PANIC! NEED ADVICE :(

TheCranberry · September 2010

Who knows why Fatchunk does or does not have insurance for herself or whether she even has it for her child. For every story about someone who could get it easily (through medicaid, self purchase, whatever), there is a story about someone else who could not for whatever reason. Health coverage and services is a complicated issue, and I don't think it's right to judge someone as irresponsible without knowing her specific situation.

Fatchunk, I hope you will heed our advice and try to see a health care provider. Even if the doc tells you what the women here told you, it's better to be safe than sorry.

[Deleted User] · September 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: PANIC! NEED ADVICE :( : Yes it is irresponsible. She should not have had a child if she couldn't cover the costs of care, which include insurance. The only reason to not have health insurance, provided you are employed, is if you don't view it as a priority, which is irresponsible. Even when living paycheck to paycheck, eating ramen noodles 5 times a week I had health insurance because it's a necessity. If OP has anything that is not a necessity she is being irrsponsible to not have health insurance.
Posted by betrothed123[/QUOTE]

It's no surprise that I am agreeing with B, but this times a bajillion. As soon as I read the part about her not having health care, my first thought was "how irresponsible".

J&K10910 · September 2010

Just FYI, if your script was more than a year old (which it sounds like it was), your pharmacy did something ILLEGAL when they filled it. Scripts expire after a year, and there is a reason for that.

[Deleted User] · September 2010

And I think it's just as irresponsible to not have insurance for yourself than it is to not have it for your child. You are responsible for a life and part of that responsibility is to take care of yourself. It's as simple as that. She has someone that depends on her for everything, yet she's being reckless with her own health. That's shitty, IMO.

Night_Sprite · September 2010

Since when does our board have the title "For Advice"? I totally missed that change.

Night_Sprite · September 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: PANIC! NEED ADVICE :( : Maybe I missed something. Didn't she say she didn't have insurance? I didn't see her say her child didn't. Many single women (not me so don't get crazy) go without so they can afford their children's insurance through progrms such as Healthy Families in CA. I work with several women who are in this boat. Also many women who have children have insurance at the time and then lose it after divorce. The child may be covered through the father and she could still not have insurance. Not looking for a fight, just pointing out her statement that SHE does not have insurance does not necessarily equal the child not having any.
Posted by mica001[/QUOTE]
People without insurance, particularly parents of young children, should know about medicaid benefits that are applicable for them and children. Parental insurance is built in to those programs. If she makes too much money to be eligibile, then it is irresponsible not to have insurance.

betrothed123 · September 2010

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[QUOTE]And I think it's just as irresponsible to not have insurance for yourself than it is to not have it for your child. You are responsible for a life and part of that responsibility is to take care of yourself. It's as simple as that. She has someone that depends on her for everything, yet she's being reckless with her own health. That's shitty, IMO.
Posted by cew515[/QUOTE]
Eye to eye, Cew.

redheadfsu · September 2010

OP go to the county heath department or planned parenthood. You need medical advice from a doctor. Anything could be wrong since you didn't have an exam before you when back on the pill.

JennaV26 · September 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: PANIC! NEED ADVICE :( : Well, not everyone is that bad without insurance. My H doesn't have any, and he doesn't have any of that (I'd hope he didn't have fake nails!). He has nothing name brand or expensive, we just can't afford it. If I didn't have my job I wouldn't be able to either. Every place I tried to get coverage through denied me or had a HUGE monthly payment because of a pre-existing condition (cancer). However, we're working on it. We're cancelling our cable, so that will let him get coverage. It's like $500 extra to add him to my policy here at work. Unreal. That being said, all children should have coverage. No excuse not to. But fatchunk never sad the kid didn't have any, just that she didn't. My mom didn't have coverage for awhile but my brother and I were under my dad's.
Posted by Seshat411[/QUOTE]

Your situation is understandable, and it's great that you're working on finding a solution for it and taking steps to get it for your DH. I do understand the frustration of how much it costs, trust me on that.

I just get so mad when people abuse the system. My family is in insurance and I think some people don't understand that while the cost of insurance is high it's a lot better than ending up with a disease that's going to leave you drowning in even higher medical bills. Especially because if you die, your family is stuck trying to find a way to pay those bills.

I'll give OP the benefit of the doubt on the issue of having insurance for her child, I certainly hope she does.

betrothed123 · September 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: PANIC! NEED ADVICE :( : Maybe I missed something. Didn't she say she didn't have insurance? I didn't see her say her child didn't. Many single women (not me so don't get crazy) go without so they can afford their children's insurance through progrms such as Healthy Families in CA. I work with several women who are in this boat. Also many women who have children have insurance at the time and then lose it after divorce. The child may be covered through the father and she could still not have insurance. Not looking for a fight, just pointing out her statement that SHE does not have insurance does not necessarily equal the child not having any.
Posted by mica001[/QUOTE]
This is just as irresponsible, though. Please see Cew's post above yours.

[Deleted User] · September 2010

Jenna--Oh, I agree that people abuse the system, and that they spend their money on useless crap when they could be getting coverage. Like posters have said on here before, I see on FB time and time again where people are bitchng about money yet their post was "send from my iphone" or whatever. That really irritates me.

But for the most part, I'm a little sympathetic to those who don't have health insurance but are trying to. I went for months without because no one would cover me, and I couldn't afford it. My mom lost hers in the divorce and had a hell of a time finding coverage. The whole situation sucks. People shouldn't have to struggle to pay for insurance. But that's a whole different issue.

J&K10910 · September 2010

I wonder how much birth control costs without insurance. I paid $34 a month for mine WITH insurance.

Night_Sprite · September 2010

Mine wasn't covered by insurance and cost 32 dollars as prescribed by my doctor.

AllAboutTheBenjamin · September 2010

I don't know the OP's financial situation but seriously - health insurance is hella expensive. I wouldn't have it if it wasn't provided through my employer. I don't make enough money.

J&K10910 · September 2010

I don't ever think not having insurance should stop someone from seeing a doctor, anyway. Especially for women's health stuff. There are planned parenthoods or similar clinics all over. My college town of 25,000 had an excellent sliding scale fee clinic for women. Plus, there are urgent cares and quick clinics that don't charge a ton (in fact, probably less than you pay for your BCP every month without insurance).

MarriedInAFever · September 2010

WE'RE HERE TO SUPPORT EACH OTHER, LADIES!

Just kidding. What the hell is going on here? OP, you need to see a doctor. Some things are not optional.

MarriedInAFever · September 2010

BTW, my previous pill w/o insurance was 75 bucks. Completely ridiculous.

Night_Sprite · September 2010

I had one that was 53, but I got that knocked down to a generic pretty quickly.

J&K10910 · September 2010

Shut up MILF. No one asked you.

J&K10910 · September 2010

My clinic in college gave me pills for donations. I'd donate $25 usually and get a damn year's worth of pills. Sigh...to be poor and in college again.

Anysunrise · September 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: PANIC! NEED ADVICE :( : Just don't get caught coming over the border with your stash. That could be bad.
Posted by betrothed123[/QUOTE]

True. I'll have to find myself a drug mule.

ReneeJacob · September 2010

Hey at least you're regular enough to schedule your wedding around your cycle! And I'm pretty sure like others have said, your FI wont hesitate to have nookie either way. Guys are nasty like that

~

Night_Sprite · September 2010

Here's a fun fact: You should use a condom anytime you have menstrual sex because the blood could cause an infection in the penis.

AllAboutTheBenjamin · September 2010

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[QUOTE]Here's a fun fact: You should use a condom anytime you have menstrual sex because the blood could cause an infection in the penis.
Posted by Night_Sprite[/QUOTE]

Fun fact... haha wow.

betrothed123 · September 2010

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[QUOTE]Here's a fun fact: You should use a condom anytime you have menstrual sex because the blood could cause an infection in the penis.
Posted by Night_Sprite[/QUOTE]
Please elaborate. What type of infection does it cause? Is it like a UTI, in which case the infection could be avoided by urinating shortly after sex?

TheCranberry · September 2010

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[QUOTE]Here's a fun fact: You should use a condom anytime you have menstrual sex because the blood could cause an infection in the penis.
Posted by Night_Sprite[/QUOTE]

I have never heard this. Wow. I really really want to google this now, but I don't want those search terms on my work computer. Hahaha.

Night_Sprite · September 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: PANIC! NEED ADVICE :( : Please elaborate. What type of infection does it cause? Is it like a UTI, in which case the infection could be avoided by urinating shortly after sex?
Posted by betrothed123[/QUOTE]
I can't find it now, but it was something about blood borne things entering the male urethra, so I assume urination could help prevent problems.

[Deleted User] · September 2010

I would name my band Urethra.

Lenore2010 · September 2010

Issues with Insurance or not aside, you really should only use BC under medical supervision, anyway (meaning within the practice of having a annual axam at least oh, I dunno every year or two!). The pill has many potentially serious side effects, granted they happen to only a few people but when they DO happen they can be a very bad thing. I would sya hit the drugstore for that box of Trojans until you have insurance.

I hope your kid is insured. I hope you do not own much of anything, because if you do and you incur a medical bill for some emergency, they will take everything you own to pay for it.

marriedfilingjointly · September 2010

Anyone else wonder about the single mom who doesn't have sex thing?

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