I will be graduating college this May. The problem is that FI's mom keeps asking me when graduation is because they all want to come. I don't want them to come. We get 4 or 5 tickets to give to family (which are all taken by my family) and then anyone else that wants to go has to wait at the door until 10 minutes before the ceremony starts. I have never heard of anyone waiting and then not being able to attend.
I'm honestly sort of embarrased by his family. They are extremely redneck. They are loud and don't care what people think of them. I went to the store with his mom recently and she was looking at notebooks when she loudly declared "Geez these are so expensive!! Makes me miss being a janitor at the school so I could take all the school supplies out of the garbage when they cleaned out their lockers!". I was so embarrased. She has no shame. Her husband just comes off as a jerk. If they come, they will likely drag along FI's grandmother and aunt/uncle/cousin. When his ex-stripper aunt met me at Christmas, she took out her dentures and told me how having no teeth helps her out in the bedroom. Apparently this is a frequent habit of hers. His uncle gave me the creeps and I never want to see him again (FI feels the same).
Our families haven't met yet and I just don't think that graduation would be the right time. My brother is extremely judgemental and I don't want him to be there the first time my mom meets FI's family. I'm ashamed to say that I would be perfectly fine if our families never met (we are eloping so it could actually happen). Neither of our families have even said anything about wanting to meet each other.
What should I do? Should I make FI say that we don't want them to drive this far with no guarantee that they will even get a seat (even though that's a lie)? Should I just suck it up and hope they don't embarrass me?