Hi all! I am in desperate need of help/advice.
I am Caucasian and my Fiancé is Mexican. We decided that we were not going to have mariachis at our wedding awhile ago. We got a DJ and compromised that all types of music would be played.
Now that the wedding is a little over a month away, his family is now speaking up in terms of our plans and how we are going to have things. When we tell them what we are going to do...you can tell that it isn't "Mexican" enough. We have told them that we are not having the wedding be either white or Mexican, rather it will be Danielle and Sergio.
Fast forward to the topic of mariachis. Everytime we see family they bring up the fact that we are not going to have mariachis. They tell me it's in the blood and represents the culture, etc etc etc. Obviously, I know what they represent...hello!! My fiancé and I talk and share our feelings!!
Needless to say, it has become both overwhelming and heartbreaking for both of us. Yes, he wants them, but I do not like them. Also, it is out of our budget and we've already spent the money on the DJ.
I am second guessing what we decided. I really do not like them (not to offend anyone that does) and they are completely out of my budget. He tells me that everything is fine and yes, he wants them, but no, he doesn't need them.
Should I try to surprise him? If I did, I would want them to play at the ceremony site as the guests are arriving. That way, he can experience them, but I won't be there--no harm, no fail. I'd only need them for half an hour.
What are your opinions? How would I even begin to go about trying to hire some??