Why are people so rude?...

ErinG93 · April 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_why-are-people-so-rude?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:1513e0b0-56e4-4173-aa8d-57d12341b54fPost:6d499c7b-1b79-4fdb-a793-bc71f82c95a2">Re: Why are people so rude?...</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Why are people so rude?... : WTF How often does one use that in conversation? Who decided that needed an abbreviation? Ugh my hand hurts from typing out "you only live once".
Posted by Rosie109[/QUOTE]

<div>I agree, it's fucking weird. I kept thinking it meant, 'YO WHAT'S UP' or something. I don't know which annoys me more, YOLO or SMH.</div>

Stackeye210 · April 2012

I feel that way about CQTM

Snippylynn · April 2012

YES STACKS. YES.

laurenclaire1386 · April 2012

SMH is waaaaaaaay worse than CQTM, for me anyway. I don't ever literally shake my head at my computer, but I chuckle quietly to myself frequently. I guess what it comes down to for me, is are you actually DOING the thing you're using the acronym for?

jemmini6 · April 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_why-are-people-so-rude?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:1513e0b0-56e4-4173-aa8d-57d12341b54fPost:00ff58e4-b37e-42e4-b0c8-aeab49d2a876">Re: Why are people so rude?...</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Why are people so rude?... : I never said that EVERYONE was rude. Clearly everyone who has posted a comment on this does not fall under that category. I was hoping that the "rude" people would explain why they are so evil? I have to log off and go find a hairstyle to send to my stylist before I spend my entire day on this site. Have a great weekend everyone.
Posted by cvmami78[/QUOTE]

So now rude = evil? Nice.

You know what I find rude? People talking shiit about other posts, saying how rude they are, expecting them to just randomly come forward, but not naming any specifics...

So please OP, why are YOU evil?

Rosie109 · April 2012

I think all of those things are creepy, but I don't like it when people do *this* so don't worry about me

*walks around and eats a cookie*

laurenclaire1386 · April 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_why-are-people-so-rude?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:1513e0b0-56e4-4173-aa8d-57d12341b54fPost:0d0869b5-96a0-481a-9469-db10820bf38b">Re: Why are people so rude?...</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Why are people so rude?... : Like ROFLMAO?
Posted by EaglesBride2012[/QUOTE]<div>You know what kills me more than ROFLMAO, is ROFLMBO. Like really? You didn't even actually say ass to begin with, but now you've got to clean it up?

</div>

prymar08 · April 2012

People are rude on the internet because they are not afraid to be 100% honest while hiding behind their computer screens. Get them in person, and you wouldn't hear half of it.

Unfortunately, a lot of people also don't know how to be honest without being rude, and are exceptionally judgemental on forums.

I would just keep "sticky" subjects to myself or learn to ignore the snide comments.

Kate61487 · April 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_why-are-people-so-rude?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:1513e0b0-56e4-4173-aa8d-57d12341b54fPost:189966f0-7ac9-4521-96fd-e1ed0e52ade1">Re: Why are people so rude?...</a>:
[QUOTE]My boss's kid didn't get the LMFAO thing (as he is only ten) so he called them "Limfow" one time in the car when that awful song came on. Now every time I see that, I say Limfow in my head.
Posted by EaglesBride2012[/QUOTE]

My 16 yo cousin tried to call them Limfow; and he knows what the abbreviation means. He claims "That's what everyone calls them". Sorry kids, a band's name is pronounced the way THEY say it. When they get introduced at concerts, or announced on the radio they don't say "limfow".

It made me think of that "I got the moves McJagger" facebook post that circulated, b/c apparently highschoolers can't be troubled to learn bands / artists names. or lyrics for that matter...

hannahmassey · April 2012

I dont know. TK users spanked me pretty hard when I asked about inviting a couple of my FI's crazy biznitch sisters to my shower. I like forums because of the anonymity, well not for me I guess, can't get my real name off of here. And I think with all the stress of wedding planning it feels good to lash out and push our preferences and opinions on other people. It does feel good, especially when you don't have someone in real life who will go back and forth with you.

mdeidre · April 2012

I know what SMH means, but what is YOLO? And since it wasn't included in the OP:

You people are terrible! I feel so sorry for your husbands! You're all going to be divorced in 5 years!

Did i forget anything? It was my first time.

chrmun · April 2012

Congratulations, OP, you are now on my list.

And prymar, I've got my eye on you, too.

NuggetBrain · April 2012

Well I don't know what these other heifers' excuses are, but I'm rude because I'm black.

tonya246 · April 2012

People are rude on here, I don't understand why. Are more than one occasion I've asked a question on here and felt like they almost bit my head off and like I did something wrong.

I posted a question a few months back about a wedding tradition in this area and everyone had something bad to say about. Only one person actually took into consideration that it is a tradition in this area. Even though you might not agree with it, does not make it wrong. If its religious, family or location based, it doesn't matter. No one should be torn into because of a tradition.

NuggetBrain · April 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_why-are-people-so-rude?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:1513e0b0-56e4-4173-aa8d-57d12341b54fPost:bb84340b-48ec-4136-af9f-3b5f46f65904">Re: Why are people so rude?...</a>:
[QUOTE]People are rude on here, I don't understand why. Are more than one occasion I've asked a question on here and felt like they almost bit my head off and like I did something wrong. I posted a question a few months back about a wedding tradition in this area and everyone had something bad to say about. Only one person actually took into consideration that it is a tradition in this area. Even though you might not agree with it, does not make it wrong. If its religious, family or location based, it doesn't matter. No one should be torn into because of a tradition.
Posted by tonya246[/QUOTE]

What, exactly, was this "tradition" and what "area" was it in.

tonya246 · April 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_why-are-people-so-rude?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:1513e0b0-56e4-4173-aa8d-57d12341b54fPost:84cb3285-2193-4f6c-bafb-e38e08dbf4cb">Re: Why are people so rude?...</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Why are people so rude?... : What, exactly, was this "tradition" and what "area" was it in.
Posted by NuggetBrain[/QUOTE]

It's a wedding social, and it's a Manitoba (Canada) thing.

tonya246 · April 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_why-are-people-so-rude?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:1513e0b0-56e4-4173-aa8d-57d12341b54fPost:c2e1b48c-7c5e-4422-98c8-417567d1bb59">Re: Why are people so rude?...</a>:
[QUOTE]What's a wedding social?
Posted by EaglesBride2012[/QUOTE]

<a href="http://www.socialsguide.com/whatisasocial.php" rel="nofollow">http://www.socialsguide.com/whatisasocial.php</a>

This probably explains it better than I would.

I got torn into pieces with "if you can't afford to get married then dont" "pay for your own wedding" etc. etc. I don't need that BS because no one understands that everyone here has a social when they get married. And we are paying for our wedding, and yes we can afford it.

How is it any different than a bridal shower? In my opinion it's not much different at all. Just another way to celebrate the upcoming marriage.

tonya246 · April 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_why-are-people-so-rude?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:1513e0b0-56e4-4173-aa8d-57d12341b54fPost:2c4b94c0-d680-4030-9340-ce4247b2e886">Re: Why are people so rude?...</a>:
[QUOTE]No, it's incredibly rude. Just because it's a tradition doesn't mean it isn't completely wrong.
Posted by EaglesBride2012[/QUOTE]

And let the bashing begin!!

NuggetBrain · April 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_why-are-people-so-rude?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:1513e0b0-56e4-4173-aa8d-57d12341b54fPost:ea4b22b6-f92c-4ab3-a8d1-2f973002f617">Re: Why are people so rude?...</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Why are people so rude?... : <a href="http://www.socialsguide.com/whatisasocial.php" rel="nofollow">http://www.socialsguide.com/whatisasocial.php</a> This probably explains it better than I would. I got torn into pieces with "if you can't afford to get married then dont" "pay for your own wedding" etc. etc. I don't need that BS because no one understands that everyone here has a social when they get married. And we are paying for our wedding, and yes we can afford it. <strong>How is it any different than a bridal shower?</strong> In my opinion it's not much different at all. Just another way to celebrate the upcoming marriage.
Posted by tonya246[/QUOTE]

Uh. Because people don't have to pay for everything at a bridal shower.

NuggetBrain · April 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_why-are-people-so-rude?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:1513e0b0-56e4-4173-aa8d-57d12341b54fPost:851724d9-4f55-4715-8ffa-25d842df9a74">Re: Why are people so rude?...</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Why are people so rude?... : And let the bashing begin!!
Posted by tonya246[/QUOTE]

Listen honey, someone saying "that's rude" is not bashing.

tonya246 · April 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_why-are-people-so-rude?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:1513e0b0-56e4-4173-aa8d-57d12341b54fPost:8bee0728-3dbb-451b-a58d-e02dbc5107ff">Re: Why are people so rude?...</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Why are people so rude?... : Uh. Because people don't have to pay for everything at a bridal shower.
Posted by NuggetBrain[/QUOTE]

Í'm not sure if you understand exactly or if I understand what you think people are paying for. No one is forced to pay for anything.

aragx6 · April 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_why-are-people-so-rude?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:1513e0b0-56e4-4173-aa8d-57d12341b54fPost:851724d9-4f55-4715-8ffa-25d842df9a74">Re: Why are people so rude?...</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Why are people so rude?... : And let the bashing begin!!
Posted by tonya246[/QUOTE]

I think you're too sensitive for the internet, particularly the <em>etiquette</em> board here where a key component of the proferred advice is following etiquette. No one said "You're stupid" they said "Doing this is rude" -- surely you see the difference?

tonya246 · April 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_why-are-people-so-rude?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:1513e0b0-56e4-4173-aa8d-57d12341b54fPost:d0d706d6-9bcd-48bc-86a9-8f52d514d0b9">Re: Why are people so rude?...</a>:
[QUOTE]I'm not bashing you, man. I'm just telling you it's rude.
Posted by EaglesBride2012[/QUOTE]

What happens if I think bridal showers are rude??? When you're in a wedding party you are forced to attened and forced to buy a gift. Because we all know you can't go to a bridal shower with out a gift. To me it's just an excuse for gifts, but that's my opinion. Still, most people have bridal showers.

Kimmyznc · April 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_why-are-people-so-rude?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:1513e0b0-56e4-4173-aa8d-57d12341b54fPost:ea4b22b6-f92c-4ab3-a8d1-2f973002f617">Re: Why are people so rude?...</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Why are people so rude?... : <a href="http://www.socialsguide.com/whatisasocial.php" rel="nofollow">http://www.socialsguide.com/whatisasocial.php</a> This probably explains it better than I would. I got torn into pieces with "if you can't afford to get married then dont" "pay for your own wedding" etc. etc. I don't need that BS because no one understands that everyone here has a social when they get married. And we are paying for our wedding, and yes we can afford it. How is it any different than a bridal shower? In my opinion it's not much different at all. Just another way to celebrate the upcoming marriage.
Posted by tonya246[/QUOTE]

I had never heard of this before you just posted the link. I am not trying to be rude whatsoever but I would be completely floored if somebody asked me to participate in this kind of thing. Especially the having to buy a $10 ticket and having people present who are not invited to the wedding. Many people don't have tons of money for starting their new life together and don't have a social. However, if this is what is common in your area, go for it. But also don't get offended when others don't agree with you.

tonya246 · April 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_why-are-people-so-rude?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:1513e0b0-56e4-4173-aa8d-57d12341b54fPost:52626bed-fe0f-44c0-9f48-f3ec79c6c2e9">Re: Why are people so rude?...</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Why are people so rude?... : I think you're too sensitive for the internet, particularly the etiquette board here where a key component of the proferred advice is following etiquette. No one said "You're stupid" they said "Doing this is rude" -- surely you see the difference?
Posted by aragx6[/QUOTE]

I don't think its a matter of being sensitive, I think it's a matter of being attacked for no reason.

There are other ways to go around saying that it's not the best idea. But no one understands that a social is as common as a bridal shower. If you don't have one people wonder what is wrong with you. Someone might not agree with it, but that's fine, it's still no reason to attack someone because of it. Do people criticize religous wedding traditions? Probably not. If the church put on the wedding social for the bride and groom would it be different? It's all in how you look at it. Just because you don't agree with it, doesn't make it wrong.

Either way, my groom and I decided NOT to have a wedding social because it was going to be alot of work and we didn't see the need for it.

NuggetBrain · April 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_why-are-people-so-rude?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:1513e0b0-56e4-4173-aa8d-57d12341b54fPost:bd673e0a-f0b1-4c28-877c-3f349efac8e1">Re: Why are people so rude?...</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Why are people so rude?... : Í'm not sure if you understand exactly or if I understand what you think people are paying for. No one is forced to pay for anything.
Posted by tonya246[/QUOTE]

Oh, I see. So they can show up for free, without a ticket? And drink booze for free?

mica178 · April 2012

First, this is the etiquette board, not the customs & traditions board.

Second, bridal showers are thrown by people other than the bride, and their goal is to shower the couple with gifts to start their new life together. Socials (or Jack and Jills) are fundraisers to raise money for the couple so that they can throw a wedding they would not otherwise have been able to afford. Don't you see how socials might rub people the wrong way?

NuggetBrain · April 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_why-are-people-so-rude?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:1513e0b0-56e4-4173-aa8d-57d12341b54fPost:11332d0b-c446-462d-a8ad-967fba724fe3">Re: Why are people so rude?...</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Why are people so rude?... : What happens if I think bridal showers are rude??? When you're in a wedding party you are forced to attened and <strong>forced to buy a gift.</strong> <strong>Because we all know you can't go to a bridal shower with out a gift.</strong> To me it's just an excuse for gifts, but that's my opinion. Still, most people have bridal showers.
Posted by tonya246[/QUOTE]

Uh, no you're not. A very good friend of mine just brought along a card, because she was super-tight on cash. Another friend gave me some homemade washclothes. My MIL gave us a crystal candy dish that was an hierloom. Nobody had to fork over cash, and nobody had to pay for any of the drinks there.

tonya246 · April 2012

I can understand why everyone thinks that a social is wrong. And I'm sure I would too if it wasn't custom in this area.

Buuut that's no reason to tear into me because of it. I'm not here to argue and fight ladies.

NuggetBrain · April 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_why-are-people-so-rude?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:1513e0b0-56e4-4173-aa8d-57d12341b54fPost:0413e613-9361-40bd-b61a-373b89c8acc4">Re: Why are people so rude?...</a>:
[QUOTE]I can understand why everyone thinks that a social is wrong. And I'm sure I would too if it wasn't custom in this area. Buuut that's no reason to tear into me because of it. I'm not here to argue and fight ladies.
Posted by tonya246[/QUOTE]

Nobody is tearing into you. Why are you being so dramatic? Seriously.

Why are people so rude?...

Re: Why are people so rude?...

Choose Another Board

Search Boards