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Would my ceremony music bore you? or, how many songs are too many?
CN: Is it ok to have two full songs performed during the ceremony? We'll be having music as the parents/BP/bride walk in and recessional music, but is it too much to have two songs performed as part of the ceremony? Since two of our closest friends will be performing the ceremony music, I want to finalize our music so that they have plenty of time to practice together.
Detail stuff: There's a lot of music we'd like to use, but I'm wondering if it's too much. Right now, we're thinking:
Guests getting settled, parents walking in, BP walking in - "Orange Sky" by Alexi Murdoch and "Chase This Light" by Jimmy Eat World (2-3 minutes total)
Me walking down the aisle - "Pretty Voice" by Cloud Cult (probably about 60-90 seconds)
Full song in the ceremony - "Faling Slowly," about 3 minutes
2nd full song (?) - "Such Great Heights" - Iron & Wine (about 2.5 minutes)
Benediction - "Seven Fold Amen" (about 90 seconds)
Recessional - "Anyone Else But You" by Moldy Peaches, (about 90 seconds)
Does that sound OK for a music-loving couple, or am I going to put my guests to sleep?
Detail stuff: There's a lot of music we'd like to use, but I'm wondering if it's too much. Right now, we're thinking:
Guests getting settled, parents walking in, BP walking in - "Orange Sky" by Alexi Murdoch and "Chase This Light" by Jimmy Eat World (2-3 minutes total)
Me walking down the aisle - "Pretty Voice" by Cloud Cult (probably about 60-90 seconds)
Full song in the ceremony - "Faling Slowly," about 3 minutes
2nd full song (?) - "Such Great Heights" - Iron & Wine (about 2.5 minutes)
Benediction - "Seven Fold Amen" (about 90 seconds)
Recessional - "Anyone Else But You" by Moldy Peaches, (about 90 seconds)
Does that sound OK for a music-loving couple, or am I going to put my guests to sleep?
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Re: Would my ceremony music bore you? or, how many songs are too many?
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Think about who is going to be in the crowd. Will it be a majority of "adults" (people that you view as an adult, since we seldom think of ourselves as adults) or will you have lots of friends that enjoy the same music?
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But it's hard to judge without having a sense of what else is happening in your ceremony/how the whole thing will flow. Most of the ceremonies I go to are religious and they're long and there's a ton of music, but the music usually accompanies something specific like a candle lighting or communion or something.
If you're nervous about it in regards to length, you could ask if they would before right before the toasts or something at the reception. The last wedding I went to, they had a traditional church ceremony, so at the reception their friend sang Regina Spektor's "Real Love" at that time and it worked out great.
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Taco cat: Always a palindrome. ALWAYS, okay J&K?
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[QUOTE]<strong>You can always put at least one of the songs beforehand, while the guests are getting settled and waiting for the important people to process in. There's *a lot* of time for that at the beginning of the ceremony since most folks show up 20 minutes early for a wedding</strong>. But it's hard to judge without having a sense of what else is happening in your ceremony/how the whole thing will flow. Most of the ceremonies I go to are religious and they're long and there's a ton of music, but the music usually accompanies something specific like a candle lighting or communion or something.
Posted by ac_in_dc[/QUOTE]
That's a great point... I didn't even think of that!
I went to a wedding where the couple sat in chairs close to where they were standing and the BP sat down in the front row while the musicians played... It was really nice. I could definitely see it being long, though! We'll probably move "Such Great Heights" to before the ceremony and keep "Falling Slowly."
Just about all of my side of the famliy/friends will know most of these songs. FI's family probably wouldn't enjoy them quite as much, so maybe I'll keep some of them shorter. The only one where we wouldn't be doing anything would be during "Falling Slowly." It's such a gorgeous song, and I'm having visions of my two friends just rocking it.
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[QUOTE]To me, the most boring part of a ceremony is having to listen to a song while the B&G just stand there. I could maybe handle one full song, but two would have me looking at my watch. <strong>While the songs are meaningful to you as a couple, the majority of the crowd will be wondering when the song is going to end.</strong>
Posted by georgia_bride09[/QUOTE]
That makes a lot of sense.
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We're doing Alexi Murdoch for our processional too, except we're doing "All of my Days," and our first date was to go see Once, so "Falling Slowly" is kind of "our" song.
As far as if that's TOO much... I dont' think so, as long as the songs are well-placed & your guests aren't just going to be sitting there listening... WATCHING someone perform keeps people engaged usually, so performances are OK--make sure they can see the musicians.
I agree with PPs--if you're DOING something during the music, that's probably best.
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