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Another reason why Sunday weddings suck for guests (vent)

Okay, before I start this post, let me say that I get that weddings are expensive and that having a Sunday wedding is a good way to save money. I really do.  

But my sister just got married this past Sunday, and I have spent the entire workweek paying for the fact that I had to take Monday off to attend the day-after brunches.

I know some people are going to say in response to this that I didn’t have to go to them, but, really, when it’s that close of a family member, do you realistically ever have a “real” choice. Had I not gone, I would be hearing about it for at least the rest of the month, if not for the remainder of 2010.
 

So, while she is off blissfully honeymooning, I am now work until 10/11 every night to make up for missing 1 day of work for this wedding. 
 

People who are thinking about Sunday weddings, please, please, please think about your guests. Not just the ones you figure can choose not to come, but also the ones who have no choice in the matter.
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  • You didn't have to go. Even if she's your sister, you could've politely declined. My sister couldn't make to my bridal shower because of work, and I don't hate her.

    How about you quit-yer-bitchin?
  • So get off the knot?
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  • I guess I always assumed that if someone had a Sunday wedding, they wouldn't have any day after events like a brunch.  I have to agree, that was kind of rude of your sister to expect people to take off work for events the day AFTER the wedding.
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  • My wedding is on a Sunday.  And it's a DW!  Oh noes!!!11!!  I bet my and FI's families will hate me now and biitch about me on an internet forum.
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  • Well, I have to say I agree with this.
    However, I don't think I would mind making the sacrifice for my sister.
  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_another-reason-sunday-weddings-suck-guests-vent?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:2f7856cb-0567-43e5-9013-d4aa9e2bd84cPost:98c077d7-ec43-4844-a5a4-b8f2c285e3d0">Re: Another reason why Sunday weddings suck for guests (vent)</a>:
    [QUOTE]So get off the knot?
    Posted by Night_Sprite[/QUOTE]

    I'm glad I'm not the only one that was harsh. I'm grumpy today. Well, I've been grumpy all week.
  • My sister took 3 days before my wedding off for me.  She never once biitched about it.  Pretty sure she was happy to do it for me.  Sorry but you sound way too bitter.  Working til 10 or 11 every night really sucks, but dude, it's your sister. 

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    [QUOTE]My wedding is on a Sunday.  And it's a DW!  Oh noes!!!11!!  I bet my and FI's families will hate me now and biitch about me on an internet forum.
    Posted by kikibaby[/QUOTE]

    That's not quite the same as what she's saying Kiki.  Yours is a DW so people expect to have to take off work when they rsvp and buy plane tickets.
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  • Not just the ones you figure can choose not to come, but also the ones who have no choice in the matter.

    Wow, you really hate your sister, huh?
  • My sister had a DW on a Tuesday.  I made a mini vacation out if it.  I had a shit-ton of work to do when I got back but it's my sister for chrissakes. 

    What if you had gotten home that night and woke up on Monday morning with some sort of illness and you had to stay home from work?  Would you still be complaining?
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  • I don't know why anybody would have a Sunday wedding and then a Monday brunch.  Let alone brunchES.  I could understand that on a Friday wedding, what with the weekend beginning the next day.  But seriously....people do have to work. 
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  • I kind of agree with this, which is why we're having a Saturday wedding. I also didn't notice much of a different in price at any of the places I considered.

    My brother had his wedding in California on Thursday when all of our relatives are from the east coast, and only immediate family showed. Of course, I went, and was happy to do it, and didn't have too much trouble rearranging my schedule, but it kind of sucked that so little of our family was there.
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  • She's your sister, and you're complaining about having to take one day off work? I'm sorry, but I don't really agree with you here.

    And just because it's a Sunday wedding doesn't mean day after brunches occur. I've never heard of a day after brunch. But then again, Sunday weddings are the most common around here. I've only attended one Friday wedding and two Saturday weddings.
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  • I think that Sunday weddings are fine. I have attended two as a guest, and if that's what they can afford, so be it. I haven't heard of a day-after brunch for a Sunday wedding, but you didn't HAVE to go. You could have declined due to work, and just listened to criticism from your family. NOW, you are b!tching about having extra work, but life is all about choices.

    And FWIW, yes, you do have to do things for family that you wouldn't necessarily want to. They have to do it for you. Just take a deep breath, and get over it.
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  • AND if you missed eight hours of work that means at most you should be working 8-8 for the rest of the week.  That isn't such a big deal.
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  • Do you never take a day off of work?  I don't understand how taking 1 day off equals working 13 hour days the rest of the week.  (assuming you go in to work at 8'ish) It takes 20 hours to make up for 8?
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    [QUOTE]So get off the knot?
    Posted by Night_Sprite[/QUOTE]

    NICE.

    We had a Sunday wedding, and because we DID think about our guests, we didn't have any day-after events because, you know, people work on Mondays. A day-after brunch is weird to have on a Monday anyway IMO. Nonetheless, surely you must have at least had an inkling that taking Monday off would have made the rest of your week suck, no? You <em>didn't</em> have to go, and it's not like you would have been missing anything momentous. Most people understand that work is more important than post-wedding events...
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  • Why didn't you just take eight hours of leave?
  • So your telling me if I get invited to a Sunday wedding I don't HAVE to booze and be hungover the next day for work?? Eff that ;)
  • Also, since Monday was a holiday for some, she probably planned the brunch(es) with that in mind.
  • Apparently my comment was really sassy.  It just seemed like common sense to me. 
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  • Not so much sassy as just true. And amusing.
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  • I don't understand how taking 1 day off equals working 13 hour days the rest of the week.  (assuming you go in to work at 8'ish) It takes 20 hours to make up for 8?

    You're forgetting about the extra 4 hours a day dedicated to wallowing in self-pity and cursing her honeymoon-ing sister (oh, and knotting, apparently).
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    [QUOTE]Also, since Monday was a holiday for some, she probably planned the brunch(es) with that in mind.
    Posted by georgia_bride09[/QUOTE]

    Georgia, you've been awarded with 300 intelligent points for pointing that out. (I surely didn't notice it.)
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    [QUOTE]So your telling me if I get invited to a Sunday wedding I don't HAVE to booze and be hungover the next day for work?? Eff that ;)
    Posted by MeaghanandMichael[/QUOTE]
    You're such a classy lady.  I like it.
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  • Guys, I'm a little confused. I've been around for tons of posts where somebody comes on here and asks if having a Friday/Sunday/midweek wedding is a good idea, and generally people on here would advise that person to do what they need to do to stay in budget but keep in mind that it can be a major inconvenience for guests. Now here, we have a guest who was inconvenienced, and is upset.

    Why, logically, are we mad?
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  • Well, it was a holiday weekend. I'm also having a Sunday wedding for a holiday weekend, but I accept that some people will still need to take Monday off to travel to my wedding. (Brunch the next day will be casual and optional.) That is, if THEY choose to come. Because I wouldn't force them to do so.
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  • I think it's just her brattiness about it, sarah.
  • Now here, we have a guest who was inconvenienced, and is upset.

    Why, logically, are we mad?


    But she wasn't just a guest, she was sister of the bride.  Would I have told her sister to try not to have a Sunday wedding?  Sure.  But would I be hurt as hell to find out that someone in my immediate family felt "inconvenienced" by my wedding? Absofuckinglutely.
  • That's triflin', yo.
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