Can I be judgy today?

misshart00 · February 2013

I'm cranky today and wanted to rant to the etiquette board. Only you would appreciate this.

I got a wedding invitation today. The wedding is 3/23 and the RSVP date is 2/8. They included registry info. I was kind of irked but got over it until I looked at their registry. None of this is awful by itself; it's more the quantities and combinations.

-91 place settings but only two settings of fine china. Several of them are full sets , but none of hem match.
-67 towel sets including towels, washcloths, and hand towels. Plus several other washcloth packs. 16 different colors.
-twin batman bed set (comforter, sheets, and throw)
-twin star wars bed set (comforter, sheets, and throw)
-2 more queen bed sets
-3 jewelry boxes
-sand paper
-2 counter top ovens
-3 toasters
-fridge
-20 - 30 kitchen towels
-10 rugs
-11 pieces of large furniture
-40 inch tv with tilt mount
-51 glasses
-4 casserole sets
And a ton more.

I just feel feel for this girl. I wish I could call her up and talk to her about it, but that would be rude too.

mlg78 · February 2013

I have no words... Wow. Just... Wow.

misshart00 · February 2013

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[QUOTE]67 towels set.. Where do you put that many towels!? I bought a full set last year of 12 and I have a hard time storing all those. 91 place settings... Are they feeding an army.. WOW!
Posted by clovester[/QUOTE]

I'm trying to give them the benefit of the doubt and assume they registered for a lot, planning to look at reviews and stuff, and then delete a lot of it. But they should've deleted it before invites went out.

beardownbchs · February 2013

91 place settings?!?! Do these people own a hotel?

misshart00 · February 2013

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[QUOTE]Maybe the 91 place settings is a typo on their part? Is she planning on running a B&B with all of those towels?
Posted by snippet17[/QUOTE]

It's not a typo because it's like 10 different boxed sets (only requesting one of each) and then several different kinds of individual plates (requesting about 10 of each). I sat and counted them.

beardownbchs · February 2013

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[QUOTE]She doesn't plan on using the different casual place settings as place setting for the wedding does she?
Posted by Liatris2010[/QUOTE]

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</div><div>Oh god I didn't even think of that!!! Remeber the "artsy" girl who didn't want any opinions from us "stuffy" people and wanted to make her own place settings, put them on Etsy and have her guests buy them? </div>

misshart00 · February 2013

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Can I be judgy today? : I don't but I wish I did, or had a linky! Thinking f all the different settings reminded me of a friend's wedding. Her parents own a lodge and they had the reception there and when they opened it they had bought place settings from thrift stores and the like, so they had service for 8-10 of a dozen different patterns and her mom spent a long time making sure each table had all the same place settings, but they varied between tables. It was kind of cool to see each table a little different, and why else would you need 10 different sets of plates?
Posted by Liatris2010[/QUOTE]

Oh I remember that! I was so confused just by the logic of that.

I do love that idea though of the different china on different tables. It sounds like it would have an awesome vintage vibe.

warpedredpenguin · February 2013

Could be possible they're planning on returning a lot of it for cash or store credit. Which is still pretty lame.

JoanE2012 · February 2013

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[QUOTE]I'm cranky today and wanted to rant to the etiquette board. Only you would appreciate this. I got a wedding invitation today. The wedding is 3/23 and the RSVP date is 2/8. They included registry info. I was kind of irked but got over it until I looked at their registry. None of this is awful by itself; it's more the quantities and combinations. -91 place settings but only two settings of fine china. Several of them are full sets , but none of hem match. -67 towel sets including towels, washcloths, and hand towels. Plus several other washcloth packs. 16 different colors. -twin batman bed set (comforter, sheets, and throw) -twin star wars bed set (comforter, sheets, and throw) -2 more queen bed sets -3 jewelry boxes -sand paper -2 counter top ovens -3 toasters -fridge -20 - 30 kitchen towels -10 rugs -11 pieces of large furniture -40 inch tv with tilt mount -51 glasses -4 casserole sets And a ton more. I just feel feel for this girl. I wish I could call her up and talk to her about it, but that would be rude too.
Posted by misshart00[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>The registry is crazy. But you just got the invite and have to RSVP in less than a week?

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Peledreamsofrain · February 2013

Dude, where do you put that many towels and place settings?! Holy guacamole, you would need to buy a new house just to hold your dishes.

misshart00 · February 2013

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[QUOTE]In Response to Can I be judgy today? : The registry is crazy. But you just got the invite and have to RSVP in less than a week?
Posted by JoanE2012[/QUOTE]

Yep. And their invitation didn't even say it was a wedding. "Invite you to a celebration of love." I knew they were getting married due to Facebook (and they're cousins) and because it's pretty obvious with an invitation, response card, and other info.

NYCMercedes · February 2013

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Can I be judgy today? :

Yep. And their invitation didn't even say it was a wedding. "Invite you to a celebration of love." I knew they were getting married due to Facebook (and they're cousins) and because it's pretty obvious with an invitation, response card, and other info.
Posted by misshart00[/QUOTE]

Too much! Maybe they are not allowed to get married
to each other, as they are cousins, so can only celebrate their love.

I take it they have a little boy?
Thank you for this. I needed a laugh.

misshart00 · February 2013

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Can I be judgy today? : Too much! Maybe they are not allowed to get married
to each other, as they are cousins, so can only celebrate their love.
Posted by NYCMercedes[/QUOTE]

Lol. I meant he's my cousin. She will be my cousin. Yeah, I want to caller and gently say to calm down, but I know they're really exacted. They've been together since they were 15 I think. So I'll just go and watch them have fun. And probably not get them a gift (I'm overwhelmed with the selection).

ETA: no they don't have any kids. That's why the twin bed sets are so baffling.

StephJean83 · February 2013

That is just plain crazy! When my sister and BIL registered a couple years ago, my BIL added little kid bedding and clothes, soda and various other food items on their Target registry. He did it as a joke and like the day before the shower, he deleted the little kid stuff. I did but the soda but they have a bar in their basement and I gave them other items related to the bar.

beardownbchs · February 2013

http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_diy_artsy-brides-making-my-own-place-settings

http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_place-settings-for-sale

I just had to go back and find these...they belong on the FFF thread for sure..

miranda holly · February 2013

My fav is the Batman twin sheet set!!

I'm curious, what did the invite say? No mention of wedding, marriage, union, anything?

misshart00 · February 2013

In Response to Re:Can I be judgy today?:My fav is the Batman twin sheet set!!nbsp; I'm curious, what did the invite say?nbsp; No mention of wedding, marriage, union, anything? Posted by miranda holly Parents names Invite you to a celebration of love John Doe And Jane smith 3.23.13 Three o'clock Church Address

Simply Fated · February 2013

I totally wonder if they plan on using those place settings and glasses for the wedding.

Maybe they forgot to delete some of those things... or maybe someone got a hold of their account and added things on without them even noticing.

I mean, 30 towels? Even if they were planning on returning stuff, aim higher lol.

Sharpschruter22 · February 2013

They probably are already married and JP'ed for insurance purposes.

bridalmarch · February 2013

Maybe they realllllllly hate doing dishes. And laundry. So they want...three months worth.

Amyzen83 · February 2013

The TV I feel is an inappropriate request, but perhaps they included these many sets of this and that with the idea of giving people options or to show that any one of those sets would work? I would certainly hope that they can't possibly expect people to get them all these excessive sets of this and that... can we say a tad on the greedy side?

Jen4948 · February 2013

Yikes. I'd go off registry for a gift.

StephJean83 · February 2013

In Response to Re:Can I be judgy today?:[QUOTE]The TV I feel is an inappropriate request, but perhaps they included these many sets of this and that with the idea of giving people options or to show that any one of those sets would work? I would certainly hope that they can't possibly expect people to get them all these excessive sets of this and that... can we say a tad on the greedy side? Posted by Amyzen83[/QUOTE]

I personally do not think the TV is all that wrong/inappropiate. Most stores give the couple discounts after the event to finish off their registry. So they put it on the registry so if they get cash or gift cards to that store, they could save like 10 to 15 on the TV. I don't see the TV much different than a Kitchen Aide Mixer, as far as price goes, cause the nicer ones are a couple hundred dollars.

melb2013 · February 2013

Sounds like a ten year old boy got a hold of a registry scan gun and went wild.

MsYeck · February 2013

Personally I would think maybe they didn't understand the registry or that they made some kind of error. I would be ok asking her if she realizes she regisered for 67 sets of towels, maybe she thinks she registered for 67 pieces of towel pieces.

loca4pook · February 2013

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[QUOTE]I'm cranky today and wanted to rant to the etiquette board. Only you would appreciate this. I got a wedding invitation today. The wedding is 3/23 and the RSVP date is 2/8. They included registry info. I was kind of irked but got over it until I looked at their registry. None of this is awful by itself; it's more the quantities and combinations. -91 place settings but only two settings of fine china. Several of them are full sets , but none of hem match. -67 towel sets including towels, washcloths, and hand towels. Plus several other washcloth packs. 16 different colors. -twin batman bed set (comforter, sheets, and throw) -twin star wars bed set (comforter, sheets, and throw) -2 more queen bed sets -3 jewelry boxes -sand paper -2 counter top ovens -3 toasters -fridge -20 - 30 kitchen towels -10 rugs -11 pieces of large furniture -40 inch tv with tilt mount -51 glasses -4 casserole sets And a ton more. I just feel feel for this girl. I wish I could call her up and talk to her about it, but that would be rude too.
Posted by misshart00[/QUOTE]

see, I look at that and wonder if something went "wrong" with the registry gun and they didn't doublecheck numbers..

It seems odd

misshart00 · February 2013

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[QUOTE]In Response to Can I be judgy today? : see, I look at that and wonder if something went "wrong" with the registry gun and they didn't doublecheck numbers.. It seems odd
Posted by loca4pook[/QUOTE]

I really think I'm going to stalk their registry a little and see if they delete anything. I'll keep y'all updated.

Do you think I could email them and ask which plate set thy would really, really like? So that way if it's a mistake, it would give them a heads up. I just don't want other people to think what I think.

[Deleted User] · February 2013

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Can I be judgy today? : I really think I'm going to stalk their registry a little and see if they delete anything. I'll keep y'all updated. Do you think I could email them and ask which plate set thy would really, really like? So that way if it's a mistake, it would give them a heads up. I just don't want other people to think what I think.
Posted by misshart00[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>YES. Then come back and tell us what she says. This HAS to be a mistake. HAS to be. This is nuts.

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Ro041 · February 2013

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[QUOTE]I'm cranky today and wanted to rant to the etiquette board. Only you would appreciate this. I got a wedding invitation today. The wedding is 3/23 and the RSVP date is 2/8. They included registry info. I was kind of irked but got over it until I looked at their registry. None of this is awful by itself; it's more the quantities and combinations. -91 place settings but only two settings of fine china. Several of them are full sets , but none of hem match. -<strong>67 towel sets</strong> including towels, washcloths, and hand towels. Plus several other washcloth packs. 16 different colors. -twin batman bed set (comforter, sheets, and throw) -twin star wars bed set (comforter, sheets, and throw) -2 more queen bed sets -<strong>3 jewelry boxes</strong> -sand paper -2 counter top ovens -<strong>3 toasters</strong> -fridge -<strong>20 - 30 kitchen towels</strong> -10 rugs -11 pieces of large furniture -40 inch tv with tilt mount -51 glasses -4 casserole sets And a ton more. I just feel feel for this girl. I wish I could call her up and talk to her about it, but that would be rude too.
Posted by misshart00[/QUOTE]

It seems like she went shopping for her entire family. Who needs 3 toasters????

ETA: Yes - I would email her and play dumb and ask her what she really wants from the list. "Hey ____, I was checking out your registry and you have registered for such beautiful place settings! Can you give me some guidance about which ones are your favorites? I don't want to get you a set that isn't near the top of your list!"

zantster · February 2013

Sounds like they already got married like a PP said and this "celebration of love" is to bring in the Uhaul full of stuff. Because on here we always tell people if they elope then what they should have when they get back is a "celebration."

musicalcanadianbride · February 2013

Maybe they're opening a hotel???

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