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Kissing at the reception

The other thread finally got me to post this, but I didn't want to thread-jack, so I started my own. I totally despise the clanking of the glasses, with a passion. I hate going to weddings that do it, and I just end up annoyed as heck by the end of dinner. Ignoring it was mentioned, but I don't really want to do that, I just want something else. I'm also not a big fan of the singing a song, or having to mimic other married couples (I've been to a few weddings that did this). FI's cousin actually did the donation box thing, but it wasn't a charity thing--it was for their honeymoon. I hated it and so did everyone else I talked to--for obvious reasons. Anyway, someone on the previous thread mentioned having the guest "draw" a Hershey's Kiss from a vase, and then either the B&G kiss, or the person has to return to their table and kiss someone at their table (depending on the wrapper color). Has anyone else ever seen this? This is something I would actually like, but don't want to do it if there are too many objections. My other problem is that I feel like we would need to draw attention to the person when they go up there, otherwise no one will notice and it will be pointless. I could probably get the DJ involved, but don't know what should be said or done that would work. Any ideas will be appreciated. TIA!
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Re: Kissing at the reception

  • Honestly, I think doing something else just draws more attention to the whole kissing thing. I'd just kiss the first time, and then ignore the rest. It will stop. At my DD's wedding, I think there were two clinking moments total for the whole night. As for the kiss thing: I would NOT, NOT, NOT want to have to kiss someone from my table because they picked a certain color candy. Can you just imagine how extraordinarily uncomfortable that could make your guests? Please don't do that. I think that's just an awful idea. Be a good sport once~you can even tell people that this is your one and only time, and have your new DH do a big "dip" sweeping type kiss. It will be cute and people will get the idea, And you won't offend people at your table.
    "Trix, it's what they/our parents wanted. Why so judgemental? And why is your wedding date over a year and a half ago? And why do you not have a groom's name? And why have you posted over 12,000 posts? And why do you always say mean things to brides?" palegirl146
  • Thanks Trix, I guess my thinking was that most people would kiss someone they knew, their S/O or something. I also question whether people in my family would actually quit if we ignore it---they have been known to clank the glasses for around 5 or so minutes because they weren't getting what they wanted, and I have a ton of younger cousins that are usually the ones to start it. Beyond that I can also see my mom getting really pissed at me for ignoring it and not giving it, and it would just give FMIL something else to hate me for. It's not the kissing that bothers me, like it was in the other post, just to noise that I can't stand, so I figured I'd see if there were any other ideas.
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  • Here's what I"ve seen: Mini-put set-up in front of the head table. If the guest gets the ball in the hole, the couple has to kiss. Sing a song or say a poem with the word "love". This was nice! The B&G would go and kiss people in the reception instead of each other, this was funny!  
  • ** new to the board and just chiming in while I lurk around- hope you don't mind :)  **Honestly, I just think you should be a good sport like PP said.  Let people clink their glasses.  It's not like you have to make out in front of everyone, just a quick peck is plenty to shut them up.  Have fun with it, enjoy the moments you actually do have time to get a kiss in with your new hubby.
  • If you don't like the sound of the clinking glass, would about bells?I've seen little bells placed at the tables that have a little tag on them with a poem...something like "May laughter and joy fill this room, as we toast the Bride and Groom. Take this tiny Wedding Bell, a sign of love to wish them well, ring it loud so all may hear, when the Bride and Groom are near."Of course, if it's just noise in general that you don't like, then this won't help you.
  • My daughter got married a month ago and honestly not a single person clinked their glass to get them to kiss.

    If it does happen to you and you don't want to kiss -- just ignore them.  Hopefully they will get the hint after a couple of futile tries.
  • I am new to this asforum as well, and haven't even started planning a wedding.  But I wanted to say that the bell idea is awesome, except of course if you don't like that sound as well.  My cousin and her now husband had bells at the table for each guest so instead of clinking glasses, the bells would ring.  I thought it was very cute, different, and it had a nice little poem on it.  Just my idea though :)
  • So long as you have glassware and flatware on the table at the same time, someone will clink their glass.  It's bound to happen.  Yes, it's irritating.  Yes, I'd prefer people not do it too.  But, kiss once & move on.  Likely most of your guests are actually annoyed by the noise too and it will end quickly. 
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  • I have been wondering about the reception kissing too!  MY Fi is a very VERY shy man and I expect to have quite a bit of time at the reception without him (he'll be hiding somewhere).  I love the idea of the bells with the poems since I don't like the clanking glasses noise, and I think wandering around and kissing different people at the reception would be hillarious!!  All of our guests will totally understand my MIA hubby!!
  • I love the mini-put idea. Both mine and FI's familes are big golfers, so that would be fun.
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