My mother asked the mother of the groom if she wanted to cohost the bridal shower that my mom and sister are hosting with them, but the mother of the groom wanted to throw her own for me in her hometown because she didn't want people to have to carry gifts for me (the bridal shower my mom is throwing is the day before the wedding).
So she insisted on having it and couldn't wait to pick a date, so she is throwing it six months before the wedding, when we are there for Christmas. We just found out she doesn't plan to ship them to us - should we have to pay shipping costs for gifts that were given to us at a bridal shower in another state (it's a 9 hour drive or two hour flight)? She was the one who demanded to have it in her hometown with her friends (who I have never met). There is no way we could bring everything back on the plane with us...
Also on that note, we thought about returning them all there and getting a gift card to the store and putting them back on the registry - but is that tacky? I feel like it's a pain to have to go and return them and rebuy them ourselves...
Let me know your thoughts...
I should also include she demanded we add more gifts of a certain price point for her friends. And because we already live together, we don't need many things, but we are having two bridal showers and a wedding of 300...(mostly our parent's friends).