How to include my child....

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• Lisa50 member

  

  July 2012

  I would recommend he has someone special (grandparent, aunt/uncle, etc) who can sit with him in the front row and guide him through everything as it happens. As well, it will be important to include him in a couple of formal photos. 
  
  I do not suggest that he be included in the ceremony -- vows are for bride and groom only.

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• AdeleDazeem member

  

  July 2012

  Flower girl or ring bearer.  After that, just take a ton of pictures with them.

  
  

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• naomikb member

  

  July 2012

  Flower girl/ring bearer if you think they can make it up the aisle unassisted and without lots of chaos.  And lots of photos!

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• kaos16 member

  

  July 2012 edited July 2012

  This is such a frequently asked question!  I wonder if the mod of this board has ever thought o making a sticky for it.  I think I see it at least once every day or two.
  
  With that being said, OP, having someone walk the child down the aisle would be nice, including him or her in pictures would be nice, even holding him or her for part of your first dance could be cute.  Including him or he in the vows, however, would not be appropriate as a marriage is between 2 consenting adults, not children.

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• Avion22 member

  

  July 2012

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_ceremony-ideas_how-to-include-my-child?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:10Discussion:5dfd46c5-3130-45ad-84c5-42013fe27ee3Post:d1633e01-40be-477a-a495-d6bc974c6d4b">Re: How to include my child....</a>:
  [QUOTE]This is such a frequently asked question!  I wonder if the mod of this board has ever thought o making a sticky for it.  I think I see it at least once every day or two. With that being said, OP, having someone walk the child down the aisle would be nice, including him or her in pictures would be nice, even holding him or her for part of your first dance could be cute.  Including him or he in the vows, however, would not be appropriate as a marriage is between 2 consenting adults, not children.
  Posted by kaos16[/QUOTE]
  
  
  
  There is a sticky on the "second weddings" board (under "special topics boards"). Obviously not everyone with kids is getting married for the second time, but I usually just refer people to that board:-)

  

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• Summer2011Bride member

  

  July 2012

  Flower girl or ring bearer if you think they'd be up for it. Ditto PP on just taking a lot of pics with them. Three is so young that they won't totally grasp what is happening, so any further involvement would be difficult.

  
  
  
  
  

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• Caitlin192

  

  July 2012

  FI and I have a daughter who will be 22 months when we get married next year. She will walk FI down the aisle, stand with him while I walk down the aisle, then we'll say a short family prayer and she'll sit with his parents for the actual ceremony.

  March 2013 Siggy - Ceremony Venue

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• Heat22 member

  

  July 2012 edited July 2012

  I can't say I agree with everyone else.  I agree the wedding vows are for adults, but we are also going to take a family vow and then give our daughter an engraved bracelet.  She is also going to be a flower girl.  If it causes chaos, so be it, we have a three year old and sometimes it happens to be chaotic. 

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• mrsosborn13 member

  

  July 2012

  I dont have a close relationship with my dad, and grandfather is gone so my (then 3 year old) son will be walking me down the isle to his daddy! him and his daddy are going to have matching tuxes he then will go sit with his grandparents

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• LauraJean317 member

  

  September 2012

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_ceremony-ideas_how-to-include-my-child?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:10Discussion:5dfd46c5-3130-45ad-84c5-42013fe27ee3Post:5324d052-1cd3-413e-8ce8-28e4e9f25ec6">Re: How to include my child....</a>:
  [QUOTE]I can't say I agree with everyone else.  I agree the wedding vows are for adults, but we are also going to take a family vow and then give our daughter an engraved bracelet.  She is also going to be a flower girl.  If it causes chaos, so be it, we have a three year old and sometimes it happens to be chaotic. 
  Posted by Heat22[/QUOTE]
  
  That's a good idea :) I'm debating what to do with our daughter in the ceremony...she'll be 7 by the time we get married next year (long story). I'd like to include her as a Flower Girl, although I won't be mentioning her specifically in the vows (probably just go with the traditional vows). But I'd like for her dad/my FI to give her a ring or something special to recognize that we're now a legal family. A bracelet sounds like a good idea :)

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