We’re trying to hold off on kids for a few years (1, want to enjoy being newlyweds, 2, want more financial stability) and limit the size of our family (2-4 kids) but we definitely don’t have total control over it! We usually just withdraw & on rare occasions use condoms. We know that’s very ineffective, but we know whatever happens will be part of God’s plan.Won’t use HBC and haven’t tried FAM. I am not judging anyone who uses HBC! But I am uncomfortable with using it because I feel is an abortifacient contraception. I actually posted something about it a while ago…http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/cultural-wedding-boards_christian-weddings_birth-controlThe primary effect of HBC is to inhibit ovulation, but it also reduces the endometrium lining. As we know, HBC is not 100% effective, so ovulation may occur and be followed by conception. So what happens if the fertilized egg can’t attach to the endometrium? It will be deprived of nourishment and die because of HBC.This is a scary risk that few are aware of. So if you believe that life begins at conception, you might want to rethink how you feel about HBC!