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Lenore2010
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The Bump?
I am curious, as I look at posts on The Bump. What would any expectant mom want to be over there? I mean, they sit around and tear each other new ones regarding breastfeeding? There are some odd ducks over there for sure.
No disrespect intended if you are a Bump regular. I am not the best judge anyway, I do not even have kids. I just cannot imagine myself wanting to be on TB is I were pregnant. Maybe I am just a wimp or something.
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Re: The Bump?
I'd much rather talk about my pregnancy with girls I knew who were mothers or expecting in here than over there.
Just call me "Brothel"
And betrothed, I'm disgusted with most of the comments that you have posted. I don't think I've ever read such judgmental comments in my life. I'm so lucky that the girls I speak to on theknot are nothing like you...I would've never come on here for ADVICE if I would've encountered a big a bitch as you. I genuinely feel awful for your children or your future children, and I think it would be irresponsible of YOU not to invest in their future therapy sessions starting now. Because trust me when I tell you honey, they're gonna need it. ~jcaruncho2010
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We'll just not tell H about this little fact, m'kay?
[QUOTE]I sincerely hope they teach their children more empathy and kindness than they themselves display.
Posted by jasmineh7777[/QUOTE]
How can you teach something you yourself don't possess? I fear for our future.
Just call me "Brothel"
And betrothed, I'm disgusted with most of the comments that you have posted. I don't think I've ever read such judgmental comments in my life. I'm so lucky that the girls I speak to on theknot are nothing like you...I would've never come on here for ADVICE if I would've encountered a big a bitch as you. I genuinely feel awful for your children or your future children, and I think it would be irresponsible of YOU not to invest in their future therapy sessions starting now. Because trust me when I tell you honey, they're gonna need it. ~jcaruncho2010
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Or is it that only crazies are attracted and stay on those boards?
...Am I being a bitch for lumping them all together? I'm sure there are nice Bumpies.
Or is there something about being pregnant that makes people go absolutely off their nuts? Maybe it's the hormones. I mean really.
[QUOTE]I<strong> just don't understand the need to be competitive with people about who is the best mother.</strong> no one way is right for every person. If it was, we'd all be the same and that would be boring.
Posted by SarahPLiz[/QUOTE]
No, I never did either but damned if you do not see them all the time. I watched some girls that i thought were pretty nice people go very self rightous, mom of the year with other moms when they had kids. Oh, and those us without kids were deemed clueless about pretty much everything by those same girls as soon as they became moms.
It seems to be an attitude that blissfully few women have, but even thinking about it brings up scary memories of people I knew in my 20's and 30's. My own neice seemed to be heading in that direction, too until my SIL told her to get the bleep over herself. She was mad at first but took heart. My neice was on the Bump. Cooincidence? you be the judge.
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"Well, *my* baby has a cart cover. I would never expose her to the germs of the outside world."
"Well, *my* baby will be exposed to the germs of the outside work so *my* baby will have a better immune system that *your* baby."
Me oh my.
EDIT: for my poor spelling... geez.
[QUOTE]Babies have a way of bringing out the weird in people. "Well, *my* baby has a cart cover. I would never expost her to the germs of the outside world." "Well, *my* baby will be exposed to the germs of the outside work so *my* baby will have a better immunate system that *your* baby." Me oh my.
Posted by Joy2611[/QUOTE]
I had someone do that to me about my dog. I mentioned taking her to the groomer and this woman looks at me and says "WE do all of our own grooming and use all natural products". Like I am going to sit and argue with her about my care of one of the most loved dogs in the world?!
If I had had a kid, and someone did that to me I might have become violent so I think the no-kids choice was good for me!
Now, with that weird thought about the dog in my head I am off to an early lunch!
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[QUOTE]Babies have a way of bringing out the weird in people. "Well, *my* baby has a cart cover. I would never expose her to the germs of the outside world." "Well, *my* baby will be exposed to the germs of the outside work so *my* baby will have a better immune system that *your* baby." Me oh my. EDIT: for my poor spelling... geez.
Posted by Joy2611[/QUOTE]
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</div><div>See, I don't need that in order to raise a child. I go by my grandmother's old adage, " a little dirt never hurt anybody", which is how I was raised. If someone else wants to do it differently, that's up to them. I have plenty of family and friends to draw wisdom from. Internet strangers fall to about #1000000 on the list of who I'd go to for child rearing advice. </div>
[QUOTE]Babies have a way of bringing out the weird in people. "Well, *my* baby has a cart cover. I would never expose her to the germs of the outside world." "Well, *my* baby will be exposed to the germs of the outside work so *my* baby will have a better immune system that *your* baby." Me oh my. EDIT: for my poor spelling... geez.
Posted by Joy2611[/QUOTE]
This. It makes you want to roll your eyes clockwise and counterclockwise at the same time!
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[QUOTE]My baby will be able to do my taxes. It better bring something to the table if it's going to live in my uterus.
Posted by jasmineh7777[/QUOTE]
<div>My dad always said he had us so that one day he wouldn't have to do the dishes or cut the grass. </div>
And cart covers? really? I have never, ever seen or heard of such a thing. Most kids I see at the grocery store are happily 'steering' their cart "car" attachment while the parent shops. And yes, a little dirt or germ exposure is good for building immunity. Sanitizing everything is why we have super-bugs now. And I'm sorry, but breastfeeding is not magic. Yes it's best, but it won't guarantee your kid will never be sick, get ear infections or will be a genius.
Okay I'm getting off track. yes they are nuts and I'm never, ever going over there for parenting advice.
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: The Bump? : My dad always said he had us so that one day he wouldn't have to do the dishes or cut the grass.
Posted by SarahPLiz[/QUOTE]
My aunt says the best part about having given birth to my cousins is that once they turned 16 she had a built in DD ;)
Just call me "Brothel"
And betrothed, I'm disgusted with most of the comments that you have posted. I don't think I've ever read such judgmental comments in my life. I'm so lucky that the girls I speak to on theknot are nothing like you...I would've never come on here for ADVICE if I would've encountered a big a bitch as you. I genuinely feel awful for your children or your future children, and I think it would be irresponsible of YOU not to invest in their future therapy sessions starting now. Because trust me when I tell you honey, they're gonna need it. ~jcaruncho2010
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The T-ttc board does seem to be very nice though, so I may start posting there instead of just lurking. I will probably lurk on a trimester board when the time comes just to get an idea of what's going on.
This is why I'm so happy people here are starting to move into the ttc/pregnancy phase of their lives. I can talk to sane people about it and not worry about getting blasted if I ask a stupid question.
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I wonder if this is leady to lots of nervous-scared-angry-bitchy moms all around.
I think about how when i was a child, born in 1965 all of the following happened while I grew up with my mom, the nurse and everyone thought it was good fine and normal:
1. No car seats. no one used car seats then. Most adults did not even wear seatbelts in the 70's.
2.Mom smoked in house and car with us until she quit in 1978.
3. Mom never considered breastfeeding.
4. No playground had soft rounded edges, you fell on stuff and got hurt.
5. You had maybe 6 or 7 shots before age 6 or 8, after that you had none.
6. No one thought there was anything wrong with having a drink in front of a child, as long as they were not getting drunk.
7. We went to the McDonalds drivethrough maybe once or twice a month. Hardly any kids were fat.
8. Virtually all kids played without supervision in their own backyards.
9. Very few kids were on meds for disorders like ADHD.
10. Kids were pretty much expected to do what they were told, not argue, not interupt adults, and got in trouble fast if they screamed in public places or whined and were over about age three.
Now, I am not saying that all of this was good. A lot of it obviously was NOT good. Plenty of people born the same year I was would not have asthma if there parents had not smoked like stacks. Or even sader would be alive today if they had been in a car seat.
However, I as a non mom and no authority on anything have to wonder if stuff like the Bump is a symptom of moms and moms-to-be driven insane by all the anxiety and expectations that are stuck on them. Just a thought. I am no mom, what the bleep do I know?
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[QUOTE]. However, I as a non mom and no authority on anything have to wonder if stuff like the Bump is a symptom of moms and moms-to-be driven insane by all the anxiety and expectations that are stuck on them. Just a thought. I am no mom, what the bleep do I know?
Posted by Lenore2010[/QUOTE]
According to TB, nothing, because obviously people without kids have no experience or knowledge relating to kids. <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-undecided.gif" border="0" alt="Undecided" title="Undecided" />
I do agree with what you are saying though. I think because we put ourselves out there more through emails, FB, TB, whatever it's also easier to feel judged. If you let your kid eat dirt and they got sick you are labeled "a bad parent" even if it was nothing. That and you are bringing a lot of opinionated people together into a group. Before the mighty interwebs if you breastfed you probably mainly talked to other people about breastfeeding who were like minded, same thing with formula feeding. Doctors told you it was ok either way because ultimately, neither is going to kill the kid.
Now we have big groups of not-like minded people which can be great (like here) and can be disastrous like the bump. I think being a parent is also incredibly hard and a very emotional thing. If someone tells you you are a bad Republican most people are like, eh, ok whatever. If you are told you are a bad parent you will have a much stronger reaction.
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I mean, my mom put me in shopping carts without a cover and, lo and behold, I'm totally okay! I tend to roll my eyes when my friends have video cameras in their baby's rooms or freak when someone puts their child on the floor without a blanket.
I just wish people would relax a little.
My good friend has an 11 month old. She needed a new carseat because her son had outgrown the old one. It is recommended to not put a child in a forward facing carseat until 12 months old. She didn't want to have to buy two carseats or a convertible one since they are so expensive so they just bought the forward facing one.
She feels tremendous guilt for doing this even though logically it made the most sense. She feels guilty because of some wording on a package. All these recommendations and tips for a healthy child must make you go bananas. I don't see how it couldn't.