They told me sharing is caring!

Olliee1607 · June 2011

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1. Computers - We each have our own, but occasionally use each others/

2. Toothbrush - No sharing here. We would if we HAD to but I prefer not to share

3. Remote - We don't watch tv, but how can you not share this?

4. Candy - I'd share if I had to. But typically we like different candy

5. Netflix accounts - Shared

6. Car - We each have our own cars, but they were purchased jointly so they're technically "ours" We do have a vintage car that his technically his.

7. Cereal - Ours. we share

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IrishDreamer · June 2011

1. Computers - He has a desktop that he bought, I have a laptop that my dad gave me and one that i bought off of my boss - they are both technically "Mine", but i gave him one to use because of powerpoints, etc for teaching, and honestly...what's mine is mine, and what's his is mine and vice versa... we share when necessary, and he'll give me crap about calling it mine or whatever, but it's all the same.
2. Toothbrush - Gross, but I guess in a pinch. We've done this once...when we went out of town and I was NOT going out to the store to buy a new one without brushing my teeth

3. Remote - Not a problem.

4. Candy - hahaha this is funny....we share, but not necessarily willingly :-P

5. Netflix accounts - He pays for it, but it's in my name... we both put movies on there, and we both put movies and shows on the instant queue.... we normally switch off between who gets to pick the next movie...but we did have it where he picked a positively terrible movie twice in a row...and I picked the next like 3-4 as a "punishment" Lol... which isn't really that bad, since we have similar taste in most movies...with a few exceptions

6. Car - We both have our own, i paid for almost my entire car, but he helped me pay the last $4000, and he is still making payments on his...but he currently drives mine, and i drive his (i drive farther and his gets better gas mileage) ...so we don't say "mine or yours"... we named the cars... so now it's "I'm taking shelby, or I'm taking pebbles"

7. Cereal - We don't eat a whole lot of cereal (we both aren't fond of milk) and so this isn't a problem. We share a lot when we go out to eat, and isn't a real issue for us... he has gotten used to me stealing bites of his food or sips of his drink....and then me telling him "i just want a bite...cuz it tastes better off your plate lol"

ravenray · June 2011

1. ComputersNo. I don’t share computers well. I have had to share my laptop with him, let us just say it doesn’t go over well. I am possessive. But he has his own computer now and I have mine. We share sometimes.
2. ToothbrushEh. If I need too I will. I think that might gross him out but it doesn’t gross me out.
3. RemoteWe share this pretty well. We like similar things and care enough about each other to change if one person doesn’t like it then we change the channel.
4. CandyI don’t share food well. But I try to work on this
5. Netflix accountsWe Don’t have one
6. Car

We both have our own cars but either of us can drive the cars at anytime. We each have keys to each others car so no problem there.
7. Cereal

I don’t like cereal.

SKP82 · June 2011

1. Computers- We have 3 laptops in the house (mine, his, and my work computer). If one of our laptops quit, we would share the other. But, if I didn't have my work computer, I'm not sure if we would share or have separate laptops.

2. Toothbrush- Ew. Gross. No thank you!

3. Remote- I usually control the remote, but will share.

4. Candy- If I have a candy bar, I will give him half. So yes, we share candy. I like it because then I don't eat the whole thing!

5. Netflix accounts- We don't have a Netflix account, so if we decided to get one, it would be "ours" even though it would be in only one of our names and that person would be paying for it.

6. Car- We each have our own car and I like it like that. I wouldn't want to share a car because I would feel like it would make me dependant and I wouldn't want to coordinate schedules when either of us wanted to go somewhere.

7. Cereal-I purchase all the food in the house with the expectation that we share it. Some thing I buy specifically for BF and there are things I buy that I would be upset if BF ate all of it and I didn't get any. But, he usually doesn't do that and I tell him if there's something I want to be able to enjoy as well.

Other than that, I think it's kind of silly to think of things as "mine" or "his" (unless it's something like clothes that we wouldn't share ever). For example, most everything in the kitchen are things that I had purchased before we moved in together. The silverware I purchased when I lived on my own isn't "mine," it's "ours." Just like the furniture BF had before we moved in together is ours. We would make joint decisions to get rid of or change these things. It just seems a little nitpicky to try to define those things.

leia1979 · June 2011

We would never share computers. Borrow? Sure. One time I had to work on a 10,000 line Excel spreadsheet (I'm not exaggerating), and I needed FI's super-computer desktop to crunch it. Sometimes he'll use my MacBook to browse the internet if I'm not currently using it.

We don't have Netflix, but we do share my Amazon account for videos in the sense that we agree on the movie and I order it.

I didn't want to move into FI's apartment because it felt like it wouldn't be ours. Instead we moved to a new (larger) place when we moved in together. Yes, most of the furniture and such is his simply because I didn't have any. It bothered me a little at first but not really anymore. Though I still don't care for his heavy dishes.

I also agree about cars. We wouldn't want the same thing anyway. He only drives my car on occasion if I'm present (like on a road trip when we take turns).

tuarceatha · June 2011

I want to throw out that my list was somewhat random.

1. Computers- Not so random- this is what sparked this post.

2. Toothbrush- Random.

3. Remote- Sorta random...

4. Candy- I'm a candy addict. Living and loving a non-addict who can save candy until it expires has taught me how bad I am with candy. I try to always leave a good amount left for him to finish. Or I don't tell that I have it and eat it alone. ha

5. Netflix accounts- I'm fairly share-y with this so I wondered about you all.

6. Car- We have our own cars, and his is a stick which I can't drive so I NEVER borrow it.

7. Cereal- We each pick out our own boxes usually. He is really into cereal and consumes a box in 5 days. Whereas I'm all into the one I pick that day and then it just sits there getting stale after a few bowls. There are other foods that are sorta his/hers... So not random.

jorja86 · June 2011

1. Computers
We each have our own laptop, and probably always will, but I use his a lot, because it's so much faster than mine.
2. Toothbrush
Absolutely not. Seriously, not even in an emergency-I'd rather "brush" with my finger.
3. Remote
Yep, although sometime I have to say "absolutely not" to something.
4. Candy
Yeah, although he liked a lot of strange candy.
5. Netflix accounts
Yep, we only have one. I think having two would be a little ridiculous.
6. Car
No-we both drive to work in completely opposite directions. Plus, he drives a stick-shift, and I don't know how, so I've never even driven his car. The cars we drive now were the first big, completely independent purchase both of us made. I'm sure we'll purchase our cars together in the future, though.
7. Cereal
We share all of our food.

As far as moving in to an already established household-I'm lucky that BF bought his house right after we started dating, and he asked me to help decorate, etc, so now that I'm moving in, I feel like it's already part "mine".

desertsun · June 2011

I like this! I find it so interesting how different people are.

1. Computers
Um...my laptop is actually passworded so I'm the only one who can use it. I'm weird like that. Sometimes he'll come take it to show me something, but other than that, he uses his desktop and I use my laptop. We each bought our own computers with our own money.

2. Toothbrush
I don't think it's a big deal to share in a pinch. Of course it's preferable to have your own, but I don't think it's all that gross to use my H's once in a while. We make out. We have oral sex. What's a little plaque between spouses? Frankly, I'd rather have plaque than semen in my mouth.

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Too far?

3. Remote
I let him watch what he wants most of the time. I may exercise occasional veto power or make a preference known. I watch a lot of TV online, so it's not a big deal.

4. Candy
He always shares with me. I share with him if I have plenty to spare.

5. Netflix accounts
I have mine and he never uses it. Which might be a good thing. Sometimes I watch judgeworthy things like The City.

6. Car
He almost always drives regardless of whose car we're in. We usually take my car if we're driving somewhere together. He also takes my car for oil changes and such. I'm spoiled that way.

7. Cereal
Share when we have it, which isn't all that often. Plus, he's become kinda lactose intolerant, so he rarely eats it any more.

jemmini6 · June 2011

1. Computers
Considering we have 4 computers and an iPad in our house between the 2 of us, there's really no need to share. LOL. Although technically they are all 'his'. I sold my laptop I had in college and now mostly use the desktop he built for me.

2. Toothbrush
No, I've never used someone else's toothbrush

3. Remote
How do you even have your own remote?

4. Candy
I don't like candy, so that's not an issue

5. Netflix accounts
I don't know why you'd need 2 Netflix accounts either

6. Car
Nope, we both work different places, with different schedules, so sharing a car would never happen.

7. Cereal
We don't really like the same kind of cereal, so we get our own. If we did like the same kind though, I don't see why we'd each need our own box.

lunarsongbird · June 2011

1. Computers- Andrew plays too many video games and I knot way too much for us to share the same computer. He has a desktop and I have a laptop. I don't want to be tied to a desk.

2. Toothbrush- I'm surprised no one has mentioned super expensive fancy toothbrushes, in which you can change the heads. Andrew and I have talked about getting me a head to his toothbrush, be we keep forgetting.

3. Remote- So does remote really mean tv? If I really want to watch something- we watch it. Andrew watches what he wants after I go to sleep. However, I don't make him watch things like Teen Mom and Real World- he even hates the voices on that show.

4. Candy- A big bag? Sure. One thing of rolos that I bought for myself? Not so much.

5. Netflix accounts- Sure.

6. Car- Maybe if we lived in NYC or something....but nope. No sharing of the car.

7. Cereal- We don't each much cereal- but sure- we can share it.

tafft1 · June 2011

In my relationship , everything is my husband's - he just lets me use many things that are in the house - laptop he bought , tv , other computer , etc. We have a more 1950's household though - which is what I wanted my whole life anyway. The only thing that he lets me say is "mine" is my toothbrush because germs freak him out lol. Even though he buys things FOR me - they still belong to him - hes just very generous and lets me use all the fun stuff..most of the time

Peaseblossom55 · June 2011

1. Computers- I could not ever share a computer w/ BF. He works in computers, we would defintely each need our own
2. Toothbrush- ewww
3. Remote- we always share the remote, I don't see how we could each have our own remote.
4. Candy - he doesn't like candy, so yay it's mine :-)
5. Netflix accounts- we actually are going to be combining our accts
6. Car i defintely need a car of my own
7. Cereal- we always share food, we love cereal in bed on the weekends

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