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Wedding Etiquette Forum
Rehearsal Dinner Guest List
What's proper ettiquette for invitees to the rehearsal dinner? BP, OOT guests, parents/grandparents, other ceremony participants...who else? What if someone in the BP has a significant other? Are they invited and where would you cut it off? Would you just invite the SO if they're engaged/married, or would bf/gf count, too? Are you supposed to invited your aunts and uncles even if they're not in participating in the wedding and/or traveling in from OOT?
I don't want my guest list for the rehearsal to get out of hand, but I'm worried that my FMIL is going to want to invite all of FI's aunts, uncles, cousins, etc. because they were invited to FSIL'd rehearsal. I just feel if we did this we'd have to do the same for my side and my side is MUCH larger and it would be easily over 100 people, which in my opinion is way too much for a rehearsal dinner.
I don't want my guest list for the rehearsal to get out of hand, but I'm worried that my FMIL is going to want to invite all of FI's aunts, uncles, cousins, etc. because they were invited to FSIL'd rehearsal. I just feel if we did this we'd have to do the same for my side and my side is MUCH larger and it would be easily over 100 people, which in my opinion is way too much for a rehearsal dinner.
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Re: Rehearsal Dinner Guest List
1) immediate family
2) anyone who is at the actual rehearsal
3) the dates of the above people
People whom you can invite but don't have to
1) grandparents
2) close aunts/uncles
3) OOT guests
40/112
-Immediately family
-WP w/SO or date
-Grandparents
and since FILs are hosting, they wanted to add their OOT guests. FMIL offered that I could invite my OOT guests/extended family. But I didn't want a huge event and also since half of my extended family lives in town and 1/2 out, I feel it'd be rude to do the OOTer's only.
So far, it appears that I'll have 26 guests from my "side" and FI's " side" will have 40.
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[QUOTE]Who is paying for the RD? That person gets to decide how big the guest list is. And yes, SOs of the wedding party need to be invited.
Posted by ILoveMilkDuds[/QUOTE]
As a BM who was just told "no dates" at the RD... I feel obligated to add that inviting SOs to the RD is a must! i think it is rude otherwise!