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Bridezilla
A few things have gone wrong in the planning of our wedding so far, which made me start realizing how easy it would be to become a bridezilla.
If you are already married, did you have a bridezilla moment?
If you are engaged, have you had a bridezilla moment?
If you are still dating, do you think you'll be a bridezilla?
If you are already married, did you have a bridezilla moment?
If you are engaged, have you had a bridezilla moment?
If you are still dating, do you think you'll be a bridezilla?
~~December 3, 2011~~
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Re: Bridezilla
I called the church yesterday, and they told me they didn't have my contract. I dropped it off at the church 3 weeks ago. Then the church coordinator admitted that she hadn't been at the church in the past month. Now, she has to check to see if our date is still available!
Anyway, I'm still in dating mode, but I don't think I'll be too much of a bridezilla because weddings are really just big parties to me. At least, the reception is, which is where most of it goes wrong (in my limited experience. lol)
Still here and still fabulous!
Excuse me for wanting to get my numbers to the coordinator on time! Sheesh.
I agree with PP, these are not bridezilla situations.
BUT, I think you will get farther with these people if you stay calm when dealing with them. It will probably work out better for you.
I hope everything works out!
My room mate is getting married in 5 months and she has her bridezilla momments.
I am dating and I think I might have my bridezilla momments. I have had so many comments over the last 17 years about what I did "wrong" the first time I got married that I think that I will have to be a little bridezilla to make sure my family don't try to take over. Of course the thing I did so wrong last time was I kind of eloped. If you can elope and have a church wedding. LOL. What I did was I gave my family one week's notice that I was getting married. I figured the less time my family knew the less time they would have to cause drama. The problem comes in now my family is more scattered across the country so I have to give my family time to make it in town.
I mean I am not even engaged but since the day Grandma learned I was dating I have been given advice on what I need to do. My simple answer I am not yet engaged so I am not talking about wedding plans yet. Then when we get to that point many things will be determined by what my boyfriend and I want and budget.
However in your shoes getting upset by those things I would not call Bridezilla at all.
I'm dating and I don't think I'll be a bridezilla when the time comes. BF keeps me calm when things go wrong, so as long as he's there helping me deal with things I should be good.
I personally think a Bridezilla is the type of person that wants things a specific way and then tortures every living being into making their dreams come true....
As someone said, being persistent, frustrated, and annoyed is totally justified in these situations. Not even nearly enough to be called a Bridezilla, unless you threatened someone's family or suggested you were going to burn down the building. Chances are you're being kinder than deserved, simply because you're afraid of falling into the Bridezilla category. They screwed up, plain and simple. And now it's their responsibility to fix the mistake and make it right.
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I'm a bit of a control freak sometimes, but I honestly don't think I'll be a Bridezilla. I've been on here enough to see that things will go wrong, and it still works out fine. Also, control freak though I am, I'm not very good with details, so I won't obsess over every little thing.
I did tell FI though that his best friend (and likely best man) is not allowed to drink too much at the reception. I watched him vomit too many times in college, and I will not tolerate it at the wedding. If I have to, I'll tip the bartender to refuse him drinks after a certain point. If that makes me a bridezilla, I'll accept it.
As for bridezilla moments I haven't had any. Although I realized today we're less than 6 months away and I haven't even thought about a DJ. Hehe, oops
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[QUOTE]Honey those aren't bridezilla moments - those are moments you need to stand up and not get pushed around. Good for you! As for bridezilla moments I haven't had any. Although I realized today we're less than 6 months away and I haven't even thought about a DJ. Hehe, oops
Posted by PaigeMcC[/QUOTE]
That's okay, Paige. I don't have a florist yet.
I am a control freak/perfectionist who gets unhappy when things don't go as planned, so I could possibly have a bridezilla moment, but nothing like the chicks on TV. So far, it's been pretty smooth sailing, though, and I don't think I'm overly wrapped-up in the little things.
And I agree with PP, those weren't even bridezilla moments, Ember. That was just getting things done.
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I think that a large portion of having wedding planning and your wedding day be happy is just to know yourself and plan knowing what will work best for you, and doing exactly what you're doing, Ember -- being firm but polite with people. You're fine, don't worry.
I was a "fan" of their shop's page on Facebook (which I no longer use) and they were tagged in pictures from a fashion shoot. My* dress was being worn in one of the pictures.
(*Yes, it was MY dress. The shop is very small and does not carry multiples of any style.)
I sh*t a brick. I won't go into details, but there was screaming, swearing, phone calls, etc. The pictures were down about 15 minutes later.
Would anyone else be annoyed that their purchased wedding gown was being worn out in public by some stranger?!
Thankfully that has been my only Bridezilla moment thus far.
Although, my mother did call me a Bridezilla when I chose to pay to have my ring resized (and gotten it back the same day) as opposed to sending it threw the daimond store FI purchased it from (and gotten it back a week later). They would have put it in the mail and shipped it off somewhere. Being newly engaged I was NOT fond of sending my ring anywhere or parting with it for too terribly wrong. I was deemed Bridezilla that day.
"I don't know guys, that's a really nice thing to have in your house. I have one similar saying written on the walls all over my quiet, neat, non-childproofed home. I have it in my brand new car as a decal on the window. I even wear it on a t-shirt for when I go out to dinner or hang out at a trendy bar or go on a relaxing vacation. "All because I use birth control." It still brings a tear to my eye..." SnarkyMcSnarkerson
Funny, after I posted this, the bridal gown store called to find out exactly what happened with my visit (I filled out a survey online). I very politely explained it to the manager.
And, I would be upset if I saw pictures of someone wearing MY dress on Facebook. That is bad business etiquette.
Sorry, but every time you post, I'll just see a whiny brat after how you acted.
[QUOTE]I freaked out a little at the rehearsal when I found out that the organist had quit earlier that week and nobody told us...but we found a quick replacement. But seriously, who does that?? *edit: We got married at the church on our undergrad campus and the organist was hired through the university. He resigned his position with the university right before the wedding.
Posted by laurenb09[/QUOTE]
I hate it when the irresponsible musicians give the rest a bad name! That's ridiculous. He should have still played any events he had coming up that quickly. Or maybe the church decided that they didn't want him to after the resigning...?
I don't think I'll be much of a Bridezilla. There was a time when I would have been, but I've figured out better ways to do business these days! I wouldn't rule out the possibility of having a moderate moment or two here or there, or putting my foot down on a couple of key things.
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[QUOTE]sweetvidalia, you've already proven elsewhere on this board that you have no class. So I have a feeling you probably overreacted - it was likely the store model that they use as a sample, and had ordered yours out. If you had bought a sample, I don't know why you didn't take it with you. Sorry, but every time you post, I'll just see a whiny brat after how you acted.
Posted by calindi[/QUOTE]
Cate - If you think her behavior is bad on this board... try going through her posts on other boards... WOW... SMFH... Talk about immature.
[QUOTE]How annoying! The dress is fixable... but the church mix up is just not right. I reeeeaaallly hope the church gets their act together for you. Personally, I wish I could push a button and have a insta-wedding planned on my budget. (Wedding planners.... does a insta-wedding even exist?) Truly, we are super low key and we view the wedding day as a covenant before God/family, and nothing else. I want nothing to do with planning, not even the colors, except to have red velvet cupcakes and a cherry chocolate cake. I'm hoping my sis and BFF will help motivate me, but I am the last person to want to deal with the details and mix ups of wedding planning. I'm NEY, lol.... maybe ask me this after we're hitched... I would be curious to see if my answer changes after having actually dealt with it.
Posted by NurseyK[/QUOTE]
Nursey, if you don't want to deal with the details, there are dozens of ways to limit the stress. Do a destination wedding at a resort - my friend did this, and literally told the planner, "Tropical colors, 45 people, budget is $X, and I just want to show up that day in my dress. Deal?" She probably had a few more things to say as the wedding approached, but she always told the story that she planned a wedding in one phone call! There are also tons of local venues all over the place that specialize in weddings (I jokingly refer to them as wedding factories) that include linens, flowers, food, etc. so you'd have to hire only a few vendors, like a photographer (and usually they have people to recommend). The on-site coordinator can do most of the details - would probably show you a few photo albums, and you can be like, "Yeah, that wedding looks nice. Do everything you did for that wedding." End of story.
You can be as involved or uninvolved as you want.
[QUOTE]sweetvidalia, you've already proven elsewhere on this board that you have no class. So I have a feeling you probably overreacted - it was likely the store model that they use as a sample, and had ordered yours out. If you had bought a sample, I don't know why you didn't take it with you. Sorry, but every time you post, I'll just see a whiny brat after how you acted.
Posted by calindi[/QUOTE]
I'm pretty sure I already said the dress was still there because it had to be altered. I bought the sample. How much more clear can I be?
As if I have anything to prove to you people, the store owner admitted this had been done which is why the pictures were taken down.
I haven't said anything out of line on this thread, and if you don't like me and are going to dissect everything I say, then just do us all a favor and skip over it and read the next post.
"I don't know guys, that's a really nice thing to have in your house. I have one similar saying written on the walls all over my quiet, neat, non-childproofed home. I have it in my brand new car as a decal on the window. I even wear it on a t-shirt for when I go out to dinner or hang out at a trendy bar or go on a relaxing vacation. "All because I use birth control." It still brings a tear to my eye..." SnarkyMcSnarkerson
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Bridezilla : I'm pretty sure I already said the dress was still there because it had to be altered. I bought the sample. How much more clear can I be? As if I have anything to prove to you people, the store owner admitted this had been done which is why the pictures were taken down. I haven't said anything out of line on this thread, and if you don't like me and are going to dissect everything I say, then just do us all a favor and skip over it and read the next post.
Posted by sweetvidalia[/QUOTE]
See, most people around here will agree that I'm one of the first people to 'forgive and forget' when someone makes a bad first impression. But you come on this board and call us all a bunch of b*tches, and insult someone's weight, and then expect to play nice?
Go play in your own sandbox.
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Bridezilla : See, most people around here will agree that I'm one of the first people to 'forgive and forget' when someone makes a bad first impression. But you come on this board and call us all a bunch of b*tches, and insult someone's weight, and then expect to play nice? Go play in your own sandbox.
Posted by calindi[/QUOTE]
I'm sorry that you are embarassed about your failed attempt to call me out on this thread when I had done nothing other than give the input that was asked. Luckily for me, your opinion does not really amount to much of anything.
I typically play nice with everybody. But when someone is going to go out of their way to insult my relationship or judge my advice when the advice/comment was not even addressed to them, then NO, I'm not going to play nice with said people.
I understand that you are annoyed by my personality, and that's fine because I don't expect everyone to like me. That's life. But I really don't think you should seek me out on other threads and try to turn everything I post into a way to defame me.
"I don't know guys, that's a really nice thing to have in your house. I have one similar saying written on the walls all over my quiet, neat, non-childproofed home. I have it in my brand new car as a decal on the window. I even wear it on a t-shirt for when I go out to dinner or hang out at a trendy bar or go on a relaxing vacation. "All because I use birth control." It still brings a tear to my eye..." SnarkyMcSnarkerson
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Bridezilla : I'm sorry that you are embarassed about your failed attempt to call me out on this thread when I had done nothing other than give the input that was asked. Luckily for me, your opinion does not really amount to much of anything. I typically play nice with everybody. But when someone is going to go out of their way to insult my relationship or judge my advice when the advice/comment was not even addressed to them, then NO, I'm not going to play nice with said people. I understand that you are annoyed by my personality, and that's fine because I don't expect everyone to like me. That's life. But I really don't think you should seek me out on other threads and try to turn everything I post into a way to defame me.
Posted by sweetvidalia[/QUOTE]
Embarassed? Nope, sorry, try again.
You don't play nice. I like nearly everybody. When someone goes out of their way to be mean and vindictive to someone who doesn't deserve it, I think they're a pretty pathetic person, and thus I don't like you.
I don't "seek you out". I've been on this board for nearly a year and read nearly every thread. Go find a sandbox where you're welcome.
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Bridezilla : Embarassed? Nope, sorry, try again. You don't play nice. I like nearly everybody. When someone goes out of their way to be mean and vindictive to someone who doesn't deserve it, I think they're a pretty pathetic person, and thus I don't like you. I don't "seek you out". I've been on this board for nearly a year and read nearly every thread. Go find a sandbox where you're welcome.
Posted by calindi[/QUOTE]
Again, I've said/done nothing wrong on this thread. If you wanted to give your 2 cents to the OP's inquiry about Bridezilla moments, then do it.
If you are here to wage war with someone who decided to dish out to people exactly what they were serving, then get a grip.
You seem to be really hung up on this. You obviously have a personal problem with me so you should either PM me about it or block me.
"I don't know guys, that's a really nice thing to have in your house. I have one similar saying written on the walls all over my quiet, neat, non-childproofed home. I have it in my brand new car as a decal on the window. I even wear it on a t-shirt for when I go out to dinner or hang out at a trendy bar or go on a relaxing vacation. "All because I use birth control." It still brings a tear to my eye..." SnarkyMcSnarkerson
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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Bridezilla : Thanks Marley! I try to be sweet/nice whenever possible. It's nice to know that you like my approach. I like to think that maybe SweetV was just having a bad day.
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</div><div>Where the eff is that "like" button? Also, YGPM.
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