I haven't posted much yet here, but I've had an account since this Summer when my boyfriend and I started seriously discussing marriage. It started as just talk but, a few serious conversations later we realized that marriage wasn't all that far off (in 2 and a half years I'll have to go to school 2 hours away for 4 years and his job will keep him here, we decided we wanted to be married for a year before that happens to be able to enjoy that first year together and not wait nearly 7 years for it to happen.)
Since that decision, the process to engagement has been a bit crazy. We started with him saying he wanted to propose by the end of the year, and us deciding to pick a ring together to get one I liked and that looked good on me. We decided once it was picked he would buy it and plan a surprise proposal. Once the ring was picked, being a naturally curious person, I asked him if he'd planned anything yet (I didn't want to know details, I was just curious to see his progress because he's a naturally indecisive person and isn't used to planning things, especially surprises.
After months of him going back and forth between telling me he was nervous and telling me he was excited and would buy the ring soon, he finally asked for my help planning. I always liked the idea of a proposal in a nice restaurant over dinner, so I told him that and made a list of local restaurants that looked good, later adding some other non-restaurant ideas in case he wanted to surprise me more.
As time went on, he finally made his plan and told me several days he wanted to go out on, the idea being to surprise me with which he would ask me with. Finally, this past weekend has left only two remaining dates left on his list, one of which had to be canceled due to an error in his planning.
This leaves me knowing 1. the ring (I only haven't seen it fitted, otherwise I know every other detail about it) 2. where he's asking, and for the most part how and 3. when he's asking within an hour of when it will be.
I love planning surprises but always hoped to have someone surprise me for a change, especially with a once in a lifetime event like a proposal. I'm still excited, but when it hit me tonight that one thing I always looked forward to as a surprise ended up being something I almost planned myself, I ended up in tears.
I'm not really sure the point to this post, just wanted to share with some people who might understand and see if anyone had any thoughts on it I suppose.