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Wedding Etiquette Forum
sabatron
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Hand-outs...?
Is it weird to hand out some invitations personally to people you see frequently? (Close friends, siblings, coworkers, etc) My mom seemed to think it was kind of tacky, but I said why not? Seems stupid to mail an invitation to our best friends who are in the wedding, rather than just handing them an invitation the next time we hang out.
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Re: Hand-outs...?
Regardless, I've been handed an invitation before, and I suspect it's pretty common.
My mother clutched her pearls really tighlty and deemed it "impoper" when Fi mentioned doing this in front of her, so I can kind of see where yur mom is coming from.
I mean, it's less awkward to just mail it so they can go over it at their own leisure. This way, they won't feel obligated to give you an answer right away or feel they dont' have to RSVP properly...
Plus, I'm not sure how you hang out with them, but I know my friends are the type to, like, leave the invitation where we are by accident. If you mail it to the house, there is a less chance of them losing it in some random location. Less chance of them getting dirty or being destroyed before they even get opened, too.
[QUOTE]Personally, I think all formal correspondence should go through the mail, and that it's a bit tacky to do it. Regardless, I've been handed an invitation before, and I suspect it's pretty common.
Posted by aragx6[/QUOTE]
I don't think it's tacky. I've been to a couple of platinum weddings that I have been handed the invite to. In fact, if my sister mailed me an invite I would probably yell at her for wasting $.44. I think you're being over critical. Immediate family and bridal party members, I do not see a problem with.
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Hand-outs...? : I don't think it's tacky. I've been to a couple of platinum weddings that I have been handed the invite to. In fact, if my sister mailed me an invite I would probably yell at her for wasting $.44. I think you're being over critical. Immediate family and bridal party members, I do not see a problem with.
Posted by jnic0319[/QUOTE]
She also mentions co-workers and close friends.
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Hand-outs...? : She also mentions co-workers and close friends.
Posted by aragx6[/QUOTE]
Right and I think this is only appropriate for your bridal party and immediate family. Co-workers and other friends you see on a daily basis not so much.
Also, how much are you really planning on saving? $5 tops?
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On the whole, I feel that wedding invitations (all of them) should be mailed - but I'm not going to be scandalized if I'm handed one from time to time. It's pretty minor in the grand scheme of life.
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