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NMac2010 · August 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_texas-dallas-ft-worth_fff-23?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:102Discussion:2d4cb71f-fe73-48ee-9fab-5213bc2c2aecPost:3376f163-4aed-4214-bdd4-74ae9ea1ea08">Re: FFF</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : If you are talking about me, I wonder if you would have felt that way if paramedics showed up to cart someone off at your wedding... in front of your new family.. and it put an end to the night that you had been planning for so long and your entire family had invested so much in. This wasn't a situation of a vendor showing up late or the flowers being a wrong color, or the cake not getting delivered.
Posted by SoonToBeMrsHoz[/QUOTE]

I realize that. But I felt that you were just going on and on about it, when really one post would have been ample. But you felt the need to bring it up several more times. It's over! Nobody was physically injured. Everyone is healthy. Your friend is a B. Get her out of her life, move on with your new life you are starting with your husband and remember the good times about the day. Dwelling on the negative will only make you unhappy every time you think about that day. It's all about perspective and how you look at things. You choose whether you remember the day as good, or "ruined". It's all up to you. You are letting your friend have WAY too much power over you, and how you feel about your wedding day.

That's all I'm saying.

brooke.anne · August 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_texas-dallas-ft-worth_fff-23?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:102Discussion:2d4cb71f-fe73-48ee-9fab-5213bc2c2aecPost:036e84db-f164-4a00-930d-a9bcaf95b331">Re: FFF</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : Girl, you have no idea. I don't even venture to the snarky board!
Posted by bsn1752[/QUOTE]

<div>They scare me! But I do go on there every once in awhile to see whats going on! I would NEVER attempt to join in though!</div>

NMac2010 · August 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_texas-dallas-ft-worth_fff-23?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:102Discussion:2d4cb71f-fe73-48ee-9fab-5213bc2c2aecPost:bd639304-6eb3-414c-96a2-dbf332e18a0a">Re: FFF</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : I don't really agree because I would be SUPER upset but kudos to you for putting your thoughts out there! I don't think you're a B, it's how you feel.
Posted by brooke.anne[/QUOTE]

Yep, I would have been upset too at the time. But a week and 1/2 later? I guess I'm just not one to dwell on things, no matter what it is. I accept whatever it is, deal with it, and move on. There's nothing anyone can do about it, so why dwell? Why be upset? Just sayin.

danac2010 · August 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_texas-dallas-ft-worth_fff-23?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:102Discussion:2d4cb71f-fe73-48ee-9fab-5213bc2c2aecPost:580710dc-c953-4b9b-a8e3-3d7fbfe1a031">Re: FFF</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : Ha, I feel like a B too. Ugh, here goes nothing... DanaC - I know that times have to be super stressful for you right now since you're coming up on your wedding... I don't know what that's like yet since I'm not there yet. But it seems like 95% of your posts are venting about something or someone that you don't have control over. Take a step back, breath, and relax. It will all work itself out.
Posted by bsn1752[/QUOTE]

You're right I am super stressed right now. I am 50 days away from my wedding and I have several DIY projects not done, an FI that keeps adding to the guest list, a step dad who is dying and may not make it to my wedding, a job I hate but can't leave, I'm pretty much raising FI's daughter on my own when she is with us because he is so overwhelmed at work, we don't have our dj comfirmed because FI can't get a night off to actually meet with them. It gets stressful and yes I come on here to vent but we all do that. Writing it down helps me de-stress. I will start trying to take more deep breaths before I post.

bsn1752 · August 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_texas-dallas-ft-worth_fff-23?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:102Discussion:2d4cb71f-fe73-48ee-9fab-5213bc2c2aecPost:c977ad0e-8f9c-48e3-b9c9-9cde0c6bbb62">Re: FFF</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : They scare me! But I do go on there every once in awhile to see whats going on! I would NEVER attempt to join in though!
Posted by brooke.anne[/QUOTE]

Haha... I don't join in them either... so scary. I feel bad even flaming someone! But... being flamed doesn't really bother me, weird huh?

SoonToBeMrsHoz · August 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.weddings.com/Sites/Weddings/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_texas-dallas-ft-worth_fff-23?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:102Discussion:2d4cb71f-fe73-48ee-9fab-5213bc2c2aecPost:b5c9b048-96fe-4b6c-81e3-0fabdb38008e">Re: FFF</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : Yep, I would have been upset too at the time. But a week and 1/2 later? I guess I'm just not one to dwell on things, no matter what it is. I accept whatever it is, deal with it, and move on. There's nothing anyone can do about it, so why dwell? Why be upset? Just sayin.
Posted by NMac2010[/QUOTE]

Well I guess it goes to show that I am not made of stone and have emotions.. yes, a whole week and a half later after the biggest day of my life thus far, I was still dealing with what happened especially because my emotions were stirred by an action of that ex-friend's that particular day. Not that I have to explain it to you, but it was a couple of days after returning from our honeymoon and getting back to real life and actually dealing with what happened.

And for the record, I didn't go "on and on"... and again if this would have happened to you, you perhaps would feel differently.

shortgirltx · August 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_texas-dallas-ft-worth_fff-23?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:102Discussion:2d4cb71f-fe73-48ee-9fab-5213bc2c2aecPost:56432e80-7506-4bee-9ba6-bd49975269e4">Re: FFF</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : WHAT?!?! Can you complain to someone about that??? Posted by bsn1752[/QUOTE]

I could go above her head but he's too scared of her and is the one doing it. He's only here for another year and we hope we get a replacement that puts her in her place and doesn't allow this crap.

brooke.anne · August 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_texas-dallas-ft-worth_fff-23?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:102Discussion:2d4cb71f-fe73-48ee-9fab-5213bc2c2aecPost:446c0676-e945-40e9-bcf0-23fca97f8824">Re: FFF</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : Haha... I don't join in them either... so scary. I feel bad even flaming someone! But... being flamed doesn't really bother me, weird huh?
Posted by bsn1752[/QUOTE]

<div>I am the same way! I would rather people flame me so I know if I'm being obnoxious, annoying or anything rather than flame someone and hurt their feelings or something! I am NOT confrontational at all!</div>

mseale · August 2010

I have to say, what your friend (kind of hard to call her that) did was SO disrespectful. I would be furious, hurt, upset because not only did someone I thought I was close to do this to me on my wedding day, but because the day that I had been looking forward to for so long, invested so much time and money into was cut short, and ended on a bad note.

Whether this was my wedding day, or any other event that I was hosting, I don't think I would be able to get over it anytime soon.

NMac2010 · August 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_texas-dallas-ft-worth_fff-23?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:102Discussion:2d4cb71f-fe73-48ee-9fab-5213bc2c2aecPost:f7177ad4-5ea0-4319-b816-0d2f8744ddf5">Re: FFF</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : Well I guess it goes to show that I am not made of stone and have emotions.. yes, a whole week and a half later after the biggest day of my life thus far, I was still dealing with what happened especially because my emotions were stirred by an action of that ex-friend's that particular day. Not that I have to explain it to you, but it was a couple of days after returning from our honeymoon and getting back to real life and actually dealing with what happened. And for the record, I didn't go "on and on"... and again if this would have happened to you, you perhaps would feel differently.
Posted by SoonToBeMrsHoz[/QUOTE]

Well, I guess I'm made of stone and have no emotions because I choose not to hold onto bad experiences and negative feelings. Meh.

Hey, it's your deal. You're entitled to hold onto those feelings for as long as your little heart desires.

But in the spirit of FFF, I was sharing my opinion, which I am also entitled to.

SoonToBeMrsHoz · August 2010

In Response to <a href="http://dallas.weddings.com/Sites/weddings/Pages/main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_texas-dallas-ft-worth_fff-23?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:102Discussion:2d4cb71f-fe73-48ee-9fab-5213bc2c2aecPost:66ddec9d-ac77-4e79-959b-607f30ac7477">Re: FFF</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : Well, I guess I'm made of stone and have no emotions because I choose not to hold onto bad experiences and negative feelings. Meh. Hey, it's your deal. You're entitled to hold onto those feelings for as long as your little heart desires. But in the spirit of FFF, I was sharing my opinion, which I am also entitled to.
Posted by NMac2010[/QUOTE]

You go ahead and do that.
If you go back and read the other responses, with your opinion, you are the outlier in this particular case, and that's totally fine.

shortgirltx · August 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_texas-dallas-ft-worth_fff-23?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:102Discussion:2d4cb71f-fe73-48ee-9fab-5213bc2c2aecPost:c0f32e1e-82b5-40ae-9fa2-2e8b5d354133">Re: FFF</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : I could go above her head but he's too scared of her and is the one doing it. He's only here for another year and we hope we get a replacement that puts her in her place and doesn't allow this crap.
Posted by shortgirltx[/QUOTE]

Oh yeah then she bought us pizza for lunch today because "I'm such a nice person". I really hate looking for a job. I wonder if it would screw up us looking for a house. On the other hand, my goal was to stay here until August at least and voila it's August.

NMac2010 · August 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_texas-dallas-ft-worth_fff-23?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:102Discussion:2d4cb71f-fe73-48ee-9fab-5213bc2c2aecPost:63f43cf1-6cb5-4c90-a6ef-4caf3ec7b8dd">Re: FFF</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : You go ahead and do that. If you go back and read the other responses, with your opinion, you are the outlier in this particular case, and that's totally fine.
Posted by SoonToBeMrsHoz[/QUOTE]

Oh no, I have an opinion independent of everyone else's! *Gasp*

Pretty sure that's what makes the world go round, different strokes for different folks. And that's the entire point of FFF- to say things that you're too nice to say the other 4 days of the week. I would bet a lot of girls on here bite their tongues about a lot of things that they don't want to say in order to avoid hurting someone's feelings. Well, not on FFF!

Furthermore, if you look at my initial post in this thread, I didn't specify because I've seen you get defensive before in previous FFF threads and I really didn't want to deal with that. But, everyone wanted to hear it. So, I spilled.

SoonToBeMrsHoz · August 2010

In Response to <a href="http://dallas.weddings.com/Sites/weddings/Pages/main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_texas-dallas-ft-worth_fff-23?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:102Discussion:2d4cb71f-fe73-48ee-9fab-5213bc2c2aecPost:936c86c3-4516-4876-9745-32849ac14aa7">Re: FFF</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : Oh no, I have an opinion independent of everyone else's! *Gasp* Pretty sure that's what makes the world go round, different strokes for different folks. And that's the entire point of FFF- to say things that you're too nice to say the other 4 days of the week. I would bet a lot of girls on here bite their tongues about a lot of things that they don't want to say in order to avoid hurting someone's feelings. Well, not on FFF! Furthermore, if you look at my initial post in this thread, I didn't specify because I've seen you get defensive before in previous FFF threads and I really didn't want to deal with that. But, everyone wanted to hear it. So, I spilled.
Posted by NMac2010[/QUOTE]

Look who is getting defensive.....

The only time I was involved in a FFF post, I was trying to invoke peacefulness around here... what a horrible thing for me to do.

Funny.. because people are still calling me every day to see how I am doing and how that ex-friend is doing after that night and how everything turned out, but according to you I should have just forgotten about it already right?

There are brides on this board that go on and on for weeks and months about makeup artists and caterers and this and that, and it's totally ok, I am not flaming a single one of them, more power to them for venting, but for me to post a couple of times about my wedding getting ruined and me being completely shamed in front of my conservative family is a crime right?

Anyway, I have to get back to work. I am done with this post.

bsn1752 · August 2010

You both can agree on one thing here: that we are all entitled to our opinions.

The spirit of FFF is to be able to flame others without getting upset or mad.

Kathy is still reeling from her wedding night drama - and whether or not we all agree with her or not, it was her wedding night, her problem, and her peroggative to be upset about. Her planning and investment was a big deal to her, and to have it end like that is heartbreaking.

Natalie was posting a flame, in the spirit of FFF. She is also not at fault for having a more carefree attitude about the wedding, because to her, that wasn't the important part. Again, her peroggative.

If we all came on this board and always agreed with eachother, we'd have a pretty boring bored. Discussions like this are what make it fun and interesting, so long as we can all maintain our composure and tact.

With that said, let's move on.

beecjena08 · August 2010

To SoonToBeMrsHoz , I totally understand why you were so upset and I think you should be entitled to write about it as much as like if that's what is takes for you to get over it. Whoever wants to read it can and whoever has a problem with it does not have to read it. So honey if you want to vent wirte it out untill you feel better even if you get flamed for it lol.
To NMac2010, you are also entitled to your opinion. We are all different and we handle our issues in different ways so lets respect each other. God loves us all.
PS I love those pictures you have up. Very nice.

My FFF: I flame not being able to sleep woke up at 3am and I have been up since then. My body feels so tired.

ezzyv · August 2010

I flame myself for not logging on in time to comment on this thread. (Although any comment I would make would mirror other people's. And the one different thing I would say would probably be taken the wrong way.)

stephl3055 · August 2010

I have to agree with NMac. When I saw everyone was afraid to say what they wanted to, the first thing I thought about were your posts about your "ruined wedding."

I agree with you that what your friend did was horrible, wrong, crazy, etc. But from your vendor reviews, it sounded like everything else up to that point went really well. Everyone was having fun and enjoying themselves. It is a shame that something happened at the end, but it seems like you are completely forgetting all the great times and fun that ocurred prior to your friend's drama.

Like in every post you've mentioned your wedding in, the first thing you say is that it was ruined. You got married didn't you? Your guests had a good time for the first few hours of your reception, right? I would say that equals a successful wedding. So 10 years down the line when you have your anniversary, are you still going to tell everyone the day was ruined and it was a horrible experience? I hope you can at least remember the good memories first, and not the single bad one.

I also don't get the part about you being shamed in front of your conservative family. I think you mentioned it before in one of your other posts. It sounds like you're trying to make the situation even more dramatic by stating that. Like if your family wasn't conservative, would her actions not have been as big of a deal? It just seems pointless to mention that part. You didn't do anything wrong, she did. That shouldn't reflect poorly on you because you had no involvement.

Anyways, I just hope you can remember the good times you had at your wedding years from now, and not dwell on the one person that caused you problems.

NMac2010 · August 2010

You're such a good mod, Brianna

brooke.anne · August 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_texas-dallas-ft-worth_fff-23?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:102Discussion:2d4cb71f-fe73-48ee-9fab-5213bc2c2aecPost:3daa8677-eee7-44ee-845a-24b51bbcbbef">Re: FFF</a>:
[QUOTE]You both can agree on one thing here: that we are all entitled to our opinions. The spirit of FFF is to be able to flame others without getting upset or mad. Kathy is still reeling from her wedding night drama - and whether or not we all agree with her or not, it was her wedding night, her problem, and her peroggative to be upset about. Her planning and investment was a big deal to her, and to have it end like that is heartbreaking. Natalie was posting a flame, in the spirit of FFF. She is also not at fault for having a more carefree attitude about the wedding, because to her, that wasn't the important part. Again, her peroggative. If we all came on this board and always agreed with eachother, we'd have a pretty boring bored. Discussions like this are what make it fun and interesting, so long as we can all maintain our composure and tact. With that said, let's move on.
Posted by bsn1752[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>Couldn't have said it better! I completely agree!

</div>

serlace · August 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_texas-dallas-ft-worth_fff-23?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:102Discussion:2d4cb71f-fe73-48ee-9fab-5213bc2c2aecPost:c5b40ea2-7baf-444a-8c0c-d94f3dd5510f">Re: FFF</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF : Oh yeah then she bought us pizza for lunch today because "I'm such a nice person". I really hate looking for a job. I wonder if it would screw up us looking for a house. On the other hand, my goal was to stay here until August at least and voila it's August.
Posted by shortgirltx[/QUOTE]

Almost September! Goal met!!

NMac2010 · August 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_texas-dallas-ft-worth_fff-23?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:102Discussion:2d4cb71f-fe73-48ee-9fab-5213bc2c2aecPost:d55307da-6a8f-4815-93e8-c1d090d0cc63">Re: FFF</a>:
[QUOTE] Like in every post you've mentioned your wedding in, the first thing you say is that it was ruined.

Posted by steph 13055[/QUOTE]

Ditto, that's what I was trying to get across.

angieandjames · August 2010

Man, I go to lunch, and the FFF post has literally gone up in flames!

I flame this day for draggin on, and being unproductive (I know I already had a flame, but I'm having another) because I'm just ready to be done for the day already!!!

fallbride1109 · August 2010

I often wonder if some people on TK have ever seen or heard of Google.

ezzyv · August 2010

I haven't been able to bring myself to do it but I have always wanted to reply to something that can be easily googled with this: http://lmgtfy.com/. It is hilarious.

cfibelkorn · August 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_texas-dallas-ft-worth_fff-23?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:102Discussion:2d4cb71f-fe73-48ee-9fab-5213bc2c2aecPost:9a6e549d-566f-4911-8cb7-fa077a34c5a1">Re: FFF</a>:
[QUOTE]I haven't been able to bring myself to do it but I have always wanted to reply to something that can be easily googled with this: <a href="http://lmgtfy.com/" rel="nofollow">http://lmgtfy.com/</a> . It is hilarious.
Posted by ezzyv[/QUOTE]

That is awesome and I am TOTALLY going to do that next time haha

serlace · August 2010

Anna - Your bio is off to a GREAT start. I love the stories - and your engagement story - sweet. Now get busy and finish it, I'm dying to see. (And I'm with Courts on the Halloween wedding - awesome!)

Stephiehall - I am in shock. I think this is the first FFF I have ever seen you post anything. Maybe I'm just not very observant. (Did I spell that right? BTW - I had no idea y'all was spelled y'all instead of ya'll - and I was 3rd grade spelling bee champion!!) HAHAHA.

sparklingdiamond · August 2010

Seems like I missed a lot today! :-p

I flame people who ignore the statements I send them. Yes, you owe the money and no you can't just ignore it and not pay it! I always pay my bills and I really don't know why people think they can come to a doctor's office and not pay what they owe!

cfibelkorn · August 2010

I'm flaming FFF - I don't really get the point....

Why does everyone need to bottle it up until Friday and state every little thing that annoys them about this board and/or the people on it....

Why can't we just say what we actually think during the week....

(Not necessarily my opinions but I am using them as an example)

You see SoonTo Be's post and it annoy's you, tell her then. You think someone needs to learn how to use Google, tell them to go Google it, etc.

Like Brianna said, we all have opinions (and not just on Friday's) and as long as you keep it respectful, clean and tactful....flame on any day of the week

Just food for thought

**Of course maybe I think that because I'm a pretty snarky/blunt person to begin with** hahaha

shortgirltx · August 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_texas-dallas-ft-worth_fff-23?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:102Discussion:2d4cb71f-fe73-48ee-9fab-5213bc2c2aecPost:7508860c-e924-4d84-9553-385f6910f7fe">Re: FFF</a>:
[QUOTE] BTW - I had no idea y'all was spelled y'all instead of ya'll - and I was 3rd grade spelling bee champion!!) HAHAHA. Posted by serlace[/QUOTE]

Only in the last year did I figure this out to and I use it all the time. Ya'll is how I have always seen it. With the way my family talks I always thought "awhile ago" was awallago until I tried spelling it for the first time and thought there is no way that's right. The list is endless for those types of words for me.

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