Sexy time Poll

LDYGTR13 · July 2012

MIDGE - I didn't hear about the wedding night. And yes. I'm a creepy personb who wants to know. Was it awkward as all get out? I feel like it would be hilariously awkward and I would laugh my ass off the whole time if we were both virgins and waited until the wedding night. Please tell me there were hilarious moments.

I mean, you don't have to - and I don't want sappy crap, I just want to know if there were like hilarious misplacements or awkward hilarious moments or disney porn or something.

(this is totally said with love, which I hope you realize)

StefffiC · July 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Sexy time Poll : "Oh. What do you want me to do?" Followed by a giggle.
Posted by Snippylynn[/QUOTE]

I'm sorry Snippy. That hurts.

Counseling helps. Or going to the farm supply and buying a goat or steer banding gun (neutering gun) helps, too. ;)

midgetthemighty · July 2012

Holy crap, they went all out with that proboard.

MyUserName1 · July 2012

So, I know I'm a cynical biiiitch, but I can't help wondering if at least SOME of the people who are saying their longest ever dry spell while in a relationship was less than a month are lying. REALLY? You have never, while in a relationship, gone a long while without sex?

specialk84 · July 2012

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[QUOTE]I'm already figuring not much sexy time is going to happen for the first month or two anyways until my body gets used to the mirena.
Posted by adamar15[/QUOTE]

<div>This seems accurate in my experience. At one point, I told H that if he so much as looked too long while I was changing into my pajamas, I'd make him sleep on the sofa.</div><div>
</div><div>it gets better. Much better.</div>

AdeleDazeem · July 2012

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[QUOTE]How long would you have to go without sex to consider yourself in a dry spell? A month, probably. What's the longest dry spell you've had (not while you were single, when you were married/had a SO)? 6 weeks. Although it's not all that infrequent for us to go 2-3 weeks without it. It seems like the biggest issue these days is timing. He prefers morning sex, I prefer night. I'm not opposed to morning sex but he typically sleeps a lot later than I do and I don't necessarily want to lie there for two more hours waiting for him to get up. And also, I find morning breath disgusting. And I go to bed before him at night so that usually doesn't happen either....and then sometimes if we DO go to bed at the same time we're too tired and/or full. We definitely need to work on making it a priority. What was the reason? Deployment, pg/postpartum, something else? The 6-week streak was due to having a LEEP two years ago (abnormal cervical cells, blah blah blah). Other reasons, see above. Who usually initiates? Probably 60% H, 40% me. He'll usually initate in the morning, me in the evening, not surprisingly.
Posted by abbalish[/QUOTE]

I could have written this!

Jay wants it in the morning. I refuse because, um, morning breath is farking gross. I've actually seen him get up, brush his teeth and then come back with a little face of "Can we do it now??" Ha.

I'm actually downright amazed at the length of time people consider a dry spell. When we first moved in together, I felt bad if it was a few days. After two years, I felt bad when it was more than week. Now, four years later, I'm not sure how long it really is anymore. It's when our schedules line up and we're both in the mood.

I will say that the loss of sex would be damaging. I love to cuddle, we curl up together, we kiss, we hug, etc... but nothing exactly replaces sex on the intimacy scale for me. If something catastrophic happened and we couldn't have sex, of course it would be fine. But, the loss of it all together would make me so very sad.

WildRumpus · July 2012

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[QUOTE]So, I know I'm a cynical biiiitch, but I can't help wondering if at least SOME of the people who are saying their longest ever dry spell while in a relationship was less than a month are lying. REALLY? You have never, while in a relationship, gone a long while without sex?
Posted by MyUserName1[/QUOTE]

I can honestly say no. H was my first, so it's been consistent. And like I said, he's a horndog. There have definitely been times that I wasn't necessarily in the mood, but because I know it's something we both crave, I've gone with it.

LDYGTR13 · July 2012

MUNI - I can't remember one longer than a month - but it's totally possible. I just don't remember since I've been boning for 9 years now. Brian might say a month and a half. I will text him and find out lol

MyUserName1 · July 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Sexy time Poll : I can honestly say no. H was my first, so it's been consistent. And like I said, he's a horndog. There have definitely been times that I wasn't necessarily in the mood, but because I know it's something we both crave, I've gone with it.
Posted by Jill9288[/QUOTE]

I'd imagine it's more likely that people who've only been with their current SO wouldn't have had as long of dry spells. But those who have been with exes as well? I'm surprised if they didn't have dry spells at the end of the relationships.

specialk84 · July 2012

I'm still reading, so forgive me if we've moved on.

How long would you have to go without sex to consider yourself in a dry spell?

a week

What's the longest dry spell you've had (not while you were single, when you were married/had a SO)?

a month and a half

What was the reason? Deployment, pg/postpartum, something else?

I had a very hard time when my grandmother died. Lots of stuff didn't happen in our house, from laundry to sex.

Who initiates?

I'd say it's about equal. He doesn't always catch on that I'm trying to initiate. Short of me saying, "Let's bang," he thinks he initiates it.

midgetthemighty · July 2012

LDY, there were definitely moments where we laughed but it made it more fun. He almost squished me a few times but that was almost to be expected.

You'd like this comment from my cousin's boyfriend. It was hilarious. This is all my cousin's BF talking: "In a few months, Mr. Midge is going to be 110 pounds and people will ask him what he's done to lose all that weight. His answer will be Midge." We had been talking about H working out so this is why he said that.

Disney porn fun fact (well the internet told H about this) - Someone on staff at Disney thought it would be funny to make a short of Mickey and Minnie consumating their relationship for some kind of party for Walt Disney. He called them up afterwards and immediately fired them and deleted it. Who knows if it's true or not but it was for sure interesting...

texasgurly13 · July 2012

How long would you have to go without sex to consider yourself in a dry spell?

About a week without any kind of stuff below the belt.

What's the longest dry spell you've had not while you were single, when you were married/had a SO?

1 month without any kind of sexual contact kissing included. We haven't had full on sex in about six months now.

What was the reason? Deployment, pg/postpartum, something else?

We are abstaining from full on sex until after I get out of Air Force Basic Training. Even with BCP, I don't want to take the risk of getting pregnant before I leave. We do everything but. The month period was when he was gone for a job.

LDYGTR13 · July 2012

H just confirmed that our longest was 5-6 weeks.

Most of my relationships ended rather quickly when it was time for it to stop. The one I broke up with to get back with Brian? I had sex with him the day I broke up with him because he was whining. Whining boys are annoying.

specialk84 · July 2012

Muni, H is the first healthy relationship I've had. The others were all sex with pretty much no emotional context. They sucked.

ArynBaker · July 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Sexy time Poll : I'd imagine it's more likely that people who've only been with their current SO wouldn't have had as long of dry spells. But those who have been with exes as well? I'm surprised if they didn't have dry spells at the end of the relationships.
Posted by MyUserName1[/QUOTE]

<div>My ex and I would regularly go a month without. Basicaly we only had sex about once or twice a month for the past year. I was often too stressed or angry with him to get in the mood. </div>

[Deleted User] · July 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Sexy time Poll : I'd imagine it's more likely that people who've only been with their current SO wouldn't have had as long of dry spells. But those who have been with exes as well? I'm surprised if they didn't have dry spells at the end of the relationships.
Posted by MyUserName1[/QUOTE]

H was my first relationship so that could be why. It's possible we went longer than a month and I just don't remember, but honestly, if we did I probably wouldn't notice anyway.

Damnit, I was going to say something else but my boss just walked up and I got distracted because I'm pretty sure he saw the title of this thread.

brittneyh4 · July 2012

Beanie, I had the same tearing problem. I feel for you! I don't know how we ever fixed the problem, but it slowly just started getting better. We used silicone based lube, too, and it seemed to really help. Hope it gets better soon, that's incredibly painful!

How long would you have to go without sex to consider yourself in a dry spell?
A week. Maybe two.

What's the longest dry spell you've had (not while you were single, when you were married/had a SO) Four months. We'd decided to take a break before the wedding, and I hated it. He had issues adjusting, but I wanted it everytime I saw him. It was ridiculous.

What was the reason? Deployment, pg/postpartum, something else?
Stated above.

I initiate more than H does now. Before we got married it was almost always him (I didn't get a chance to). He got used to not having sex, and he goes to bed at 7:30pm (work) now so I have to go attack him. Luckily, sex gives me a huge boost of energy, so I get a lot of stuff done around the house while he sleeps.

It's really important, but we could go without if we had to. Sex is like conversation for H.

MyUserName1 · July 2012

Ex-h and I had like, lousy sex for his birthday and our anniversary and that was it. And then near the end, not even that.

LDYGTR13 · July 2012

Good, Midge!!! I whole heartedly believe in fun/funny sex. I'd say half of the sex we have is hilarious and ends up with us cracking up and falling into bed laughing at least once. I'm glad your first time wasn't crazy super awkward and scare you away!

ahhhitsshannyn · July 2012

I've only ever been with H so I guess it's like Jill, it's always been consistent. When we first started it was like twice a day, then once a day, then every other day, and dwindled down from there. We are right about once a weekers and I think that is a good groove for us. If it is longer than two weeks I get a little crazy. (like I previously said, I must be ugly if he won't touch me for two weeks, blah blah crazy girl stuff)

calixtine · July 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Sexy time Poll : It's probably pretty equal for us. I used to almost never initiate and he asked me to try, so I have. I always like sex (a lot) when we have it, but deciding to do it and going for it is never my strong suit, so I admit I plan it in my head. It's not a set schedule, but I'll think "Oh it's been a little bit; we should have sex tonight."
Posted by aragx6[/QUOTE]

I'm exactly the same way. Plus, I seem to have really bad sexy time timing. Whenever I think about initiating, he's always busy or something.

specialk84 · July 2012

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[QUOTE]I love to cuddle unless I'm trying to sleep and then GTF away from me.
Posted by ILoveMilkDuds[/QUOTE]

<div>H tries to spoon me while he sleeps, but he has a tendency to flail. After being accidentally smacked in the face more times than I care to admit, I've taken to pushing him away or telling him no.</div>

MyUserName1 · July 2012

Okay, fine. Then I'm the big old hoar in this thread who has had sex with people that I wasn't/aren't married to :P

You and your healthy sex lives with your first. Whatever.

texasgurly13 · July 2012

Who initiates?

FI initiates more than I do. He's always tired when he comes home from work and I never can tell if he is in the mood or not.

StefffiC · July 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Sexy time Poll : I'd imagine it's more likely that people who've only been with their current SO wouldn't have had as long of dry spells. But those who have been with exes as well? I'm surprised if they didn't have dry spells at the end of the relationships.
Posted by MyUserName1[/QUOTE]

DH is the only one I've been with.

I may be wrong on how long we've gone without, I tend to block tragedies out of my mind. ;)

musicalsunlight · July 2012

Muni, like Jill, J was my first and only. He'd had plenty of other people before me, but also is a pretty horny person. He goes a little crazy just on my week with AF. Long dry spells just won't work for us, heh.

musicalsunlight · July 2012

I should also add that for most of our relationship, we have been LDR. So when we ARE together, we're like ok yeah lets bang.

ErinG93 · July 2012

Muni, the only other serious relationship I've had ended sort of out of the blue. I guess it wasn't really out of the blue, but our sex life never really stopped. It was a pretty volatile relationship, but that kind of fueled the sex, if that even makes sense.

H is most definitely not my only 'one!'

LDYGTR13 · July 2012

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[QUOTE]Okay, fine. Then I'm the big old hoar in this thread who has had sex with people that I wasn't/aren't married to :P You and your healthy sex lives with your first. Whatever.
Posted by MyUserName1[/QUOTE]
Did you not see me say I banged a guy the day I broke up with him to get him to stop whining? I'm a bigger hoar, my frand.

dumdumfroggie · July 2012

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[QUOTE]Okay, fine. Then I'm the big old hoar in this thread who has had sex with people that I wasn't/aren't married to :P You and your healthy sex lives with your first. Whatever.
Posted by MyUserName1[/QUOTE]

<div>Oh, I'll join you there.</div><div>
</div><div>I think the difference is, like I said, my sex drive is really high. Plus, I kind of like angry sex. So, even if I was mad at the guy I'll still probably do it. (Heh. do it.)</div><div>
</div><div>The guy I broke up with right before FI? We had sex that night and I broke up with him afterwards. Yeah, it wasn't a proud moment, but eh.</div>

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