They changed the appearance of my venue!!! Am I overreacting?

AllAboutTheBenjamin · October 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_changed-appearance-of-venue-am-overreacting?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:0d9371bc-01a8-4852-ba62-16db563a50a6Post:bc151493-b014-41b0-bc67-9780e202a4b3">Re: They changed the appearance of my venue!!! Am I overreacting?</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: They changed the appearance of my venue!!! Am I overreacting? : The economy tanked because people stopped spending money that they didn't have to begin with and failed to pay back debts that were owed. Continuing to throw money into a billion dollor business (weddings) that blows things totally out of proportion and perspective isn't going to keep the economy going. Its the thinking that we *need* to spend that kind of money for a wedding/reception(as well as for other things) that got this country in trouble. I find it very sad that $10k is considered a "budget" wedding. What a joke. That buys a good car, or helps with the down payment on a house, or pays student loans. Because of people trying to "keep up with the Jones'", it is nearly impossible to get anything for a wedding at a reasonable cost. I really don't care how much money she makes, nor what she chooses to spend; but if you've got that kind of cash to blow then you really aren't in a position to whine about jack sh&*. I have no sympathy for the entitled princess in distress.
Posted by buckettgirl[/QUOTE]

Yeah, um okay.

Thanks for the lesson in economics but that still has nothing to do with how much she wants to spend on her wedding. If that's what they want to do, and they can do it, then - they should go for it.

Frosted windows or not :)

JennaV26 · October 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Because of people trying to "keep up with the Jones'", it is nearly impossible to get anything for a wedding at a reasonable cost. I really don't care how much money she makes, nor what she chooses to spend; <strong>but if you've got that kind of cash to blow then you really aren't in a position to whine about jack sh&*.</strong> I have no sympathy for the entitled princess in distress.
Posted by buckettgirl[/QUOTE]

You seem to be a very angry person with a very skewed view of the world. If you think people with money don't have anything to whine about you've got a lot to learn little girl.

SarahPLiz · October 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: They changed the appearance of my venue!!! Am I overreacting? : The economy tanked because people stopped spending money that they didn't have to begin with and failed to pay back debts that were owed. Continuing to throw money into a billion dollor business (weddings) that blows things totally out of proportion and perspective isn't going to keep the economy going. Its the thinking that we *need* to spend that kind of money for a wedding/reception(as well as for other things) that got this country in trouble. I find it very sad that $10k is considered a "budget" wedding. What a joke. That buys a good car, or helps with the down payment on a house, or pays student loans. Because of people trying to "keep up with the Jones'", it is nearly impossible to get anything for a wedding at a reasonable cost. I really don't care how much money she makes, nor what she chooses to spend; <strong>but if you've got that kind of cash to blow then you really aren't in a position to whine about jack sh&*. </strong>I have no sympathy for the entitled princess in distress.
Posted by buckettgirl[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>You are always entitled to get what you pay for, no matter the cost of the item or service, how much money you make, or what percentage of your income you are spending on that item. Her gripe is that things are not as they were promised to be. </div><div>
</div><div>You need to get the huge chip off of your shoulder. YOu don't get to decide how other people spend their money.

</div>

LuluP82 · October 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: They changed the appearance of my venue!!! Am I overreacting? : The economy tanked because people stopped spending money that they didn't have to begin with and failed to pay back debts that were owed. Continuing to throw money into a billion dollor business (weddings) that blows things totally out of proportion and perspective isn't going to keep the economy going. Its the thinking that we *need* to spend that kind of money for a wedding/reception(as well as for other things) that got this country in trouble. I find it very sad that $10k is considered a "budget" wedding. What a joke. <strong>That buys a good car, or helps with the down payment on a house, or pays student loans</strong>. Because of people trying to "keep up with the Jones'", it is nearly impossible to get anything for a wedding at a reasonable cost. <strong> I really don't care how much money she makes, nor what she chooses to spend; but if you've got that kind of cash to blow then you really aren't in a position to whine about jack sh&*. I have no sympathy for the entitled princess in distress.
</strong>Posted by buckettgirl[/QUOTE]

That is ridiculous. It's none of your business how anyone spends their money. Maybe she has a car and a house and no loans. How do you know? And even if she doesn't...if she's not asking you to pay for it, it's, again, none of your business.

Don't want to spend money on a wedding? Then don't!

But yea, of course she can be upset about it. She spent a lot of money on something that was important to her, and it got taken away. She is understandably disappointed. I'd never in a million years throw a disney-themed wedding, because it's not my style. But, if I heard that my venue switched chefs or menus, when I've signed a contract to drop a pretty penny on food for my reception, I'd be upset, too, especially if it fundamentally changed what I've paid for.

tidetravel · October 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: They changed the appearance of my venue!!! Am I overreacting? : The economy tanked because people stopped spending money that they didn't have to begin with and failed to pay back debts that were owed. Continuing to throw money into a billion dollor business (weddings) that blows things totally out of proportion and perspective isn't going to keep the economy going. Its the thinking that we *need* to spend that kind of money for a wedding/reception(as well as for other things) that got this country in trouble. I find it very sad that $10k is considered a "budget" wedding. What a joke. That buys a good car, or helps with the down payment on a house, or pays student loans. Because of people trying to "keep up with the Jones'", it is nearly impossible to get anything for a wedding at a reasonable cost. I really don't care how much money she makes, nor what she chooses to spend; but if you've got that kind of cash to blow then you really aren't in a position to whine about jack sh&*. I have no sympathy for the entitled princess in distress.
Posted by buckettgirl[/QUOTE]

No one's giving you a hard time for throwing away $2700 on a party, when you could buy a marriage license for $50 and call it a day. Get off your high horse and stop acting like a jealous brat.

saschaduran · October 2010

Reverse snobbery and being judgmental and bitter to those who have money is an ugly, ugly trait. And an ignorant one as well.

So you really think that someone who has an extra $20,000 has no right to complain about anything? So ignorant I can't even respond. She is using her own money and has the right to spend it however she chooses. Not to mention that $20,000 is still below the national average, so she is really not being that excessive.

I may feel slightly nauseous knowing that Disney makes wedding dresses, but I think the OP has every right to feel entitled to get the venue that she paid for, and I am sure her wedding will be beautiful.

saisongbird · October 2010

Bucket, seriously, grow up. So long as people can afford to pay their bills, and have the money to spend, it doesn't matter how much people spend on their weddings. I fell in love with my venue for the view, so did she. If my venue closed off our water view, I would have been FURIOUS. Hers happens to be at Disney, and she's not getting the setting she was told she going to get, which is understandably upsetting. She didn't come in here and scream, she handled herself maturely. And she's not an entitled brat, she's paying for a venue that was described to be one way, and now she's not getting what she paid for. She has a legitimate grip that needs to be handled in a mature way. All you're doing is making yourself sound like a brat.

Don't take your anger at the world out on people who live responsibly. It's a futile fight.

[Deleted User] · October 2010

Bucketgirl, you suck. That's all there really is to say.

Wrkn925 · October 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_changed-appearance-of-venue-am-overreacting?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:17Discussion:0d9371bc-01a8-4852-ba62-16db563a50a6Post:9cd0e650-e7e9-460c-96e9-50f665810960">Re: They changed the appearance of my venue!!! Am I overreacting?</a>:
[QUOTE]why is this song running throuhg my head: There's a hole in my bucket, dear Liza dear Liza, There's a hole in my bucket, Dear Liza a hole!
Posted by SarahPLiz[/QUOTE]

Then fix it dear Henry, dear Henry. Then fix it dear Henry, dear Henry the hole.

bridgeeboo · October 2010

In Response to Re: They changed the appearance of my venue!!! Am I overreacting? : Not really. . . The whole idea of a Disney Princess wedding and spending $20k on a reception is beyond friviolous. It's things like this that make me wonder where our world is heading.
Posted by buckettgirl

You have no idea of my circumstances. I have a large family that my parents insist I invite (but are not paying for). I live in L.A., and almost anywhere I looked was expensive. I was seriously ill with cancer while I was in college, and got kicked off health insurance and had to spend over $20,000 on my medical treatment on my own- my family did nothing. For once I would like to spend money on something happy, and I have been working 2 jobs to help pay for the wedding, though my fiance has enough to cover it, I don't feel he should be th only one paying. He has already helped me so much already through my illness-emotionally, spiritually, even sometimes financially. I was trying to get some perspective on what I should do about the windows, and if I was right in being upset, instead I got criticized for choosing Disneyland and spending the money we are. Thanks to the Knotties that were constructive, to the others that weren't, I wish you well with your planning and weddings, I hope others don't judge you so harshly on these boards.

bridgeeboo · October 2010

P.S.
Bucketgirl---I grew up in Detroit, got full scholarships for both my B.A. and M.A., and have had a job since I was 14 (of course I was babysitting, etc. before that). So, sorry to disappoint you, I have NEVER been entitled. You are right, though, I am a princess.

BecW2be · October 2010

Well said, Bridge. All but that last sentence. If your mother is queen of some country, I'll give you the princess title, but even if not, you still have kicked ass in your life and you can have whatever kind of wedding you want.

I hope bucketofsuckgirl trips on some kid's Disney Princess crown thrown in front of her on her way down the aisle. I love ironic justice!

bridgeeboo · October 2010

Thanks, Bec. LOL you are correct about the princess line

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