Family torn over my father's boyfriend...

laurenclaire1386 · September 2010

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[QUOTE]Didn't know all that was "pertinent" and was needed to be known before you guys started saying my situation was "made up drama"....................... and that I'm a "fake poster"......................................
Posted by supermodelinohio[/QUOTE]
And now you're abusing quotation marks.

Celles · September 2010

By all means, continue ranting about how you haven't gotten any advice and completely ignore the advice you have, in fact, been given...

[Deleted User] · September 2010

"In addition to the other odd things about her post, it seems strange that OP and her fi have been together for 6 years but her fi's family doesn't know her dad is gay."

this was posted by ohwhynot.......................................

ohwhynot · September 2010

Yeah, actually, I do have a couple more questions. You just got engaged, but you joined months ago? Why? You're getting married on a Wednesday? How does one accidentally enter 2014 when you mean to enter 2011? And, really, why come to the Etiquette board? Are we more likely than any other board to "share [your] plight" of having a gay dad in the middle east whose new Thai boyfriend pitched a tantrum because our moms told him our inlaws to be don't want him to be at our weddings?

[Deleted User] · September 2010

yeah, cause you guys are oh so useful with the exception of one person. Stop flattering yourselves.

[Deleted User] · September 2010

Soooo......................you're just gonna look at the profile info I made before I got engaged and take it word for word?

It was made before I got engaged because a friend told me about it. I was using this website for a number of reasons that you don't need to know about. I did click on 2014 when it should have been 2011 and yes, we are thinking of getting married on a Wednesday.

One accidentally enters the wrong date because no one is perfect.

OMG, again, board police, I'm sorry I put it here because there wasn't a "my family is really messed up" board.

I don't know the proper etiquette for this and it didn't fall under "gay weddings" because it's my dad that's gay and he isn't the one getting married.

georgia_bride09 · September 2010

[QUOTE]Soooo......................you're just gonna look at the profile info I made before I got engaged and take it word for word? It was made before I got engaged because a friend told me about it. I was using this website for a number of reasons that you don't need to know about. I did click on 2014 when it should have been 2011 and yes, we are thinking of getting married on a Wednesday. One accidentally enters the wrong date because no one is perfect. OMG, again, board police, I'm sorry I put it here because there wasn't a "my family is really messed up" board. I don't know the proper etiquette for this and it didn't fall under "gay weddings" because it's my dad that's gay and he isn't the one getting married.
Posted by supermodelinohio[/QUOTE]

Here's some advice. Stop kicking this dead horse.

laurenclaire1386 · September 2010

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[QUOTE]Soooo......................you're just gonna look at the profile info I made before I got engaged and take it word for word? It was made before I got engaged because a friend told me about it. I was using this website for a number of reasons that you don't need to know about. I did click on 2014 when it should have been 2011 and yes, we are thinking of getting married on a Wednesday. One accidentally enters the wrong date because no one is perfect. OMG, again, board police, I'm sorry I put it here because there wasn't a "my family is really messed up" board. I don't know the proper etiquette for this and it didn't fall under "gay weddings" because it's my dad that's gay and he isn't the one getting married.
Posted by supermodelinohio[/QUOTE]
You're in the CIA aren't you?

Celles · September 2010

Bubbalub, I can't remember if I've told you yet how much I love your engagement picture? It's gorgeous.

/end threadjack

TurtlesAllTheWayDown · September 2010

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[QUOTE]You know what my favorite troll was? Hopebliss (Mandypant's). That storyline was freaking awesome.
Posted by louisvillebride21[/QUOTE]

She was awesome. PrincessKitty was awesome too.

OP - This will probably blow over in a few weeks. Hopefully you'll be able to attend your father's wedding and make ammends. Give him a few days and then just keep trying to talk to him. Send him and his partner an invitation to your wedding.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown · September 2010

I think the fact that your flamboyantly gay father lives in the middle east suddenly makes this story implausible. I guess I found the line in the sand for me, in this story.

[Deleted User] · September 2010

He's not flamboyant like Jack from Will and Grace. Are you making the wrong assumption that all gays are flaming, in-your-face gay? I think you are.

They met in Thailand because he goes there for vacation a lot. It's actually not that far-flung of a story.

[Deleted User] · September 2010

If there can be gay soldiers stationed in the middle east, why can't my dad be there?????

laurenclaire1386 · September 2010

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[QUOTE]He's not flamboyant like Jack from Will and Grace. Are you making the wrong assumption that all gays are flaming, in-your-face gay? I think you are. They met in Thailand because he goes there for vacation a lot. It's actually not that far-flung of a story.
Posted by supermodelinohio[/QUOTE]
Uh, I really don't think she is. In fact, Mery's one of the last people that would make this assumption.

[Deleted User] · September 2010

I didn't know that logistics were such an important detail. He was in IRaq for almost 6 years and now he's in Baghram. So how is that far-fetched?

TurtlesAllTheWayDown · September 2010

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[QUOTE]He's not flamboyant like Jack from Will and Grace. Are you making the wrong assumption that all gays are flaming, in-your-face gay? I think you are. They met in Thailand because he goes there for vacation a lot. It's actually not that far-flung of a story.
Posted by supermodelinohio[/QUOTE]

Did I make that assumption? No. You said your dad was out and proud and dating a young guy from Thailand. I may have exaggerated a bit.

However, dating a young man from Thailand isn't exactly subtle. I didn't say your dad couldn't be in the middle east, but if I were gay it's probably one of the last places I'd want to be.

[Deleted User] · September 2010

There is a line between have to be and want to be......................

[Deleted User] · September 2010

Just call your dad and explain your side. If he refuses to listen, then there's nothing you can do. He and his boyfriend sound incredibly immature if they're boycotting the wedding over something your mom said and aren't even bothering to listen to you.

It seems like you have plenty of time to sort out the situation. So go visit with him, hang out without talking about the wedding. Hopefully he'll come around.

AlmostMrsStrong · September 2010

Man, screw the GIS boards. I'm hanging out here more often!

texagj · September 2010

Don't know if anyone is still reading this thread but to everyone who replied to my comment yesterday....

I get that their are fake posters out there. I get that it is annoying and lame when people make up crap. Granted I am new and can't claim to be able to tell the fakes from the honest ones. My point is simply this...

This scenario was not that hard to beleive. I've seen it in real life it actually does happen. Maybe this is a fake or maybe this is actually some girl out their looking for advice from other people getting married just like she is. It may seem stupid and made up but on the off chance its a real and true thing I would think that anyone who had anything helpful to say should (and yes I know many did) and everyone who thinks she is full of it should just ignore her. If she is someone making up a load of crap (and I am not saying you are) then your just feeding the attention that person asked for. Negative attention is still attention. But if she is telling the truth than the only thing we are advertising here is that we are a bunch of people more interested in critizing than actually helping out other brides. And its not just this board. I have seen it on some of the others too.

Maybe I am just being young and naive or stupid whatever you want to call it. But that is actually the way I think. And if you think I am wrong thats fine maybe your right.

jenb1205 · September 2010

I guess the only thing I'm confused about is how the Mom was actually able to contact and apparently have a discussion with the Dad when the OP doesn't seem to be able to have a way to do that.

laurenclaire1386 · September 2010

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[QUOTE]Don't know if anyone is still reading this thread but to everyone who replied to my comment yesterday.... I get that their are fake posters out there. I get that it is annoying and lame when people make up crap. Granted I am new and can't claim to be able to tell the fakes from the honest ones. My point is simply this... This scenario was not that hard to beleive. I've seen it in real life it actually does happen. Maybe this is a fake or maybe this is actually some girl out their looking for advice from other people getting married just like she is. It may seem stupid and made up but on the off chance its a real and true thing I would think that anyone who had anything helpful to say should (and yes I know many did) and everyone who thinks she is full of it should just ignore her. If she is someone making up a load of crap (and I am not saying you are) then your just feeding the attention that person asked for. Negative attention is still attention. But if she is telling the truth than the only thing we are advertising here is that we are a bunch of people more interested in critizing than actually helping out other brides. And its not just this board. I have seen it on some of the others too. Maybe I am just being young and naive or stupid whatever you want to call it. But that is actually the way I think. And if you think I am wrong thats fine maybe your right.
Posted by texagj[/QUOTE]
Can you hear me from your high horse? You should stop telling people how to post. Free speech and all that jazz.

texagj · September 2010

Wasn't really trying to tell people how to post. More of a thought..and at the end I did say maybe i'm wrong. I'm willing to admit that. That's just my opinion on the matter. To be honest I felt kinda bad for her and wasn't sure why she was getting picked on so bad.

Anysunrise · September 2010

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[QUOTE]I guess the only thing I'm confused about is how the Mom was actually able to contact and apparently have a discussion with the Dad when the OP doesn't seem to be able to have a way to do that.
Posted by jenb1205[/QUOTE]

^^^

dittmerbullard2010 · September 2010

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[QUOTE]I'm from Ohio............................
Posted by supermodelinohio[/QUOTE]

Ok I'm not crazy. She did originally say she was from Ohio.

Oh wait... maybe she meant FROM as in, hailed from. Ok maybe I'm posting about something that doesn't need to be posted about. Sorry if I'm wrong, here!

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