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I need some ideas for favors. My fiance and I wanted to donate money in honor of our family members that have passed on. His mother said thats tacky & people expect something they can physically take home. We suggested doing a photo booth then and again its tasky because not everyone would use it, that can't be viewed as a favor.
If I give a favor, I want it to be something everyone would be interested in. Has anyone had a great response to the favor's they've used or are using?
help! I need some ideas that aren't tacky. ha
If I give a favor, I want it to be something everyone would be interested in. Has anyone had a great response to the favor's they've used or are using?
help! I need some ideas that aren't tacky. ha
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Re: favor Ideas
My brother and SIL donated a water buffalo, for food, to a town in africa instead of favors...it was a bit strange but very them!
We're giving out a personalized deck of cards. we figured our OOTs would have entertainment for their flight home...and unlike a candle or something to eat, it will last practically forever.
We did a candy bar.
I'd go with edible: candy. cookies. brownies. trail mix. caramel apples. gourmet coffee/tea. homemade jam. popcorn. cocoa mix. etc.
We want to have personalized pens for people to sign the tags with, so that would be our first favor.
And then we also plan on either having homemade cookies or chocolates as a second favor
[QUOTE]Wow! It's amazing how much you people complain about the bride and groom giving their "favor" money to a charity instead of spending it on something trivial! Way to be shallow!
Posted by Anzpony[/QUOTE]
Anz: would you feel it was shallow if I suggested that the "donation" might mean more if it came from something for the bride and groom? A note in the program reading "The bride and her WP are not carrying flowers today as they donated the money from their flower budget to **charity of choice**.
My question is: why is it acceptable to give the money allocated for guests to charity? Why not make it a true sacrifice, and give the money allocated to limos, or flowers, or the bride's shoes, or centerpieces, or the wedding cake?
Here is my standard, full answer on donation "favors":
<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="color:black;">Make your donation. I believe in donations. I make them myself. I think they're a good thing to do.
But don't pretend that they're a favor to your guests. Because they're not. They're a favor to the organization, and to you. You're taking the money you'd spend on a little something for your guests and giving it to someone else. How do you figure that's a favor for your guests?
Honestly, I don't need a favor. I don't really want a favor. You're already giving me food, drinks, entertainment. I don't need a matchbook or m&ms (although I LOVE m&ms) as a thank you.
But please don't in any, way, shape or form think that giving $$ to a charity is somehow doing something for me.
I'd liken it to a guest coming to your wedding and giving you a card that says "In honor of your marriage, I have given a donation to the "eastern micronesia tsunami prevention fund". It may be important to your guest, but it probably doesn't mean anything to you. So it's not really a gift for you, is it?</span></p>
With that being said, I am doing a candy buffet because it fits us, especially FI who has a huge sweet tooth.
My fiance and i are also doing a donation, but we're coupling this with custom wrapped chocolate bars that will be designed according to our colour scheme, will include our picture and a special thank you note. We are planning to hand out the chocolate bars along with the card from our charity. I'm thinking these chocolate bars will also serve as our thank you cards.
In the end, you have to do what you think is right. If you're interested in checking out the chocolate bars i'm talking about, visit www.perfectwrappers.com...they have much more than just chocolate favors...they have alot of really neat ideas that are suitable for virtually any function!
Good Luck!
[QUOTE]<a href="http://www.perfectwrappers.com" rel="nofollow">www.perfectwrappers.com</a> My fiance and i are also doing a donation, but we're coupling this with custom wrapped chocolate bars that will be designed according to our colour scheme, will include our picture and a special thank you note. We are planning to hand out the chocolate bars along with the card from our charity. <strong>I'm thinking these chocolate bars will also serve as our thank you cards</strong>. In the end, you have to do what you think is right. If you're interested in checking out the chocolate bars i'm talking about, visit <a href="http://www.perfectwrappers.com...they" rel="nofollow">www.perfectwrappers.com...they</a> have much more than just chocolate favors...they have alot of really neat ideas that are suitable for virtually any function! Good Luck!
Posted by lpatch18[/QUOTE]
You are still planning to write proper handwritten TYs to your guests (for gifts, coming) after your wedding aren't you?
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: favor Ideas - Custom Wrapped Chocolate Bars : You are still planning to write proper handwritten TYs to your guests (for gifts, coming) after your wedding aren't you?
Posted by trix1223[/QUOTE]
I was thinking i could skip that part since on the back of the chocolate bar i would thank the guests for attending and that their generous gift is much appreciated....do you think it would be bad if i did not send out thank you cards? Will anyone even remember?
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: favor Ideas - Custom Wrapped Chocolate Bars : I was thinking i could skip that part since on the back of the chocolate bar i would thank the guests for attending and that their generous gift is much appreciated....do you think it would be bad if i did not send out thank you cards? Will anyone even remember?
Posted by lpatch18[/QUOTE]
Sorry, but I would very much notice and to be honest, be very insulted by getting a generic thank you on the back of a candy bar. And everyone, and I mean everyone in my family would also notice. And be insulted.
A handwritten TY, after the wedding, specifically mentioning the gift I brought and how you're going to use it is proper etiquette. "Dear Aunt Trix, It was so special to have you and Uncle Otto share our wedding day with us. And we so appreciate your generous check. We have plans to buy a real dining room set this year, and with the help of your gift, we are on our way to achieving that goal. We look forward to having you join us for a dinner around that new dining room furniture soon."
You're asking people to take their time, spend whatever it costs to get to your wedding, and they will bring you a gift, and you're going going to type "Thanks for your generous gift and for coming to our wedding" on the back of a candy bar?
Please. Rethink this. Or what people will remember from your wedding is that you never sent out proper TYs.
My niece and nephew never sent me a TY for a shower gift from an April, 09 shower. The DIL of my closest friend finally sent a generic TY in May, 09 for their October, 08 wedding. And I never got a TY for the shower gift for that wedding. The shower was 2 years ago this month. Oh yes, people will notice and people will remember.
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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: favor Ideas - Custom Wrapped Chocolate Bars : I was thinking i could skip that part since on the back of the chocolate bar i would thank the guests for attending and that their generous gift is much appreciated....do you think it would be bad if i did not send out thank you cards? Will anyone even remember?
Posted by lpatch18[/QUOTE]
Yes, it would be bad. People always remember when you fail to send out thank you notes. It's one of those etiquette things that will reflect really poorly on you if you don't do them. <div>
</div><div>Think about it: the guests paid money to come to your wedding--gas in the car, maybe a plane ticket, took time out of their lives and bought you a gift. The very least you can do is send them a handwritten thank-you note that is personalized to them and what they gave you, after all the trouble they took for you. To not do it is a huge slap in the face to your guests and, like I said, they will remember.</div>
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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: favor Ideas - Custom Wrapped Chocolate Bars : I was thinking i could skip that part since on the back of the chocolate bar i would thank the guests for attending and that their generous gift is much appreciated....do you think it would be bad if i did not send out thank you cards? Will anyone even remember?
Posted by lpatch18[/QUOTE]
They'd remember and really think it rude. PLUS, you really don't want to thank them for their "generous gifts" on the back of a candy bar you're handing out at the wedding... some people will give small gifts, and some won't give gifts at all. And they'll see your note as an entitled slap in the face when you're just trying to be nice.
[QUOTE]Also comes across like you expect a gift. I realize everyone will give you a gift.. but if you act at all like you expected one- it comes off bad. Thanking them before receiving the gift comes off that way.
Posted by PharmacyBride[/QUOTE]
Never assume... not everyone gives gifts.
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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: favor Ideas - Custom Wrapped Chocolate Bars : I was thinking i could skip that part since on the back of the chocolate bar i would thank the guests for attending and that their generous gift is much appreciated....do you think it would be bad if i did not send out thank you cards? Will anyone even remember?
Posted by lpatch18[/QUOTE]
I was offended when I got a thank you card from someone 5 months after their wedding.
Also, don't assume that everyone is going to give you a gift. You'd be surprised.
We always bring a gift to a wedding, but If I got a card on a candybar that showed me that the couple assumed I was forking something over to them, I'd think they were greedy little bastards.
Besides, we just got a wedding gift this week (7 months after the wedding)...and I'm sending out a personalized thank you to them.
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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: favor Ideas - Custom Wrapped Chocolate Bars : I was offended when I got a thank you card from someone 5 months after their wedding. <strong>Also, don't assume that everyone is going to give you a gift. You'd be surprised</strong>. We always bring a gift to a wedding, but If I got a card on a candybar that showed me that the couple assumed I was forking something over to them, I'd think they were greedy little bastards. Besides, we just got a wedding gift this week (7 months after the wedding)...and I'm sending out a personalized thank you to them.
Posted by melko4886[/QUOTE]
I appreciate your comments and can understand your point, however with mine/my fiance's european background, it is customary for all of our guests to give us a gift, and 99% of the time it's a monetary gift. From what i've seen and heard from my friends and family, thank you cards aren't that big of a deal. Personally, i do not spend any effort (after attending a wedding) thinking about whether i'm going to get a thank you card from so and so. If i do, great. If i don't, i really don't care (and i probably won't even remember). That said, i now realize that maybe not everyone has that same outlook, so i will send out thank you notes...and hopefully it won't take me 1 year like some couples i know :) (at which point i wonder why those couples have even bothered). I am still going to hand out the custom wrapped chocolate bars with the donation cards, just because it's something different which i know people will love.
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: favor Ideas - Custom Wrapped Chocolate Bars : I appreciate your comments and can understand your point, however with mine/my fiance's european background, it is customary for all of our guests to give us a gift, and 99% of the time it's a monetary gift. From what i've seen and heard from my friends and family, thank you cards aren't that big of a deal. Personally, i do not spend any effort (after attending a wedding) thinking about whether i'm going to get a thank you card from so and so. If i do, great. If i don't, i really don't care (and i probably won't even remember). That said, i now realize that maybe not everyone has that same outlook, so i will send out thank you notes...and hopefully it won't take me 1 year like some couples i know :) (at which point i wonder why those couples have even bothered). I am still going to hand out the custom wrapped chocolate bars with the donation cards, just because it's something different which i know people will love.
Posted by lpatch18[/QUOTE]
I guess I'm not considered "people" because I couldn't tell you who has or hasn't sent a thank you card and whether or not it was generic or hand written, I'm not that superficial to judge family and friends over something so menial. However to several of the women here, thank you cards are a life or death situation, I guess.
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: favor Ideas - Custom Wrapped Chocolate Bars : I guess I'm not considered "people" because I couldn't tell you who has or hasn't sent a thank you card and whether or not it was generic or hand written, I'm not that superficial to judge family and friends over something so menial. However to several of the women here, thank you cards are a life or death situation, I guess.
Posted by Belle2Be[/QUOTE]
I m not surprised by your post, but I do want to point out that I don't consider acknowledging a gift to be superficial at all. Nor does any etiquette source anywhere consider TY's to be unimportant.
If being offended by not receiving a TY makes me superficial, then yes, I'm proudly superficial.
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: favor Ideas - Custom Wrapped Chocolate Bars : I m not surprised by your post, but I do want to point out that I don't consider acknowledging a gift to be superficial at all. Nor does any etiquette source anywhere consider TY's to be unimportant. If being offended by not receiving a TY makes me superficial, then yes, I'm proudly superficial.
Posted by trix1223[/QUOTE]
Considering this isn't the etiquette board and its the Favors board, I wasn't talking about a proper "etiquette" source but rather my own opinions and experiences. How is it not superficial demanding a pat on the back for your gift?
"People" here like to speak for the rest of the world it seems, so I thought it prudent to add my own views that no, NOT everyone will judge and remember every single person who ever didn't follow 100% etiquette protocol. I also fully believe that it depends on the circles you run in, fortunately my friends and family wouldn't judge if I sent invites with a printed label address or a generic thank you card, or even none at all. But you know what they say about the company you keep.