought it for me because he wants me to be his wife!) I will probably never own any other diamonds in my life except maybe earrings or something. So, I wouldn't trade it. I love it. That being said, my ring and wedding band together (came in a set) was under 1K. So I don't really feel bad about it. It's not huge, you can't see it from outer space, but its mine and I love it. And I think it looks beautiful on my hand.

However, I do think sapphire erings are gorgeous! Like Kate Middletons. Swoon!

Good luck!

daftmagpie · April 2011

My Ering is a 6 carat light green tourmaline with some small accent diamonds. I am so in love with it and when people see it I always get asked what stone it is and told how unique it is. I had it appraised to insure it and my appraisal was $1450. I honestly thought great job babe you got me a killer ring that is so Chandra and you did it with out going into debt.

Maybe its because I've gotten old but I really appreciate our love so much more then a ring.

Soon2BSand · April 2011

Ok now that I have a charge... here's my e-ring. I love it and hate it all at the same time.

klw0022 · April 2011

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[QUOTE]I really wanted a diamond. And that's what he got me. He also shopped around for a long time to get the price he was willing to pay. If Chuck had said he just couldn't afford a diamond, I wouldn't have cared. However, I don't think I would have wanted a CZ either. A different gemstone (sapphire maybe?) would have been perfectly OK.
Posted by pantherRN[/QUOTE]

This^^

I have to admit I am very sentimental and keep things forever and ever so I wanted something I could keep forever and ever. I don't have any other diamonds, like PP have said, and it means the world to me. The setting I picked out looks a lot like my mom's ring but the diamond he picked was bigger than I realistically wanted. FI used to do marketing for Tiffany's so insisted I get something bigger than I wanted and in the end the center diamond is way bigger than expected. I love him for getting me a beautiful ring, but agree that a lot of guys want to show you and it off so there's no nice way to tell them "you didn't have to, honey"... I have to admit, not to be a brat or anything, with him working hard to get me this beautiful ring he showed me he really wanted to prove his commitment to have me as his betrothed....so I'll live with mine and I'm pretty stinkin' happy ;)

greeneke2 · April 2011

I'd have to say I'd rather have a real diamond. Like PP said, I've never owned any diamonds before, I've never even really had any nice jewelry before. I don't think I'd settle for a CZ. I mean if FI had bought me a CZ I would still marry him but I definitely wouldn't be happy. But he did go a little overboard with my ring, I mean I picked it out but I never thought he would actually buy it because it was so expensive.

And Soon2B your ring is absolutely beautiful!

klw0022 · April 2011

DANG LATASHA!! BLING BLIIIINGGG!

greeneke2 · April 2011

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[QUOTE]DANG LATASHA!! BLING BLIIIINGGG! :D
Posted by klw0022[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>Haha That was my first thought too!!! haha

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bpphoto785 · April 2011

it's hard to say. my diamond is from my mom's engagement ring so for that reason I wouldn't want anything else.
if that weren't the case I'd like to say it wouldn't matter what he got me, but I'm pretty traditional and I think I would want a diamond on my finger even if it were tiny. on the other hand, I think I would kill him if he spent too much. I'd much rather have a nice roof over my head than a huge rock on my finger.

Soon2BSand · April 2011

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Are Diamonds THAT important? : Haha That was my first thought too!!! haha
Posted by greeneke2[/QUOTE]
I hardly wear it... *smh*

greeneke2 · April 2011

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Are Diamonds THAT important? : I hardly wear it... *smh*
Posted by Soon2BSand[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>I's be scared to wear it! My FI proposed in Washington DC and some parts are not the greatest that we were walking through. And my ring isn't as big as yours but its still big and I was scared I was gonna get mugged lol...I was always flipping my ring around so you couldn't see the diamond!

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arauchte · April 2011

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[QUOTE]Ok now that I have a charge... here's my e-ring. I love it and hate it all at the same time. :(
Posted by Soon2BSand[/QUOTE]

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</div><div>Great GOO! that is a huge ring! But absolutely gorgeous! I would wear that thing loud and proud. I would have to say I definitely prefer a diamond. FI picked out the exact ring I wanted without me having to actually point it out. It is very simple and thats why I love it. I have never owned diamonds so this one is really special to me. It makes me happy to stare at it. haha</div>

FutureMrsSheeler · April 2011

I totally am the same as PantherRN.. I wanted a nice peice of jewelry, I am wearing it everyday for the rest of my life. No, it wouldn't have mattered if it were a smaller diamond, but I do appreciate my ring very much, and we waited to find the diamond he was more than comfortable paying for, and the one that I loved.

justanotherbride · April 2011

I don't really think having a diamond matters. I've also been married before, so I have different opinions on certain things when it comes to weddings and marriages in general. I love my ring, it's a 4 carat gemstone aquamarine with pave diamonds around it.. wouldn't trade it for anything else!

LDW0225 · April 2011

I love my ring, but it wouldn't have mattered to me if he proposed with nothing at all. The commitment is what matters, not the ring. . It doesn't matter in the end. Sure I love my ring, but its because the man I love gave it to me. Plain and simple in my eyes.

angelsong21 · April 2011

I agree - I really love my diamond ring! I have also never owned diamonds before in my life either, and I likely will never get another, which is perfectly fine by me. This ring is incredibly special to me beyond what it represents. FI saved up money so we spent a bit of money on the ring but nothing extravagant (everyone I know my age has significantly more expensive engagement rings) and we're happy with the amount we paid for it. It just has a lot of sentimental value to me, but if he could not have afforded one, i would have been okay with anything besides a CZ.

Soon2BSand · April 2011

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[QUOTE]I don't really think having a diamond matters. I've also been married before, so I have different opinions on certain things when it comes to weddings and marriages in general. I love my ring, it's a 4 carat gemstone aquamarine with pave diamonds around it.. wouldn't trade it for anything else! :)
Posted by justanotherbride[/QUOTE]
This is my second marriage also... the first time I was stupid superficial (my brother taught me that slang term) and I didn't think about what happened after the "wedding". This time around I can do without all the fanfare if it all came down to it. Maybe that's it...

Soon2BSand · April 2011

Oh and I used CZ as an example of something other than a diamond... substitute ANY stone for the diamond.

I love how we're discussing this ladies! It's great!

daizee32 · April 2011

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[QUOTE]I agree - I really love my diamond ring! I have also never owned diamonds before in my life either, and I likely will never get another, which is perfectly fine by me. This ring is incredibly special to me beyond what it represents. FI saved up money so we spent a bit of money on the ring but nothing extravagant (everyone I know my age has significantly more expensive engagement rings) and we're happy with the amount we paid for it. It just has a lot of sentimental value to me, but if he could not have afforded one, i would have been okay with anything besides a CZ.
Posted by angelsong21[/QUOTE]

I totally feel the same way.

lnvane00 · April 2011

At first I was seriously looking into getting a Diamond Nexus diamond. Because I figured if I tried to go the cheap route then Chris might feel more comfortable about buying a ring.
To my suprise he was more comfortable about buying a real diamond. I of course did not object to that!! So we found the perfect ring. He took me to go look because I am very picky and he knows I wouldnt have been happy unless I found exactly what I wanted.
I'm happy with what I have. And it came with the wedding band all for just over
2k. I feel that I am totally worth it.. and more

mansnicole · April 2011

When I was growing up, I always told my best friends I would never wear a diamond. They just always seemed so unneccesary. Then when my FI and I started looking at rings I had decided on a black diamond because they are gorgeous. The ring my FI ended up getting me was more than I could have ever asked for, and its not a diamond at all its a blue topaz, and wasn't more than 350 dollars. I feel like our money can be better spent on our house and our life after the wedding.

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