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Ohhhh boy are you ladies gonna get a kick out of this.
I was lurking over on weddingbee.com and what do I stumble upon:
Not only is KendALL there but also that mollie girl from the other day who DD her post hehe
Mollie is down at number 26 and Kendall is all over. Some of the girls are even agreeing about how mean we were to her...oh how i'd love to most about why we were acting the way we were towards her.
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Re: Ohhhh boy are you ladies gonna get a kick out of this.
Those boards don't care if they're lying, if it hurts anyone, if it's unethical or ILLEGAL, all they care about is that it's MY DAY! *foot stomp* I am always surprised at first by the sheer number of people who support this awful idea, and then I remember the self-entitled brats that I went to school with, who felt like Daddy HAD to buy them a BMW or Mercedes when they got their license, or that prom was supposed to be this magical night and right of passage so they made their parents plunk down hundreds of dollars on a dress, new shoes, limo, getting their hair and makeup professionally done, etc., and then dragged their poor date around like he was a trophy. Because, you know, they DESERVED it.
I never understood that... who "deserves" all that junk? Who "deserves" to have someone else pay lots of money on them? For a fancy prom, a pretty princess day? I don't "deserve" my wedding day - I deserve my groom, and I'm so glad I found him, but my wedding day will be a joy and an incredible gift from my parents. The wedding is icing on the cake of life - unnecessary but a nice addition. And these girls literally want to have their cake and eat it, too. Except they want to eat their cake twice - once with a JOP and once in a pretty white dress.
[QUOTE]Seriously, this is why military couples get bad reputations. Also, probably why half of military marriages end in divorce. Why start your marriage out with a lie? My blood is boiling already at the stupidity!
Posted by greeneke2[/QUOTE]
I have heard much higher statistics for enlisted marriages, especially junior enlisted. People don't think though. They see more money + "he's a hero!" + pretty pretty princess day + getting to play grown-up (the but I'M mature).
All of that is disaster. The military is hard on relationships, even solid, mature ones. Rushing is not something the military forces on anyone. I'm glad that they're starting to force pre-marital counseling and the like. It's not my utopia, but it's something.
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Ohhhh boy are you ladies gonna get a kick out of this. : I have heard much higher statistics for enlisted marriages, especially junior enlisted. People don't think though. They see more money + "he's a hero!" + pretty pretty princess day + getting to play grown-up (the but I'M mature). All of that is disaster. The military is hard on relationships, even solid, mature ones. Rushing is not something the military forces on anyone. I'm glad that they're starting to force pre-marital counseling and the like. It's not my utopia, but it's something.
Posted by WishIcouldbeinthe'stan[/QUOTE]
Yeah, I loved when Katelyn jumped down my throat for telling Kendall she'd probably be divorced by 25. I didn't say I HOPE she'd be divorced - I wouldn't wish that on anyone. I said she'd PROBABLY be divorced, as in "more likely than not". Um... TRUE! Take a group of 18-21 year olds who are getting married this year and then poll them in a few years and I am confident that more than half will be miserable if not already separated/divorced. At the end of 10 years, you'll find a handful still together, but they're the exception and not the rule. And they're most certainly not self-entitled children who haven't grown up yet by the time they get married.
Any idea if I'll have to go through that marital counseling stuff since we'll be getting married about a month before he goes AD after the bar exam?
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Ohhhh boy are you ladies gonna get a kick out of this. : Yeah, I loved when Katelyn jumped down my throat for telling Kendall she'd probably be divorced by 25. I didn't say I HOPE she'd be divorced - I wouldn't wish that on anyone. I said she'd PROBABLY be divorced, as in "more likely than not". Um... TRUE! T<strong>ake a group of 18-21 year olds who are getting married this year and then poll them in a few years and I am confident that more than half will be miserable if not already separated/divorced.</strong> At the end of 10 years, you'll find a handful still together, but they're the exception and not the rule. And they're most certainly not self-entitled children who haven't grown up yet by the time they get married. Any idea if I'll have to go through that marital counseling stuff since we'll be getting married about a month before he goes AD after the bar exam?
Posted by calindi[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>Damn, I'm 21!! I hope that doesn't happen to me!</div><div>
</div><div>Buuuut, I will be 22 at the time of my wedding AND I'll have been with my fiance for over 4 years...hopefully that counts for something lol</div><div>
</div><div>Kendall is 19? been with her fiance for 7 months and also TTC....yea bad plan
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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Ohhhh boy are you ladies gonna get a kick out of this. : Damn, I'm 21!! I hope that doesn't happen to me! Buuuut, I will be 22 at the time of my wedding AND I'll have been with my fiance for over 4 years...hopefully that counts for something lol Kendall is 19? been with her fiance for 7 months and also TTC....yea bad plan
Posted by greeneke2[/QUOTE]
Like I said, exception not the rule. There WILL be successful marriages, but it just so happens your age group typically hasn't matured to the point of being ready for marriage yet. And obviously more so on the 18-year-old side of that spectrum than the 21-year-old side.
I used to worry about divorce statistics until I started on TheKnot. And then I saw tons of crazies and people who clearly have major problems before they get married and who just aren't ready for marriage and I felt a lot better. People like KendALL and Katelyn are going to end up divorced because they don't know who they are and what they're getting themselves into. I can totally see why some people end up divorced, and it's not anyone who is going into the situation the way we (meaning me and my FI, but also "we" as in the sane girls around here) are - with a good knowledge of who you are as an individual, who your FI is, who you are as a couple, your dreams and goals, and a strong plan for the future.
What a bitch.
She seems to be a crabby little baby.. someone needs to take the computer away from her and put her in time-out until she grows up.
And what was up with Snarky Brides about this whole junk? I posted on the epic thread (which magically disappeared) and got ripped for 'beating a dead horse'. Uh, this has to do with me! I was involved from the beginning. You all didn't 'beat a dead horse' already with your 1100 posts??? And then they go on to rip each other about who was too mean, and whether they're being too mean about being too mean. Blah blah blah blah blah. My head hurt!
" have gotten 99% appropriate responces here. I get alot of opinions that go againct what I think/thought, but never usually "B***chy". More constructive, funny, and even blunt. But never picking on ppl."
For them talking about us all being stay at home house wives, why are they so uneducated?!!?! This is so painful to me... Bitchy should have just two stars.. I'm interested to see how she would actually spell it out.. and the c=s ... that just hurts.
And then a bunch of SB girls came and read the threads with KendALL and Katelyn and commented on it (either that the girls were being babies or that we were being too harsh) back on their own page. And they got them both totally confused, and were talking about the WeddingBee stuff accusing us of being stalkers for finding it and getting knee deep in their own opinions about what really happened with the mysterious Facebook message to KendAll's FI.
And somewhere along there Sami went and apologized on behalf of Katelyn, and they ripped Sami a new one for "trying to use someone else's idiocy as an excuse to join the board." Blah blah blah
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Ohhhh boy are you ladies gonna get a kick out of this. : Yeah, I loved when Katelyn jumped down my throat for telling Kendall she'd probably be divorced by 25. I didn't say I HOPE she'd be divorced - I wouldn't wish that on anyone. I said she'd PROBABLY be divorced, as in "more likely than not". Um... TRUE! Take a group of 18-21 year olds who are getting married this year and then poll them in a few years and I am confident that more than half will be miserable if not already separated/divorced. At the end of 10 years, you'll find a handful still together, but they're the exception and not the rule. And they're most certainly not self-entitled children who haven't grown up yet by the time they get married. Any idea if I'll have to go through that marital counseling stuff since we'll be getting married about a month before he goes AD after the bar exam?
Posted by calindi[/QUOTE]
You won't have to bc of his rank, unless you're getting married on base, which based on what I "know" about you, I wouldn't guess...
We had to inform his command. That was it.
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Ohhhh boy are you ladies gonna get a kick out of this. : You won't have to bc of his rank, unless you're getting married on base, which based on what I "know" about you, I wouldn't guess... We had to inform his command. That was it.
Posted by LuluP82[/QUOTE]
Phew! I would do it if I needed to but it would be a big pain. I'll definitely take the LINKS class and whatever else will be helpful in understanding the military life. But to get lectured not to get married for money, etc.? An unnecessary hassle.
We're not getting married on base - if you look at my planning bio (link in siggy), you can see a picture of our venue. It's very close to a Navy base, but totally civilian!