This will be my 3rd wedding. We have successfully dodged any kind of wedding shower, although the offers were very sweet. Would it be tacky to put a note (nicely printed, diplomatically worded, of course) in the invitations to let everyone know that we would prefer no gifts? At this point in our lives, we are fortunate to have everything we need and spending time with our family & friends at the wedding will mean much more to us than gifts.