Pictures of GREAT Weddings DOES NOT HELP

desertsun · September 2010

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[QUOTE]4. Being a "planner" isn't an excuse to plan your wedding in advance, start subscribing to wedding magazines before you're even engaged, buying your dress before you're engaged, booking vendors, etc.
Posted by oceana919[/QUOTE]

THIS!

I am SO tired of "But I'm a plaaaaanerrrrr!"

barf

You're overeager. Period.

Goldlie11 · September 2010

I think it's strange to be reading wedding magazines and books before you're actually engaged. Does your bf know about it?

My one piece of advice is ditto Oceana about saving money. I really wish that I had started saving before we got engaged.

Beads921 · September 2010

Dude(tte)...simma! It's 2 months. That's like a speck of rice in the grand scheme of things. I realize it's easy to get caught up in all the hustle and bustle, and that you're excited, but you're really not doing yourself any favours.

breezerb · September 2010

Ditto.every.single.word.Oceana.said.period.

mellimel19 · September 2010

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[QUOTE]If you need to, find some other goal to occupy yourself for the next 2 months. Consider making sure your nails and hands are in tip-top shape so that they'll be pretty when you get a ring slid on that finger! Also, maybe try to see if you can get in shape? I'd want any pictures right after my engagement to look pretty! Those have been my two goals since they're both for my own best interest anyway - I'm seriously failing on the nails, but I'm working out more!
Posted by calindi[/QUOTE]

Hahahaha I have the same two goals! Unfortunately failing at both at the moment <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-undecided.gif" border="0" alt="Undecided" title="Undecided" /> but hopefully I'll get my a$$ in gear soon!

**Mutley** · September 2010

is all I read from the OP.

GeePeeBee · September 2010

Boo hoo.

leia1979 · September 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Pictures of GREAT Weddings DOES NOT HELP : THIS! I am SO tired of "But I'm a plaaaaanerrrrr!" barf You're overeager. Period.
Posted by desertsun[/QUOTE]

I love you Desert (and Oceana, too, but I'm sure I've already professed my love for her).

I am a total planner. BF and I joke that I will have a 1,000 line Gantt Chart in MS Project after we get engaged. What have I done so far? I've ensured I have adequate funds for whatever we decide on. So if you want to plan, get your personal finances in order.

SassyBrass · September 2010

Ditto Oceana. She's right.
OP, looking at these "perfect" pictures and ideals can be damaging on more than one level.
When I first got engaged, my aunt bought me a couple of bridal mags. As I flipped through them, I thought to myself that a lot of these things set a girl up for a lot of unrealistic standards. Ad after ad, and I never saw any articles about what counts- your relationship.
It's never a bad thing to think about ideas, but don't let all this stuff overwhelm you. You're thinking about WEDDING stuff. Does your boyfriend know how much wedding stuff you are looking at? Do you both talk about it? Moreso, do you talk about the stuff to actually follow?
It's not a bad thing to think about, it's exciting. But everyone is right when they say you should enjoy the anticipation, and the excitement of when you do become engaged.
Your relationship is really what's going to matter, today, tomorrow and past that wedding day you're overthinking. If two months seems long, think of how long the rest of your life together is going to be. If that doesn't bring a smile to your face, you're not thinking of the right thing.

deburnin · September 2010

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[QUOTE]If you need to, find some other goal to occupy yourself for the next 2 months. Consider making sure your nails and hands are in tip-top shape so that they'll be pretty when you get a ring slid on that finger! <strong>Also, maybe try to see if you can get in shape? I'd want any pictures right after my engagement to look pretty! </strong>Those have been my two goals since they're both for my own best interest anyway - I'm seriously failing on the nails, but I'm working out more!
Posted by calindi[/QUOTE]

<div><font face="Arial" size="3" class="Apple-style-span"><span style="font-size:12px;" class="Apple-style-span">Me too! BF's been really busy with studying, and having no car it's really difficult to get around places to hang out with friends more than once a week. I was starting to get some cabin fever just sitting around all day on my days off. I started "Slim in 6" about two weeks ago once BF took a card from a jeweler and said he'd be in touch. I can't wait till we're into the house and it's easier to cook healthier meals for the two of us. If there is anything "healthy" about a recipe his mom turns her nose up at it so we only make food for ourselves at most three times a week. She also gets crabby if we eat at my house, where the food is semi-healthier, too often. So because of that we've been eating so poorly recently and I hate it. A poor diet doesn't fit with the whole working out to be fit and healthy.</span></font></div><div><font face="Arial" size="3" class="Apple-style-span"><span style="font-size:12px;" class="Apple-style-span">
</span></font></div><div><font face="Arial" size="3" class="Apple-style-span"><span style="font-size:12px;" class="Apple-style-span">Oh and Oceana: You are awesome. </span></font><a href="#" title="Click to view a larger photo" onclick="return gSiteLife.LoadForumPage('ForumImage', 'plckPhotoId', '3c57f7e1-f1fe-40c3-926c-6a52f72804da', 'plckRedirectUrl', gSiteLife.EscapeValue(window.location.href));"><img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/images/store/12/2/3c57f7e1-f1fe-40c3-926c-6a52f72804da.medium.gif" alt="" /></a> <font face="Arial" size="3" class="Apple-style-span"><span style="font-size:12px;" class="Apple-style-span">OP you should definitely heed her advice.</span></font></div>

EMT+Paramedic=ourlove · September 2010

I think you're being a little crazy. Being on the other side of the ring this is my advice:

Slow the heck down. Enjoy these last few moments of dating because it's all over the day you say yes to that round, shiny piece of metal. Then it becomes stress, dresses, flowers, cakes, places, people. It's suddenly not you and your bf, it's you, your FI and EVERYONE else that wants to put their hand in the wedding cookie jar. My FI gave me a general time line too. I had it all planned in my head how he was going to do it and guess what?! He didn't do it the way or the day I thought he would. I am a planner and I HATE HATE HATE surprises. So when he didn't do it when I thought he would, I put it aside and went on with life. Obviously he wasn't ready. (ends up I was wrong and it happened a few days later.)

Honestly, let your bf do it on his own time. No time lines, no set days to be engaged or married. When he is ready to man up, let him do it. Don't pigeon hole him into something that could later on come back to bite you. If you corner a guy into doing something by a certain timeline....most of the time they procrastinate, not do it and then blow up at you. Don't pressure him. It makes it all the more better when you realize that he did it on his time, when he was ready, and when he was man enough to admit he loved you, needed you, wanted to be with you for all eternity. If you pressure, you could end up with nothing. Twelve years is a long time to throw away over your stupid obsession with being engaged on YOUR time schedule.

Food for thought.

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