MOG wearing champagne....

trix1223 · August 2010

muffin's mom: I remember hearing that when I was MOG: "The role of MOG is to wear beige and shut up".

Muffin'sMom · August 2010

and I'm sure you were AWESOME!!!!!!

tldh · August 2010

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[QUOTE]I'd rather have chapagne than black. I do not like black at weddings, I know it's become very common but I don't like it.
Posted by skippylouwho[/QUOTE]

I couldn't agree more. I almost fell over when I was at a wedding in Boston and not a single woman was dressed in black. I have to say, it was the most cheerful wedding I have ever been to.

OP - champagne is not white or ivory. It is a darker color usually. Learn to pick your battles.

nightmare_of_beauty · August 2010

I never heard the beige rule.

Amivy06 · August 2010

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[QUOTE]As an MOB, I don't expect the MOG to follow my lead in choosing her dress. That is an old tradition that should be retired. Posted by MairePoppy[/QUOTE]

<div align="left">I just saw this part and I wish my FMIL knew this. My mom and I have tried telling her to pick what she is comfortable in but she will not look for a dress until my mom gets hers because that's the way she feels it should be done. </div>

agibney · August 2010

Thanks to all who gave constructive advice and criticism. I am hoping like someone said above it is a darker version of what I picture in my head. Additionally I never assumed my FMIL wanted to be "matchy matchy" with my mom, again, like I have said several times she has constantly bothered us since the engagement almost 2 years ago about what my mom was going to wear so it could "set the tone" of what she would wear and look good together, so if she did not give a $hit to do something along the same lines then why has she been bugging us about it forever? B/c she is a MIL, it's her job to bother us! Oh and the comment about the phone calls on Sat. morning... LOVE IT! Will totally remember that one!

And I truly did not realize the whole beige/champagne thing was so.... normal I guess. When shopping with my mom we found a beautiful Jackie O type skirt suit that was a shiny champagne color, when we saw she was so quick to say "NO! STAYING AWAY FROM THOSE COLORS! NO WAY!" Which was actually nice of her I thought, but then FMIL did it anyways.

And yes of course I look great in my dress, which is ivory, and I am sure all you other brides did as well. I think people jump the gun way too much, my point on that statement was that usually whites are not the most flattering color tones in general, unless you are the freakin bride getting married!!! People get way too defensive in assuming I mean everyone else looked like crap in their ivory or white gowns. Was not saying that so don't put words in my mouth. Most of us (in general, do not jump down my throat if one of you really love white shades) would not choose white shades above all other colors when picking out a new top or dress unless, who would have thought, you were picking out your wedding dress! This is why I normally don't jump in on message boards or blogs because you end up having to explain or defend yourself when people misunderstand and assume things you mean, like I said before why don't we give each other the benefit of the doubt and NOT assume we are meaning the worst possible version of what we are saying! You all looked great in your white dresses as will I, but again, we are/were the brides! I am going to let this go and see what happens with it. I would really like to see the dress but they live kind of far away so not sure if that will happen unless she brings it up for the shower Sunday. If the dress is really as bad as I feared then I will have a never ending vision of Jane Fonda in Monster in Law showing up to the wedding in a white dress, and maybe I will have to watch it with her one day. Thanks to all with fun and helpful advice, and good luck!

frogurt814 · August 2010

Ask her to send you a picture if she doesn't bring it up for the shower. Or just ask her to bring it up for the shower because you are so excited about seeing it.

At least it could ease your mind a bit if you saw it. It won't really change anything though since she's already purchased it, but at least you will know what it looks like.

stephdonjon · August 2010

Your friends are right about letting it go. It's really not that big of a deal. Maybe it's only because I've only been to a handful of weddings myself, but I hadn't heard of the "shade lighter than the bride" rule - perhaps MOG hasn't either. And even so, waht's it matter really? If she's happy and comfortable, that's what important. Besides, better a champaigne dress than some crazy tie-die dress or someting.

PeonyPrincesskdd · August 2010

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[QUOTE]<strong>So my mom just got her dress, a gorgeous black and silver tweed-like knee length with matching jacket, that I did pick out by the way, </strong>for our September semi-formal afternoon wedding. We are not having a bridal party, so no specific colors to match (except my dress has green accents on ivory) but dads and groom will be in black tuxes, so the black/silver will match nicely. My future MIL has been bugging us about what my mom is going to wear for months... now that my mom got her dress we let her know it's like a black and silver tweed. She just bought a champagne chiffon dress. Am I crazy, or does any half inteligent woman on earth know better than to wear a shade darker than the bride? Her own daughter's wedding was last year and her dress was champagne. I don't know if I need to say something or let it go, I don't want to let it go but everyone else tells me to. I just think it's total crap that she bought a dress in the "ivory" color family. When asking about colors all I ask is to avoid red and the white family, even suggesting black with other color accents to match the boys and my mom. This really bothers me and I would prefer she buy a different dress but feel as though I cannot say that to her. I am close to both sisters but I feel one would be snotty about it and go running back to mom but I may have a chance with the other sister. What do ya'll think? Do I mention something to the MOG or do I say something to the sister, or say nothing at all? My shower is this weekend so we'll see the out of town grooms family then. My other concern is that for family pics everyone will be dresses in formal black toned outfits and then there will be me and the MOG wearing off white. Total crap! HELP!
Posted by agibney[/QUOTE]

You should have let your mother pick out her own outfit. She's a grown woman and knows how to shop for herself. That said, let MOG wear whatever she wants. There's nothing wrong with champage. Is your dress champagne?? I would say let it go.

PeonyPrincesskdd · August 2010

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[QUOTE]<strong>See I would agree with you if she hasn't taken any opportunity to take a stab at me in the past. </strong>Still to this day (after 7 years over and over again) I hear " I ALWAYS made sure MY kids knew how to cook"... so f-ing what? Your son cooks for me! Big deal! We started off a bit rocky, so if we had started off this fantastic relationship then yes, I would assume she had no intentions of thunder stealing or pissing me off, but due to how our relationship started I have my doubts about that one... I guess I would have felt better if it was my mom or if my mom was wearing a similar shade, but she's wearing a totally different color scheme, as is everyone else that is important that day. Not only do I dislike that she choose that color family but I feel like she will clash terribly in pictures. Everyone will be wearing black or black shades in pictures except me in ivory and the MOG in champagne. It will be a big group of family all dresses classy in black and then us 2 in our off white dresses... don't like this idea at all. I realize it's a special day for her too, but can anyone honestly tell me that any shade of off white is a truly complimenting color? Unless you are Gisele, NO, off white is not complimenting on anyone. Of all the colors of the rainbow that is NOT the most flattering. Additionally they live in the city, we in the country. Our whole relationship we have been made out as "country hillbillies" and they are the "classy city people," so doesn't proper etiquette say that the MOG should chose a dress that slightly matches the MOB? I just can't stand that they act like they are so proper and yet after I described my mothers dress she went out and bought something totally clashing and different. I keep going back to my mindset that she knows waaayy better than that...
Posted by agibney[/QUOTE]

sounds like your the spiteful one.

You want her to return her dress and all this crap to be spiteful

PeonyPrincesskdd · August 2010

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[QUOTE]Exactly, the attitude you need, trust me, the only one who will look foolish will be her while you will be pictured as a good person to not let her faux pas bother you. I'm sure she will very disappointed once she finds out that her plan to irritate you has back fired and now she gets to be talked about by female guests who still live by that tradition.
Posted by AutumnFair[/QUOTE]

Both of you are wrong. No one will be talking behind grooms mother back to say how foolish she looks. Everyone told you that it is common for the mothers to wear champagne. No one will look foolish here. No one will even mention anything about the color of her gown because there's nothing wrong with it.

AMPLESTORM · August 2010

I think it would be best to speak to your soon-to-be MIL directly. Perhaps you could find a dress that you think she would like and show her a picture of it when you go to talk to her. Explain to her that you think it would look better in pictures for her to be wearing a dress that compliments the other people of honor, rather than the bride. Suggest she wear the dress she already has to the rehearsal dinner or something so it isn't a waste. If that fails, just get the champagne dress and shred it

AutumnFair · August 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: MOG wearing champagne.... : Both of you are wrong. No one will be talking behind grooms mother back to say how foolish she looks. Everyone told you that it is common for the mothers to wear champagne. No one will look foolish here. No one will even mention anything about the color of her gown because there's nothing wrong with it.
Posted by PeonyPrincesskdd[/QUOTE]

<div>In my personal opinion, no, I don't even think about colors when it comes to anyone in the wedding. I was saying that those who do gossip would not be talking badly about the Bride, they would talk about the MOG. If you do not think that there are some nosey old nellies that still go nuts when someone breaks the old "tradition" then I applaud your optimism, but I have seen way too many people post on these boards and just general gossiping woman that seem to love to point out something that they seen. So I would hope that people would not notice or care anymore about these stupid traditions with clothing color but I'm saying if anyone does, it won't be viewed negatively towards the Bride, so she should not have to worry about whatever color gown her FMIL chooses.</div>

Amber598 · August 2010

Atleast its not bright white. She may not have even thought about the fact that it is close to the color of your dress. All I have ever heard is that white is a no no....not champagne.

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