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Ok Bridesmaid Gifts?
I'm trying to figure out what to get my bridesmaids for their gift. I was already planning to get them matching jewelry to wear for the wedding. And now that we're all planning on getting manis and pedis the day before the wedding, I was thinking about paying for each of their manis and pedis (along with the jewelry) as their gifts. Is that tacky? I'd be spending at least $50 per person, so I don't think I'm being cheap. I'm guessing people would appreciate not having to pay for their own manis and pedis, rather than having to pay for them and then getting a gift they may or may not use. Am I wrong on this? Help! 
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Re: Ok Bridesmaid Gifts?
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If you're requiring that they wear certain jewelry and have mani/pedis, then you DO have to pay for them. FWIW: I have never in my life had a Pedi, and wouldn't for your wedding. Also, as a church organist, I'm pretty picky about my hands. and have to have my fingernails a certain length in order to play.
Honestly, I think requiring manis/pedis is pretty controlling.
As for what you should do for a WP gift: take the words Wedding Party out of the equation. You're shopping for your friends. Pretend it's Christmas. Pretend it's their birthday. Now go shopping for your friends.
WP gifts don't have to be, nor should they be matchy-matchy or wedding themed.
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[QUOTE]It's not tacky (which is a word I move to banninate from the board) but it's not a gift. If you require a mani-pedi, you have to pay for it anyway since it's part of their "uniform." So you need to get them something else for their gift because this is not a gift. Most people don't require a mani-pedi, btw, and not everyone finds them enjoyable.
Posted by bablingbrooke[/QUOTE]
True. Personally I cant stand people touching my feet. I have told all the girls that they get to have their makeup done and mani/pedi if they choose to.
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[QUOTE]I hope you got your MOH a great gift for paying for something that you should be paying for.
Posted by bablingbrooke[/QUOTE]
It's my sister for crying out loud. My family is paying for my entire wedding. Of course they're all getting gifts. Good lord, someone's jealous.
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[QUOTE]I hope you're paying for the makeup, then. I don't understand why you would tell BMs they "have" to get makeup or mani-pedis. I understand wanting people to look nice, but it's also micromanaging to tell grown women what they "have" to do to look good for your wedding.
Posted by bablingbrooke[/QUOTE]
JEEZ-US you are annoying. Read what I wrote and get off your high-horse. I am not requiring anyone to do anything. My family is giving the girls a spa day for FREE if they so choose. They could wear purple nail polish and raggedy hair if they wanted to.
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[QUOTE] As for what you should do for a WP gift: take the words Wedding Party out of the equation. You're shopping for your friends. Pretend it's Christmas. Pretend it's their birthday. Now go shopping for your friends. WP gifts don't have to be, nor should they be matchy-matchy or wedding themed.
Posted by trix1223[/QUOTE]
THIS
P.S. I'm pms-ing.
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[QUOTE]In general we have a problem with TELLING others they need to pay for the wedding, and asking which "cute little poem" is most effective in getting Mom and Dad to write the check (understandable, no?).
Posted by bablingbrooke[/QUOTE]
Ha! Well of course. Those are the manipulative little peaches that I sometimes feel I get confused for. <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-yell.gif" border="0" alt="Yell" title="Yell" />
[QUOTE] I was thinking about paying for each of their manis and pedis (along with the jewelry) as their gifts. Is that tacky? I'd be spending at least $50 per person, so I don't think I'm being cheap. I'm guessing<strong> people would appreciate not having to pay for their own manis and pedis, <em>rather than having to pay for them</em></strong> and then getting a gift they may or may not use.
Posted by csupalla[/QUOTE]
<div>This is why people thought you were requiring it. It sounds like it's something they'd have to get and therefore it's not a gift.</div><div>
</div><div>FWIW, wedding jewelry is also not a gift because it's part of the 'uniform' for the day. It's fine to give them the mani-pedis and fine to get them jewelry, but it just isn't really a "gift" to give them things for <em>your</em> wedding and therefore it's really for you. A gift should be a gift, which by definition is something for them and not something for you.</div>
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[QUOTE]I do not understand why its an issue even if she is requiring brides to have certain things, I am for my wedding and I'm not paying for it they are. They have to wear shoes all I'm saying is they need to be the same shoes so there is no reason for me to pay for them its not like not wearing shoes is optional. Everytime I see wedding pictures where all the bridesmaids have on the same dresses, same colors, same flowers and then they have on different shoes. What the F???? that is tacky, if they all had different dresses that would be fine but to do everything else the same but then have something different is a big NO NO in my book. I will buy all the same jewelry for everyone to wear but they will buy everything else, I will pay for my junior bridemaids to get their fingers and toes painted as something fun for little girls. I know that my bridemaids will have their nails and feet done because they keep them done all the time but they will be wearing gloves in the ceremony. If someone requires something that someone else does not, it does not make it wrong or rude. This web site has tons of people doing tons of different things and that is ok. Who cares if "we" whoever that is doesn't like when brides tell people what they have to do or however it was stated!! Since when did your opinion really matter anyway? It doesn't you just like to think it does.
Posted by drjewell[/QUOTE]
<div>Really, you have nothing better to do than scold a bunch of strangers on a website because they point out that you're being rude to your BMs? Really?</div>
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[QUOTE]I do not understand why its an issue even if she is requiring brides to have certain things, I am for my wedding and I'm not paying for it they are. They have to wear shoes all I'm saying is they need to be the same shoes so there is no reason for me to pay for them its not like not wearing shoes is optional. Everytime I see wedding pictures where all the bridesmaids have on the same dresses, same colors, same flowers and then they have on different shoes. What the F???? that is tacky, if they all had different dresses that would be fine but to do everything else the same but then have something different is a big NO NO in my book. I will buy all the same jewelry for everyone to wear but they will buy everything else, I will pay for my junior bridemaids to get their fingers and toes painted as something fun for little girls. I know that my bridemaids will have their nails and feet done because they keep them done all the time but they will be wearing gloves in the ceremony. If someone requires something that someone else does not, it does not make it wrong or rude. This web site has tons of people doing tons of different things and that is ok. Who cares if "we" whoever that is doesn't like when brides tell people what they have to do or however it was stated!! Since when did your opinion really matter anyway? It doesn't you just like to think it does.
Posted by drjewell[/QUOTE]
How about a reality check here? What were the shoes on the BM feet at the last 6 weddings you attended? Can't remember? That's because no one gives a rat's patoot about what in on the BM feet. And it's even sillier if the dresses are floor length.
What about the jewelry that the WP was wearing in the last 6 weddings?
No one cares about such things except brides who are planning their own weddings, and using faulty judgement.
I'm sad that you find uniformity in pictures more important than the comfort of your supposedly closest friends and family.
I don't think you understand what the word "tacky" means if you think that BMs in non-identical shoes are tacky.
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[QUOTE]You are either a troll or seriously spoiled. Either way it's sad.
Posted by bablingbrooke[/QUOTE]
this
[QUOTE]<strong>My reality is that I get what I want</strong>. You guys need self esteem!
Posted by drjewell[/QUOTE]
Oh, and don't you guys get it? It's <strong>her</strong> day and she gets what she wants! hehehe.
I understand that when you get married, things should be in general how you envision it, but envisioning it down to people's nails and jewelry? That to me is just too much. If that kind of stuff is THAT big of a deal, you gotta take a step back and remember why there's a wedding happening in the first place.
To each his own and all, but even as much or as little time or money is spent on a wedding, it's one day, and friends and family are people you should want to remember having a good time at it. Go easy on em.
OP, I don't think buying your BMs jewelry or MXPXs s a bad idea, but a gift should be something that they can have AFTER the wedding. Nothing too big, just a nice little something.