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  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_ffflff-2?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:c65678b6-ef12-4474-8f3a-7c58236869abPost:4fd96d74-f3eb-4054-be54-1cce015b8af6">Re: FFF/LFF</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF/LFF : This is the etiquette board, so we try to give advice in line with etiquette, even if it isn't our personal preference. You've been here long enough to know that.
    Posted by Liatris2010[/QUOTE]

    That doesn't answer the question. Please show me where I said that not opening the gifts is proper etiquette for a shower.
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  • Jessa617 Jessa617 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_ffflff-2?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:c65678b6-ef12-4474-8f3a-7c58236869abPost:56b8a567-c8a9-4f70-8990-e9afa9069f8d">Re: FFF/LFF</a>:
    [QUOTE]LFF to PreDempsey for giving me my first LFF! I flame all the BSC posts this week. I think they've all been mentioned at this point. After reading through all of those posts during the week, I was wondering "Is this real life?"
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    I found a nice dentist boy gif, but then realized I don't know how to post them... Fail.
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    And I want to FFF the girl who asked her FILs to host her RD...then turned around and asked her parents when the FILs said it would come out of her gift. 
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    [QUOTE]Isn't this horse dead yet? ETA Just so no one misunderstands, I mean the horse in the shower.
    Posted by Knot Irene[/QUOTE]

    Hehe....I imagined a horse in a people shower. That's my totally worthless contribution to the horse/shower/gift discussion.




  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_ffflff-2?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:c65678b6-ef12-4474-8f3a-7c58236869abPost:3309a440-9a68-4277-85a1-657d105a646b">Re:FFF/LFF</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re:FFF/LFF : It is new. Within the last year or so people have started doing it more and more.
    Posted by OwningAHome1981[/QUOTE]

    I dunno, I had 50+ people at my shower and managed to open all the gifts and mingle and talk to folks.  And it was 3 weeks ago... soooo if it was within the last year, I would have seen it at a minimum of 2 weddings for FIs family and 2 friends.  Again, it's your thing, and it is what it is, but, I just wanted to say it's not all LI... NYC... downstate... I literally have never seen it done.
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF/LFF : That doesn't answer the question. Please show me where I said that not opening the gifts is proper etiquette for a shower.
    Posted by OwningAHome1981[/QUOTE]

    <div>Why are you here? Are you just here to argue? The advice you give is not in line with proper etiquette. You have been called out on this many times. You get defensive, and argue every single thing anyone says. Do you just hang here to troll? To try and start trouble? </div><div>
    </div><div>Are you genuinely concerned with helping others on etiquette? Because you don't do that. Please, tell me.</div>
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  • misshart00misshart00 Oklahoma member
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    In Response to Re:FFF/LFF:[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF/LFF:In Response to Re: FFF/LFF : This is the etiquette board, so we try to give advice in line with etiquette, even if it isn't our personal preference. You've been here long enough to know that.Posted by Liatris2010That doesn't answer the question. Please show me where I said that not opening the gifts is proper etiquette for a shower. Posted by OwningAHome1981[/QUOTE]

    By telling someone else on the etiquette board that that is what you are doing and suggesting they do the same, you're implying that its etiquette appropriate.

    I did some things technically against etiquette too, but I don't go around the etiquette board saying its a good idea.
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF/LFF : That doesn't answer the question. Please show me where I said that not opening the gifts is proper etiquette for a shower.
    Posted by OwningAHome1981[/QUOTE]

    Pretty sure multiple times you said you'd find it rude. I'm not going to try to go back through all 40000 posts. But I'm pretty sure rude = against etiquette. Call me crazy!
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re:FFF/LFF: By telling someone else on the etiquette board that that is what you are doing and suggesting they do the same, you're implying that its etiquette appropriate. I did some things technically against etiquette too, but I don't go around the etiquette board saying its a good idea.
    Posted by misshart00[/QUOTE]

    co-signed, me

    (basically exactly what I was going to say. Just made sure to refresh my screen first since I figured one of you ladies had beaten me to it.
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  • kmbryant2413kmbryant2413 member
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF/LFF : Pretty sure multiple times you said you'd find it rude. I'm not going to try to go back through all 40000 posts. But I'm pretty sure rude = against etiquette. Call me crazy!
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  • edited March 2013
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_ffflff-2?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:c65678b6-ef12-4474-8f3a-7c58236869abPost:55464711-7f07-4d09-ac2e-f2e30dda02e7">Re:FFF/LFF</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re:FFF/LFF: By telling someone else on the etiquette board that that is what you are doing and suggesting they do the same, you're implying that its etiquette appropriate. I did some things technically against etiquette too, but I don't go around the etiquette board saying its a good idea.
    Posted by misshart00[/QUOTE]

    When did i say people should do things how I do them? I told a poster they don't have to open gifts at their shower. They don't HAVE to. And when I said that, I didn't know it was against etiquette until someone said it was. I have never said anyone should do anything how I do them. I give my opinions and I tell people what I am doing.
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF/LFF : Pretty sure multiple times you said you'd find it rude. I'm not going to try to go back through all 40000 posts. But I'm pretty sure rude = against etiquette. Call me crazy!
    Posted by lisabeats[/QUOTE]

    Opening presents in front of people IS rude, IMO but that doesn't make NOT oepning them right or nice either. My PREFERENCE is to hang out with guests. If other's PREFER to open presents, great.
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re:FFF/LFF: Then I suggest having two or three different showers and invite in circles.
    Posted by TXKristan[/QUOTE]

    I'm not disagreeing but this is what my mom wanted to plan for me.
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  • misshart00misshart00 Oklahoma member
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    In Response to Re:FFF/LFF:[QUOTE]In Response to Re:FFF/LFF:In Response to Re:FFF/LFF: By telling someone else on the etiquette board that that is what you are doing and suggesting they do the same, you're implying that its etiquette appropriate. I did some things technically against etiquette too, but I don't go around the etiquette board saying its a good idea.Posted by misshart00When did i say people should do things how I do them? I told a poster they don't have to open gifts at their shower. They don't HAVE to. And when I said that, I didn't know it was against etiquette until someone said it was. I have never said anyone should do anything how I do them. I give my opinions and I tell people what I am doing. Posted by OwningAHome1981[/QUOTE]

    Your quote from that thread: 'You don't even have to open the gifts if you don't want to.'
    That's telling people to use your idea.
  • I don't post often but I just have too. I just had my first shower, my fiance is one of 11 and had a HUGE family so my shower was about 80 people. I opened every single gift and card, for two reasons, 1. It is expected (I am from CT not far from LI) and 2 because it is part of why you go to a shower. If I am buying you a gift I want to see you open it, I want to see you smile and that I brought you joy, that feeling you get when someone you care about opens a gift from you is one of the small joys in life. Why would you be against this. Also my shower was 3.5 hours. We ate a full meal, played games, I went around and sat at every table and chatted and I still opened all of the presents. Its such not a big deal. And I agree with some of PP, while you may not have called these things "proper etiquette" you posted them as responses to peoples questions which infers you consider them etiquette.
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  • NWR:  LFF my boss who just called me to tell me to go home b/c i was here to interview someone at 630am.

    Now I can go home and not feel guilty for being on TK.

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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF/LFF : Opening presents in front of people IS rude, IMO but that doesn't make NOT oepning them right or nice either. My PREFERENCE is to hang out with guests. If other's PREFER to open presents, great.
    Posted by OwningAHome1981[/QUOTE]

    Preference=/=proper etiquette. I might PREFER to save money by having a potluck. It doesn't make it CORRECT as far as etiquette goes.
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  • PrettyGirlLostPrettyGirlLost A Land Filled with Unicorns and Cat Hair member
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    [QUOTE]I don't post often but I just have too. I just had my first shower, my fiance is one of 11 and had a HUGE family so my shower was about 80 people. I opened every single gift and card, for two reasons, 1. It is expected (I am from CT not far from LI) and 2 because it is part of why you go to a shower. If I am buying you a gift I want to see you open it, I want to see you smile and that I brought you joy, that feeling you get when someone you care about opens a gift from you is one of the small joys in life. Why would you be against this. Also <strong>my shower was 3.5 hours. We ate a full meal, played games, I went around and sat at every table and chatted and I still opened all of the presents</strong>. Its such not a big deal. And I agree with some of PP, while you may not have called these things "proper etiquette" you posted them as responses to peoples questions which infers you consider them etiquette.
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF/LFF : Opening presents in front of people IS rude, IMO but that doesn't make NOT oepning them right or nice either. My PREFERENCE is to hang out with guests. If other's PREFER to open presents, great.
    Posted by OwningAHome1981[/QUOTE]

    How is opening bridal related gifts rude at a bridal shower? I don't know about you but, I like giving people gifts and I also like to be there when they open them.
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re:FFF/LFF: Your quote from that thread: 'You don't even have to open the gifts if you don't want to.' That's telling people to use your idea.
    Posted by misshart00[/QUOTE]

    No it is not. It is saying they don't HAVE to... cuz they don't. Again, doesn't mean it's correct. I am just saying gifts don't HAVE to be open. No one is forcing a gun to someone's head making them open presents.
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  • I'll repost my question because it seems like you missed it, OAH.


    Why are you here? Are you just here to argue? The advice you give is not in line with proper etiquette. You have been called out on this many times. You get defensive, and argue every single thing anyone says. Do you just hang here to troll? To try and start trouble? 

    Are you genuinely concerned with helping others on etiquette? Because you don't do that. Please, tell me.
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF/LFF : Preference=/=proper etiquette. I might PREFER to save money by having a potluck. It doesn't make it CORRECT as far as etiquette goes.
    Posted by jessicadall[/QUOTE]

    I never said not opening gifts was proper etiquette, I said that is what I am doing and that is is new and more and more people are doing it. It might be against etiquette, I don't care, that is what I am doing.
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF/LFF : I never said not opening gifts was proper etiquette, I said that is what I am doing and that is is new and more and more people are doing it.<strong> It might be against etiquette, I don't care, that is what I am doing.</strong>
    Posted by OwningAHome1981[/QUOTE]

    <div>WHY ARE YOU ON AN ETIQUETTE BOARD?!? I don't understand!! If all you care about is giving people your OPINION, why are you on this board? I am so tired of your foot stomping like a child.</div>
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  • misshart00misshart00 Oklahoma member
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    In Response to Re:FFF/LFF:[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFF/LFF:In Response to Re: FFF/LFF : Preference/proper etiquette. I might PREFER to save money by having a potluck. It doesn't make it CORRECT as far as etiquette goes.Posted by jessicadallI never said not opening gifts was proper etiquette, I said that is what I am doing and that is is new and more and more people are doing it. It might be against etiquette, I don't care, that is what I am doing. Posted by OwningAHome1981[/QUOTE]

    Then stop telling people on the ETIQUETTE board that its a good idea.
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    [QUOTE]Is this argument still happening...?
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    OAH, did you not open presents at your birthday parties as a child, either? Because isn't it kind of the same thing? Do you find that rude as well?
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