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First looks???
is anyone doing them? i was TOTALLY against it and wanted the first time to see him when i walk down the aisle and be really traditional about it. but yesterday i met with my wedding planner and she described the first looks soo amazing. like its just you and him and the photographer and they capture all those tender moments. She said that all 3 of her boys did it that way and they wouldn't change it for the world. she said that being able to take the pictures of just you and him enjoying being in love away from all the excitement is just priceless.
uh..ya... okay after describing it like that.. I WANNA DO IT NOW! my FMIL disagrees though. she said that it wouldn't have the same effect while i'm walking down the aisle. she said that the guests want to see his reaction when he sees me for the first time and that is something that everyone should share and not just for me. idk... i tried to explain it to his mom about how tender and sweet the pictures would be... but she says its an "injustice to the wedding."
idk... are you (did you) girls do first looks? why or why not?
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We wouldn't have our wedding bands on, I think it would make us feel more rushed to get ready to get all of the pics in before, so we're not doing one. Also, since we're not kissing until the end of the ceremony, there would be a lot of pictures we would have to do after the ceremony, anyways.
We're doing a social hour with mocktails and appetizers at the reception venue, and we've talked with the photographer about how important it is that we're all leaving the church by 7:15 so our guests aren't waiting too long for dinner.
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one of the nice (practical things) about doing a First Look, is our guests only have to wait 20 minutes or so for us to get to the reception because the majority of our pictures will be done before the ceremony.
most of my friends that have done the First Look really loved it. you get to be as excited as you want and you don't have to "rein in" any reactions... also, they said it helped to calm their jitters before the actual ceremony. and the grooms still had teary eyes when their brides walked down the aisle.
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[QUOTE]What does your FI think? My FI is 100% against it, no matter how many times we hear the sweet descriptions like that. <font class="Apple-style-span" color="#ff00ff">So it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks, if I schedule a first look I'd be the only one there without FI, lol.</font>
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</div><div><font class="Apple-style-span" color="#000000">haha this made me laugh. (: ya... idk if he wants to do it. i said no.... and then he just looked at me... so i thought maybe that he wanted to do the first looks. but idk. we probably wont though. but i still wanna make sure that we take sweet and tender pics of just him and i. (:</font>
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It was so amazing to be able to have a private moment the first time we saw each other. We were able to hug, kiss, and cry without hundreds of eyes on us. We loved showing our true emotions, plus getting our pictures out of the way was a huge plus since we were looking forward to actually attending the party we had been planning for the past year and a half. We were able to mingle at cocktail hour and spend a lot more time with our guests.
Plus, I must say it took absolutely nothing away from my walk down the aisle. I was still super emotional and broke down in tears as I got to the front and the look on DH's face was priceless.
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[QUOTE]We did a first look and it was one of the best decisions we made that for our wedding day. It was so amazing to be able to have a private moment the first time we saw each other. We were able to hug, kiss, and cry without hundreds of eyes on us. We loved showing our true emotions, plus getting our pictures out of the way was a huge plus since we were looking forward to actually attending the party we had been planning for the past year and a half. We were able to mingle at cocktail hour and spend a lot more time with our guests. <font class="Apple-style-span" color="#ff00ff">Plus, I must say it took absolutely nothing away from my walk down the aisle. I was still super emotional and broke down in tears as I got to the front and the look on DH's face was priceless.</font>
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<div><font class="Apple-style-span" color="#000000">this is how i feel that i would feel. i dont think it will take away from the walk down the aisle. he would still be seeing me walk down the aisle to be his wife. i know i will still be emotional. idk. his mom is worried that FI won't have the same reaction on his face and so she will miss it. but i feel like it would be nice to do the majority of the pics before and stuff.</font></div>
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We are doing a first look because I want that private moment like you described. I also think it's going to get some of our butterflies out. (and hopefully any crying). Do what you want, not what FMIL wants. None of your guests will know unless you tell them, and anyway, what do they care?
As another option, I did see photos (I can't remember where, I'm sorry!) where a couple sort of did a first look... except they didn't look. They took a couple neat photos where they were around the corner from each other holding hands, and doing things like that so he couldn't see her all dressed up but they sort of had their private moment still.
I think it really depends on what the couple is like
[QUOTE]I will say that <strong>we're doing every single picture that doesn't involve FI seeing me before the ceremony, before the ceremony. Especially all of the "details" pics like a picture of the invitation, a picture of the rings, etc.
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we are doing exactly this
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[QUOTE]We did a first look and it was one of the best decisions we made for our wedding day. I was against it when I first heard about it as well, but after hearing so many people rave about it and after my photographer suggested it we thought it about some more and realized it was the better option for us. It was so amazing to be able to have a private moment the first time we saw each other. We were able to hug, kiss, and cry without hundreds of eyes on us. We loved showing our true emotions, plus getting our pictures out of the way was a huge plus since we were looking forward to actually attending the party we had been planning for the past year and a half. We were able to mingle at cocktail hour and spend a lot more time with our guests. Plus, I must say it took absolutely nothing away from my walk down the aisle. I was still super emotional and broke down in tears as I got to the front and the look on DH's face was priceless.
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Ditto this, except I was never against it, and I didn't cry. I wouldn't have cried anyway because I'm a cold hearted snake. I only cry at sporting events and sports movies. True story.
I will add that it totally helped me relaxed. I was a much nicer person after seeing H and getting to goof around with him.
[QUOTE]No first look for us. We (okay, maybe I...) am very traditional and always pictured that big moment when I walk into the church holding (gripping) onto my father.
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[QUOTE]As another option, I did see photos (I can't remember where, I'm sorry!) where a couple sort of did a first look... except they didn't look. They took a couple neat photos where they were around the corner from each other holding hands, and doing things like that so he couldn't see her all dressed up but they sort of had their private moment still. I think it really depends on what the couple is like :)
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I have never heard of this, sounds super cute!! awwwwww I wanna do this too!!
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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: First looks??? : this is how i feel that i would feel. i dont think it will take away from the walk down the aisle. he would still be seeing me walk down the aisle to be his wife. i know i will still be emotional. idk. <strong>his mom is worried that FI won't have the same reaction on his face and so she will miss it.</strong> but i feel like it would be nice to do the majority of the pics before and stuff.
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She doesn't have to. A girl I go to church with got married about a year ago, and they did a first look with their immediate families in attendance. So the mothers still got to see the looks.
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[QUOTE]When we get around to it, we won't be doing one. I know what everyone says but it just isn't for us. I always feel like whenever the first look thing is mentioned everyone who is doing it/done it is <strong>super aggressive towards the people who want to wait</strong> which really bothers me. (Not that anyone is being aggressive on here) I can't wait to see the look on his face when I appear for the first time. I don't have a long isle to walk down but I know it will be awesome. Plus that is my favorite part of the wedding. :) But to each his own.
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That is exactly why I don't usually answer this question elsewhere on TK boards (but I did answer here, obviously!) --- I think that both ways are acceptable, it's just personal preference and sometimes a few traditional or time considerations that sway the decision for a lot of people. Unfortunately though, on other boards, sometimes people can get a little argumentative about doing it and I am glad that it was kept very positive on this board!!! :-)
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