My FMIL has offered to pay for the rehearsal dinner. We are planning on having it at a restaurant near the rehearsal location which we have already put a non-refundable deposit down for a private room. Cost is about $20 a person and we will have between 30 and 40 people attending. We have invited all of the significant others but FMIL just got laid off and is worried she now can't afford to pay for everyone. The FI and I don't think that we will be able to cover the cost of it either. Would it be rude to offer to pay for only the wedding party and ask significant others to pay for their own meals if they would like to attend? They won't be at the rehearsal so they would then just have the option of whether or not they wanted to meet us for dinner. Is there another option that I'm missing?
Re: Rehearsal dinner etiquette
It's really extremely rude to as the SOs to pay for their dinner. IMO, it's as rude as not inviting them.
I understand that this is a tricky situation so is there any other way that you can cut back? Can you figure out how much the dinner and drinks will cost and then see if you could scale back flowers or day of transportation to make it fit?
Also, the RD isn't for another 5 months. Surely you can save up the money by then or hopefully she'll have a new job by then.