Lol I know this is an odd place to ask, but I'm starting to feel like some abnormality.
I was never a little girl dreaming of a wedding. I'm a practical person, my DF and I have lived together nearly 8 years now, we have three kids, we rent a small house.
When baby #3 arrived his catholic family could take it no more and pushed us to get engaged. I said yes thinking small, simple...but its snowballing.
I just can't find much to get excited about. Each thing I pay for I cringe and cry because what we're spending on one day could put a downpayment on a house.
Money aside its just not me....I could care less about flowers, cakes, centerpieces or decor...I just wanted to go to city hall and than take close family/friends out to a nice dinner...but it was important to DF to have a real (his words) wedding and I love him enough to agree.
Anyone else feel like this? Any tips to get me in the mood?
Re: Anyone else just not that into it???
[QUOTE] ... it was important to DF to have a real (his words) wedding and I love him enough to agree.
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Shouldn't he be doing the lion's share of the planning then? I'm in the opposite situation - I wanted a wedding and FI wanted to elope - so I'm doing the bulk of the work. Just because you're the girl doesn't make this your job.
It's one thing to go along for the ride with something that you don't really care about. But it sounds to me like you do care about this because you are complaining about it. And if you continue to go along for the ride when it's not what you want to do, you have no one to blame but yourself.
Put what his family wants aside and talk to your FI. Find a compromise between the wedding he wants and the wedding that you want.
ETA: Don't feel "abnormal" for not wanting a big white wedding. There's tons of people out there that want to elope, have small weddings, or do something different. Don't feel like there's something wrong because you aren't feeling a big wedding.
We've been together for about 14 years and bought a ring about two years ago just to have a ring but then everybody decided we should finally get married. I'm not against it but its just never been a top priority.
So were going to Vegas, luv it there so I'm excited about that part. Only about 30 people are invited. If we did it at home my in-laws are the type that would invite their dry-cleaner, no thanks. I havent done anything yet except reserve the space for the wedding and restaurant. Wedding is in October, should really get a move on I'm honestly more excied about planning our honeymoon, i love to travel. I'm sure were not the only two that didnt grow up planning their weddings. Chin up. I'm sure on the day we'll both be smiling.
I am all about being married and not at all about the wedding itself.
Fi has been dreaming of a "real" wedding for years.
my family is on the other side of the world and most (including my Dad and brothers will not be able to be there)
in addition since I earn about 30% more then Fi - i'm paying for almost everything
I HATE everything about this wedding right now