Poll: Would you ever swing? Yes, sexually.

polichik · February 2010

ETA: This poll was inspired by a lecture we had in our couples' therapy class. Not from personal experience

alixzafiris · February 2010

Fvck, okay, I'm on crack. I meant to click absolutely no, and then I got all (eek!) by the hockey for a minute and thought it said absolutely not... so I'm the "we already do" vote, though it should be a whopping hellz no.

ThePinkSuperhero · February 2010

Haaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa.

jajph1974 · February 2010

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[QUOTE]Fvck, okay, I'm on crack. I meant to click absolutely no, and then I got all (eek!) by the hockey for a minute and thought it said absolutely not... so I'm the "we already do" vote, though it should be a whopping hellz no.
Posted by alixzafiris[/QUOTE]

I was wondering who clicked that one

polichik · February 2010

HAHAHAHA

Sorry, I love you, Alix!

crfische · February 2010

Don't listen to Alix. She swings all right. SHE SWINGS.

Yeah, no. Swinging is not for us. BUT I do know swinger couples. True story.

alixzafiris · February 2010

Well goddammit Fische, didja have to go and out me on the INTERNET!?

ggmae · February 2010

Hell fuucking no.

crfische · February 2010

Erm, you outed you. I just ya know...don't enable backtracking is all.

JessAndTrav · February 2010

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[QUOTE]Well goddammit Fische, didja have to go and out me on the INTERNET!?
Posted by alixzafiris[/QUOTE]

Duh, Alix. Web forums are totally secret, as we've discussed today with 'ol Brim.

Your secret is safe with us.

Brie2010 · February 2010

Never say never.

I can see how it would be absolutely useful for some couples. (Disclaimer: I listen to way too much Dan Savage.) I believe that monogamy isn't necessarily natural for many people, and I can think of several situations in which swinging/sanctioned adultery could help a marriage rather than hurt it.

ggmae · February 2010

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[QUOTE]<strong>Never say never.</strong> I can see how it would be absolutely useful for some couples. (Disclaimer: I listen to way too much Dan Savage.) I believe that monogamy isn't necessarily natural for many people, and I can think of several situations in which swinging/sanctioned adultery could help a marriage rather than hurt it.
Posted by Brie2010[/QUOTE]

I am wholeheartedly saying "never" on this one!

[Deleted User] · February 2010

No. I could never do it. There is no way that I could watch Matt with another woman or even know that he was with another woman. Nope.

jasmineh7777 · February 2010

I don't agree with the idea of satelite relationships. I would also be waaay too jealous to ever try swinging.

kate51485 · February 2010

I don't think I could ever look at the people involved the same again.

beatlesgirl25 · February 2010

Not for us. I voted No Way In Hell.

[Deleted User] · February 2010

Wait. Do glory holes count?

PsyDet 2155 · February 2010

No swinging for me...I'm all set with the boyfriend

Just isn't for us but I'm sure it works out well for other couples.

AdeleDazeem · February 2010

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[QUOTE]Never say never. I can see how it would be absolutely useful for some couples. (Disclaimer: I listen to way too much Dan Savage.) I believe that monogamy isn't necessarily natural for many people, and I can think of several situations in which swinging/sanctioned adultery could help a marriage rather than hurt it.
Posted by Brie2010[/QUOTE]

I really agree with this. It turns my stomach to think about it right now, but in the future? Who knows.

crfische · February 2010

YEah, could you ever just go out for dinner with them again? I think there would be a whole lot of "will you please pass the penis. OH SHIIT, I mean PEAS."

JessAndTrav · February 2010

I voted no way in hell. I'll take pride in my prudishness for this one.

jajph1974 · February 2010

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[QUOTE]Wait. Do glory holes count?
Posted by cew515[/QUOTE]

Hahaha.

alixzafiris · February 2010

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[QUOTE]YEah, could you ever just go out for dinner with them again? I think there would be a whole lot of "will you please pass the penis. OH SHIIT, I mean PEAS."
Posted by crfische[/QUOTE]

Ahahaha

crfische · February 2010

And I don't think you could ever ask "Please pass the buns" without causing confusion.

sarabellam · February 2010

Yeah, that's not for me. Whatever floats your boat and all that, but not for this chick.

playtntsbpg30 · February 2010

Absolutely NOT! He's mine and all mine. My only. And I want that for him as well. I want to be his one and only. I am all his, he is all mine. No one else.

I think that type of relationship is just allowing cheating and there is no true love involved in that situation. JMO

Brie2010 · February 2010

I don't know that I have any interest in swinging, but, hypothetically--say you're with someone you really love and who really loves you. You have a good relationship, you are best friends, you have kids, shared finances, and you don't want to leave one another. One partner gets sick with a chronic illness--like a chronic pain disorder or something that lasts for years. It saps all their interest in sex, but you still both love and care for each other. I think in that situation, I might say, "Honey, if you need to get some elsewhere, I understand that." Husband goes out, has a discreet thing on the side, comes home and cares for his loving wife and family.

Makes sense to me.

tlv204 · February 2010

Yeah not for me. I guess my personal definition of marriage involves monogamy, so if I were to have the desire to do this I don't think I ever would have gotten married, I just would have had a committed (I guess), non-matrimonial relationship. Well, I at least wouldn't have had a religious ceremony.

I don't know any swingers that I know of, but I guess sometimes you never know.

crfische · February 2010

See Brie, to me that's the better or worse part.

Being faithful to my husband is more important than getting off.

tlv204 · February 2010

Yeah I'm with the fishter.

ggmae · February 2010

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[QUOTE]Yeah not for me. I guess my personal definition of marriage involves monogamy, so if I were to have the desire to do this I don't think I ever would have gotten married, I just would have had a committed (I guess), non-matrimonial relationship. Well, I at least wouldn't have had a religious ceremony. I don't know any swingers that I know of, but I guess sometimes you never know.
Posted by tlv204[/QUOTE]

It means the same thing to me too, Tlv.

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