I heart Prudie
Dear Prudence, I just got married a few weeks ago. When we opened our wedding gifts, my wife was startled to find a book on bridal etiquette. The book came in a package enclosed with no name, just a note saying "For next time, you might need this."
Inside the book there were things highlighted that my wife should have done, like paying for the rehearsal dinner and sending thank you cards. My wife is FURIOUS. She knows it must be one of her close friends, because some of the things that were highlighted in the book were things that only our close friends and family knew. She's on the war path.
Here's the catch--I know exactly who sent the book. It was one of her bridesmaids, in fact it was her "best friend." I am torn between telling my wife and keeping it quiet, because truth be told, my wife was the DEFINITION of a bridezilla when planning out our wedding, and I felt bad for her attendants. There were times when even I was doubting our relationship. The girl who sent the book obviously has no intention of telling my wife, but I don't really WANT to tell her either. I want her to think about how crappily she treated her friends and family, including her new in-laws. Am I obligated to tell my wife about her "friend?"
Sincerely,
Husband with a Secret
Your wife may be in on the warpath, but I wonder if you're on the divorce path given the revelations about her character. I've often wondered what the grooms are thinking when they see their beloved turn into a demanding shrew because it's "her (never 'our') day. If you truly are going to build a life together, the conversation you need to have is not about who sent the book, but why the book was sent. You can agree it was an insulting, underhanded thing to do (and her best friend should have spoken up, not sent the book). But then you need to segue into, "Honey, I know planning a wedding can be very stressful, but I think you actually do need to make amends to some people for the way you treated them." Sure, she'll probably respond badly, but if she can't eventually calm down and look at her behavior, if she goes on the warpath against you, you really need to think about who you married.
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Re: I heart Prudie
Wouldn't you be so ashamed of yourself? I can't believe this woman wasn't immediately calling everyone she knew to apologize. Now this is someone for whose husband I really do feel sorry.
It's a girl!
I'd also like to say that I'm reading the article now on the Slate app for my iPad. It's pretty.
This is a belated married bio, with no reviews yet because I'm lazy.
Sometimes I feel like people think that brides are delicate little flower princesses who get all dressed up and pretty for one special moment of their dreams, when really they're just normal people who just happen to be getting married. Things shouldn't have to be sugar-coated for grown-ass women. -mstar284
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"I think bablingbrooke is the 13 yr old marring her cousin at the town hall. Lets all give her a big hand. And hope her inbred children can live normal lives." -tabs.
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"I think bablingbrooke is the 13 yr old marring her cousin at the town hall. Lets all give her a big hand. And hope her inbred children can live normal lives." -tabs.
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Anyway, yikes. And yeah - the wedding planning process can really show you a lot about your partner's character and how they're willing to treat other people in the process.
Let that be a lesson learned for others out there - the wedding is one day. You want your new husband and in-laws and friends to still like you after that day is over, no?
Planning/Married Biology
"I think bablingbrooke is the 13 yr old marring her cousin at the town hall. Lets all give her a big hand. And hope her inbred children can live normal lives." -tabs.
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Seriously, if she treated his parents (her future in laws) so terribly then why didn't he say anything then???
[QUOTE]Well, that was fun! Thanks for sharing. Clearly that bride didn't come here to the WP board for advice. Had she come here, she may not have received the well needed book. =)
Posted by trix1223[/QUOTE]
She may have Trix. How many spoiled brats have huffed their way to a nicer page because we're just sooooo mean here?
AKA GoodLuckBear14
It really is sad that some women are willing to throw so much away in the name of "their spashul day". Like with my friend's wedding, she asked 2 family members (Her only sister and a cousin) and at the time, 3 really good friends to stand up for her. Now after her wedding, none of the friends speak to her anymore, and the family members pretty much avoid her like the plague at family functions. Seriously, what was so important about her wedding that it was worth ruining a relationship with her own sister over?
And it wasn't even like me or Brooke where the sister relationship was a big strained going in and the sister was the drama source ... the 2 of them really were like best friends before she got a ring on her finger. It makes me sad when I think about it.
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This is a belated married bio, with no reviews yet because I'm lazy.
Sometimes I feel like people think that brides are delicate little flower princesses who get all dressed up and pretty for one special moment of their dreams, when really they're just normal people who just happen to be getting married. Things shouldn't have to be sugar-coated for grown-ass women. -mstar284
"I think bablingbrooke is the 13 yr old marring her cousin at the town hall. Lets all give her a big hand. And hope her inbred children can live normal lives." -tabs.
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[QUOTE]tldh: excellent point. You're right. Clueless bride may well have been here. And then left because what do old married hags know anyway? But now, perhaps will realize that we were right! =)
Posted by trix1223[/QUOTE]
Not bloody likely. We're just more people who are jealous of her and out to spoil her fun. Ever notice that bridezillas are a lot like paranoid dictators? Always keeping an eye out for the threat.
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Let's see, what didn't my friend do? Lol.
Please note, at the time, neither DH nor myself actually knew you were allowed to bow down from being in a WP.
Well, for starters, she kicked a friend out of the WP in February for her August wedding, saying the she "didn't order the dress on time". At the time, none of the other BMs even knew what dress she picked out, let alone that we should have ordered it by then. She then replaced her with another friend. Then added another girl (Which made her sides uneven, so she insisted that DH be a GM, even though we tried telling her we could barely afford me being in the wedding).
May rolls around and she makes everybody go order dresses (You know, the same dress that she booted somebody for not ordering 3 months prior). That day, she actually says to the replacement "Well, Jane couldn't make it today, because she couldn't afford to fly here from FL to get measured. She has a job, so it's total bs that she really 'couldn't afford' to fly here for today and then again for the wedding. But that's cool, because you're here, so I don't need here anyway".
Then, I get measured, the person tells me I need to order a 10, "in case I gain weight". I take a 4 in most dresses, and I wanted to avoid completely reconstructing a dress that was too big, so I tried saying "I don't think that's right-that sounds a little big and I really don't think I'll gain that much weight in 3 months". The bride then says "Oh, just shut up, and order what the professional tells you to, nobody cares that you're 'fat on paper'" (Which, had I known I could drop out, that would have been the moment I did it), so I begrudgingly agree to order the 10, and I point blank said "If it comes in too big, I'm not getting the alterations done here, because I tried to prevent this". Post-dress shopping, she proceeded to tell the GMs-including DH, that I "started crying in the dress store because I'm a size 10" (Ok, then).
Dress comes in, and of course, it's way too big. So when the bride asks how it fits, I tell her, and she gets all pissy with me "I told you to get a smaller size, but nooooo, you're the one that said you'd 'trust the professional', I swear to God, you'd better have it altered on time!".
I got several lectures throughout the planning process that I "wasn't committing" to pre-wedding activities. I had to take a second job to afford being in the wedding. I tried explaining that to the bride and she flipped out that I wasn't "being supportive". Bitch, every dime I make is going into your stupid party!
After her shower, she mentioned to all of us that nobody purchased the $300 cake topper from her registry "just in case any of you haven't bought us a wedding gift yet".
She initially told everybody to buy "any silver shoe". So we all bought shoes (That did not match). About 2 weeks before the wedding, she has this meltdown about the shoes, insists everybody buys new ones that match (Most of is couldn't get our money back for the other pair at that point).
Then there were the hair and nails. She insisted everybody get pro hair and nails, but since she was "requiring specifics" that she wasn't going to be paying for them. We got the nails done the day before the wedding, cost me $75.00 and one of mine chipped at the RD. Convinced she's going to kill me, she shrugs that off saying "Oh, it's no big deal, it's not like anybody's going to see your nails. Aren't you glad I'm not a total bridezilla" Then why did I just spend $75.00 on them?
The day of the wedding, she demanded that one of her BMs not wear her e-ring during the ceremony ("But you can totally wear it at the reception") because "BMs aren't allowed to wear a bigger ring than the bride".
I don't know what else she did to everybody when I wasn't around (Obviously, I mostly only shared my "personal" greivances here). But yeah, everybody else seemed equally "ready to kill her" by the time it was all over.
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I'm not sure what she wins, but that story is special.
[QUOTE]Meg wins. I'm not sure what she wins, but that story is special.
Posted by Joy2611[/QUOTE]
<div>We can always have Emilykathleen use her craftiness and make her a t-shirt! <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-wink.gif" border="0" alt="Wink" title="Wink" /></div>
"My sister is the MOH. She needs to wear the yellow. Nobody actually looks good in orange". This would be wear the shopping trip proceeded to spiral downhill into "fat on paper" territory.
I got engaged while she was planning (Thankfully, my ring was "tiny" enough to be worn during her ceremony, lol). The entire time, she kept telling me "When it's your turn, you're going to need my help. I know if I let you do what you want, you're just going to make everything pink, poufy and ugly".
This is the same chick that a year later was trying to force her way into my WP.
I owe much thanks to the wise regs of WP, because I remember in spite of her bad behavior, I felt like I "owed" her a spot in my WP, but didn't want to ask her (Because it really may have ended with me killing her). I actually remember one of my first Knot posts ever was me coming here essentially saying "Do I have to ask her?".
If you fire a WP member, you're against America.
"Meg cracks me up on the regular. Now she gets to do it in two different forums. Yay!!" ~mkrupar
We did invite them to the wedding (Out of guilt and the fact that her husband really is a nice guy). And I never took her off my FB list . But the Thank You card was the last time DH and I "reached out" on any level to them.
If you fire a WP member, you're against America.
"Meg cracks me up on the regular. Now she gets to do it in two different forums. Yay!!" ~mkrupar
It's not looking good for a couple when a FI can't tell his SO to dial down the crazy.