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jrkjpf
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Guest or No Guest
I looked through a few pages of posts, and didn't see anything related, so I'm going to ask...
I am trying to go through our guest list, to try and get a rough number for potential cost reasons (chairs covers, food, drinks, etc), I have included almost all spouses, FI's and serious relationship couples, but what do i do with the singles?
A big reason i ask is also because a few of FI's friends don't exactly have a "classy" taste, and will bring any girl they can find off the streets. I was at a wedding this past weekend where this seemed to be the case, and the bride was less than amused that a majority of the "unknown guests" have never heard of undergarments...hmmm...anyways... We are trying to budge for 175 of less, as of right now we are at 150...what is the rule with guests? If they are single, and have been for awhile, do I not include that option on the invite, be nice and allow it, etc?
I am trying to go through our guest list, to try and get a rough number for potential cost reasons (chairs covers, food, drinks, etc), I have included almost all spouses, FI's and serious relationship couples, but what do i do with the singles?
A big reason i ask is also because a few of FI's friends don't exactly have a "classy" taste, and will bring any girl they can find off the streets. I was at a wedding this past weekend where this seemed to be the case, and the bride was less than amused that a majority of the "unknown guests" have never heard of undergarments...hmmm...anyways... We are trying to budge for 175 of less, as of right now we are at 150...what is the rule with guests? If they are single, and have been for awhile, do I not include that option on the invite, be nice and allow it, etc?
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Re: Guest or No Guest
It is also acceptable to not include +1's for those who are truly single. If they are not dating anyone, then you can only include them. If you have space and someone starts dating someone between the invites and the wedding, it is nice if you can accomodate their SO.
That being said, if you don't have the space or budget, they are truly 100% single and they will know a significant amount of people there...then I think it's ok to not invite them with a date...
[QUOTE]I looked through a few pages of posts, and didn't see anything related, so I'm going to ask... I am trying to go through our guest list, to try and get a rough number for potential cost reasons (chairs covers, food, drinks, etc), I have included almost all spouses, FI's and serious relationship couples, but what do i do with the singles? A big reason i ask is also because a few of FI's friends don't exactly have a "classy" taste, and will bring any girl they can find off the streets. I was at a wedding this past weekend where this seemed to be the case, and the bride was less than amused that a majority of the "unknown guests" have never heard of undergarments...hmmm...anyways... We are trying to budge for 175 of less, as of right now we are at 150...what is the rule with guests? If they are single, and have been for awhile, do I not include that option on the invite, be nice and allow it, etc?
Posted by jrkjpf[/QUOTE]
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</div><div>What do you mean by "<em>almost</em> all spouses, FI's and serious relationship couples?" Did you invite all of them and you're just assuming for your head count that a few of them won't show up? You have to invite people that are in relationships with their partners, so I was just checking. </div><div>
</div><div>For single guests you don't have to let them bring a guest so if you don't want them to bring someone no biggie.</div>
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"Almost All", as in I have not added a few names of spouses and such since I am unsure of their names. But they are counted for.
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[QUOTE]I looked through a few pages of posts, and didn't see anything related, so I'm going to ask... I am trying to go through our guest list, to try and get a rough number for potential cost reasons (chairs covers, food, drinks, etc), I have included almost all spouses, FI's and serious relationship couples, but what do i do with the singles? A big reason i ask is also because a few of FI's friends don't exactly have a "classy" taste, and <strong>will bring any girl they can find off the streets. I was at a wedding this past weekend where this seemed to be the case, </strong>and the bride was less than amused that a majority of the "unknown guests" have never heard of undergarments...hmmm...anyways... We are trying to budge for 175 of less, as of right now we are at 150...what is the rule with guests? If they are single, and have been for awhile, do I not include that option on the invite, be nice and allow it, etc?
Posted by jrkjpf[/QUOTE]
I hear you on this; I sure don't want to have to deal with that. However, we invited +1's for our single friends who wouldn't otherwise know anyone at the wedding. For example, a co-worker who is single who does not know any of our friends we invited her w/a plus one.
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[QUOTE]In Response to Guest or No Guest : I hear you on this; I sure don't want to have to deal with that. However, we invited +1's for our single friends who wouldn't otherwise know anyone at the wedding. For example, a co-worker who is single who does not know any of our friends we invited her w/a plus one.
Posted by aimers1525[/QUOTE]
<div>This. Also, if someone is traveling a considerable distance to your wedding, it's nice to offer them a +1. </div><div>
</div><div>If someone is truly single, local and knows other people at the wedding, don't worry about it.</div>
I agree with PPs - if you have the room it is a nice gesture. Not everyone will necessarily bring a date. I have tagged along to many a wedding at the last minute with a good friend when they did not want to go alone and had a plus one invite. Meet some great guys that way too.