My parents are paying for our wedding and would like to have a cocktail hour in addition to a "soft bar" during dinner and dancing. My fiance and I both drink in moderation and would like to have some alcohol available at our reception, but his parents are very conservative and opposed to the idea of alcohol at all. The groom worries that his parents will be uncomfortable during the reception if ANYONE is drinking, and sees nothing wrong with leaving alcohol out of the cocktail hour as a small compromise to his parents. But my family (who is footing the whole bill) argues that the cocktail hour is important to them and that as hosts they should get to dictate how hospitality is shown. They feel that nixing the hard liquor was already enough compromise. I'm troubled by his parents trying to push their beliefs on my family or insinuating that people would overindulge, but I also want them to feel welcome at our wedding. I also want to be careful not to appear ungrateful for the help my parents have given us.