First, I'll start with our RSVPing is only electronic via our website which I thought would cut out some of the headache people always tell me - people writing in guests/children that were not invited. We are doing an adults only reception and trying to keep it small so only people who have been in relationships at least 3 months were getting their sig other invited... my 1st cousins who are all in their 40s and some older family members who are divorced/widowed who shouldn't travel alone get the generic "and guest." We would also give a guest if someone really didn't know anyone else there.I have already had drama with one friend who broke up with her boyfriend a few months ago and wanted me to give her a +1 so she could find someone to split the hotel and car rental so she could stay at the beach (she knows other people at the wedding and has a free place to stay and friends with cars... she just wanted to stay at the hotel). But we set the lines and rules and I made it clear no one guest is more important than another and I can't make exceptions for one and not another.
I got my first RSVP! It was one of the ushers it was all very exciting until I get this message immediately after: "To whom this may concern I will be bringing a guest. Contact me if this is an issue. Thank you!"
Really? It would have been nice if he had at least asked instead of just said it like that. My FI said he would handle it but now I'm a stress ball until he calls him back. I once had a bride tell me people were pulling so much of this kind of stuff she refused to check her mail and made her FI do it. Now I dread my email.