never had a wedding... can we have one now?

pzavecz · January 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_never-wedding-can-one-now?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:313f58be-3cc8-4ac6-b1f4-a74a09052b16Post:045fe9c2-446c-46cc-b43e-1dfbca0d857f">Re: never had a wedding... can we have one now?</a>:
[QUOTE]wow. I really didnt expect some of you to be so mean. Thank you for your opinions. And a HUGE thanks to everyone who had such kind comforting words. At this point, we may just do a 10 year anniversary party or something. Or nothing at all. I dont know that i want to spend the money on a vow renewal. Some of the comments sound alot like my family and I may plan an event that no one will show up for.... BTW the pastor had no idea that we didn't want to get married then or there. He still doesnt know. And he's a family friend.
Posted by breandcjsmom[/QUOTE]

<div>OP - Ignore the ones with rude, judgmental comments. Just brush it off and don't let it get to you. Most everyone on here gave some great advice what to do etiquette-wise so I would take their advice. I think you can have a wonderful 10 year vow renewal that people will show up for! Like we have said, call it a vow renewal and don't do the big "wedding-y" stuff and have a blast! Good luck! </div>

sharp0099 · January 2012

OP because it's almost your 10 year anniversary it makes sense to call it a vow renewal celebration. You're not doing a do-over since you never had the celebration aspect of a wedding. Your family and friends realize you've never had a party to celebrate your union so I'd expect most of them to attend. You can wear any dress including a wedding gown. Some people choose to never throw a big party to celebrate their love, which is their choice; but you also have the freedom to plan one big celebration. If you were my family or friend I'd be happy for you and definitely attend.

LMJ1885 · January 2012

YES ... you can!!! I highly disagree with what these women are saying. You didn't have a wedding, you were told to get married. Have you vow renewal wedding!!! You can have the big gown, wedding party, all of it. Yes you might have missed out on all of that stuff in the past, but you can still have your dream wedding. Make your day wonderful!!!

SN: My parents, didn't have a wedding, they went to the Justice of the Peace. They have been married almost 27 years. My mom, still wants her wedding w/ all the trimmings. She feels like she missed out. They want to do it soon and need too because if they don't my mom will try to turn my wedding into her wedding, lol.

Do what makes you and your husband happy!!!

LadySam32 · January 2012

So much for good advice. Some of you knotties are a little ridiculous and judgemental.

I say go for it. Everyone deserves their special day. I am planning my second wedding and I am sparing no expense. It's worth it and at the end of the day you and your hubby are the only ones that matter. The people who do support you and accept you for who you are will be there no matter what you're calling it.

daniellelea1985 · January 2012

So sorry for the circumstances surrounding your marriage!

A vow renewal sounds lovely, there is some good advice here but don't let some of the other posts upset you.
Have fun planning your celebration!

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